I knew when we first met that we didn’t have much in common, but you were more social, happy and liked trying new things. Here we are six years later with a kid (which you never interect with), still no ring, and spending every night gaming on your computer while I’m in my room feeling sad and wishing I was with someone else. Even my family thinks you are depressing and anti-social. I know you are a bit slow and lack social skills. We never have intellegent conversations (or any conversations anymore). All you want to do is sit in front of the computer ignoring all life around you. It breaks my heart!! I never expected any relationship to have the same spark it does in the beginning but I also didn’t expect to feel sad every day years later. I really wish I could just leave you! I’m tired of trying! —Sad
This article appears in Dec 20-26, 2012.
Then do it.
You need to deliver an ultimatum to this ‘dead from the arse up’ gameboy – BUT prepared to have plan B, meaning a place to go with a good support network of family and friends who can put you up for a while. Single motherhood is one of the hardest jobs you’ll ever have to do but many single mothers raise awesome kids – I’m married to one. His mom had to struggle to work 2 jobs but she managed to raise two terrific human ‘beans’.
The ultimatum should include future child support, him moving his shit out and taking the child each weekend. Let’s see how much he’s willing to commit then – if he says, see ya later, bitch, then you’ve just saved the next 15 or 20 more years of misery. But if he realizes his comfort zone is being threatened, he might try to work a little harder on your relationship. And remember not to scream. Just be cool, calm and collected.
Simone who cannot properly spell words like “interact” or “intelligent” is hardly in a position to criticize someone’s intelligence. Did this guy like to spend hours in front of a screen before you got together? If so you knew the score. Don’t be pissed because your plan to change him failed. If he’s a shitty boyfriend and father drop him and move on.
Who’s Simone?
Sounds like someone needs a WOW account. You will bond even more in the virtual world, and complete amazing quests together to further build your relationship. Also, get your child an account too, then everybody wins.
Foiled by autocorrect.
Only 6 years to figure it out. Now since you don’t like it, get out.
“I really wish I could just leave you!”
And why can’t you? I know a big change like this isn’t easy but life is too short to spend your days unhappy.
Leaving takes planning. So start planning, kid.
Sounds like she’s already a single mother TTFN. News flash, he won’t change OP. You threaten him with an ultimatum and he’ll try to change short term but will slip back to his old habits. Have you tried counselling? If so and no change, start thinking about a new life and how to get to that place step by step.
Why does he have to change? Seriously, join him in his interests and it will work out. Maybe he should give you an ultimatum. Why does the man always have to change? All people grow, maybe they don’t grow together, that’s no one’s fault. Sounds like the OB wants what she want’s, her other half wants what he wants, but there’s no talk of meeting in the middle?
What would be the best for your child and for you? Let that guide your actions.
This bitch could have been mine. It wasn’t written by me, but I feel like it was mine. I even read it to my dead head, and he called bs. He always says, “Dear, it just isn’t that bad. I only play when you’re not here.” Yes, and when I am here, sitting up in my room alone, and lonely, just like ob. This situation sucks so bad. It’s the lack of effort after being informed of my feelings that gets me most. It’s difficult not to internalize, and think there is something wrong with yourself. Thank goodness for power tools, although they are a temporary fix. An anti-grump, if u will.
Maybe the boyfriend/girlfriend is depressed because he/she ended up with a loser of a bf/gf and feels trapped with a kid.
Maybe they are depressed. If you really love them, and feel they’re just a good person with problems not a straight up jerk, you should encourage them to seek help.
A child benefits from having both parents in their life. If your relationship is salvageable all you have to do is make the first move.
Why you have kid wif loser? Why. Fuck.
http://www.quickmeme.com/meme/3329/
hey bitchers, i didn’t want to get back on here yet, but i have to. here’s why, a family of three, 2 adults, one 6 yr.old. girl. it has come to my attention in the last couple of days, that there is a family of 3, who live not far from my grand daughter, are having a very, very rough time just now. both mom and dad work, but only part time, and they are really fucking up against it.
most of what they earn, gos to rent, power and fuel. there is next to nothing for food or anything else. i have tried all the social organizations, but their cut off date was on the 15th. of this month. i have an ad on kijiji, trying to get some help for them. the little girl doesn’t have a lunch to take to school most of the time, my little one shares with her.
this is not a scam, nor is it for me, in any way. this is genuine, and it behooves me to see a little one without.i have some stuff that i am giving here, but would hope to get more for them. i’m giving them a 100 dollar gift card, and i hope to be able to get a few more for them. they are are a proud family and hate asking for help, my step daughter told me that last night. so, i’m thinking of a secret santa type thing.they don’t even have a computer, or money for the net, if they did. anyone wanting to help, please email me at gary_more@hotmail.com, and i will see that it gets to them, secretly on the 23rd. when i take my little one back home. thanks guys, and i hope you all have a good hoho day. forget about our past shit here, this is altogether different.
Get your own hobby OP. Your boyfriend shouldn’t be your hobby. He can watch the kids while he’s on the computer.
Or leave him
Anyways, other people aren’t supposed to make you happy.
Cool story, BLOW.
Ooh Ooh Ooh!give the dad Aquavelv a Blow baby. That way hell sm ell like a realman just like y0u baby.Keep the vindaloo for us though righ t baby ?
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thanks f.s., i will do what i can too. i hate seeing kids without anything from santa. the ad i have on kijiji, is in the events section, saying secret santa. and wogdog’, this is no joking matter.
noone said it was funny Blowbaby.how come your spelling goodn0w baby?
http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/cool-story-b…
Uh Blowb aby you should read this.
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why would you want a ring from this asshole? Take your kid and get out and move on with your life. There are places you can go for help in Halifax. Friends, family? If not then you can go see the Income Assistance office on Gottigen street and they can help you get sorted out. Never ever rely on some dip shit to provide for your child. Any mom should be able to do it alone and anything that actually comes from a dead beat dad should just be considered extra, never expect to get this money/support in order to fufill your daily lives.
From one single parent to another.
Hey, BLOW ME, have you had many responses for help yet? I responded to your kijiji ad last night but haven’t heard back from you. I was wondering if you still needed any donations…I don’t have a lot, but I want to help.
Where did my comment go??
kontee, if you did, i’m not sure i got it. sorry, things have been hectic here lately. you can try again, as i’m getting some stuff together today, and will be dropping it all off sunday at about 1 p.m. gary_more@hotmail.com , nice to know that there are some people with a bit of compassion for others at this time of year. and by the way, i had the grandmother’s permission to put that pic up. she just lives downstairs from me, i found that out the other day.
How convenient.
Poor little girl is friends with your granddaughter who lives down the street from her mom and OH HAY her grandmother conveniently (you just found out) lives below you who magically gave you permission to put a picture up of her granddaughter while explaining that her parents can’t afford to feed her three times a day. But that’s only after people called you out on crossing the line.
When will your lies stop, Gary?
Hi Honey, again the imposter is using my avatar to post stuff I didn’t write, using an ‘ after my name. But, I’m glad that you already saw through it all. Have you tried calling churches in your area for them? I know our church does a Lot to help people in need especially over the Christmas season. Just a thought. Good luck trying to help them out sweetie, you are the best! Pay no attention to the haters on here Gary, you know and I know, they can be brutal. I imagine Christmas does nothing for them at all.
yes kitty, again you make yourself out to be an idiot. guess what else i just found out. you are knocked up, and expecting in march or april. someone told me last night. but i didn’t believe it for one second, know why. cause no one but a farmer would fuck a pig, tag, you’re it.
Posting a love note to yourself. You’re committed to your gimmick, I’ll give you that.
PisP
Not really that strategic in the approach, though.
Wogdog always seems to post when Gary’s active. Note the lack of wogdog posts when gary had his little tantrum and stormed off? Now that he’s back OH HAY! guess who’s back too!?!!??
heh. ahhh.
Hey, BLOW ME, if you haven’t received my latest email, let me know on here, plz. I copied and pasted your address and hopefully it went through.
sigh.. op listen. You don’t WISH you could leave someone. You LEAVE someone.
It’s not rocket science. I’ve done it. You pack your shit and you walk out. Do it now before you’re too old and ugly to get a date.
seriously. You might not like what i have to say but somewhere deep inside, under the idealistic BS telling you this relationship will get better when it won’t, you know it’s true.
You can do better. Your KID can do better. Nobody needs a parent that doesn’t give a fuck and that’s what you’re giving your kid. This is the lesson your kid is getting on what a relationship is. THIS is the lesson you are providing this child.
Be a better parent and start over. I’m not condemning you but i’m telling you how it is.
Take it from one of those kids. Leave.
NOW.
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like someone who cannot spell “someone”?
You really think intelligence is based on literacy?
You’re too dumb to comment. Go away. I officially don’t like you.
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” eats_crayons (12/29, 10:10PM)
“You really think intelligence is based on literacy?”
: “literacy, n., ability to read and write”
: “intelligence, n. intellect, understanding”
: “understanding, n,. power of abstract thought; in verbal sense especially”
(The Concise Oxford Dictionary)
Clearly, eats_crayons does not believe that intelligence is based on literacy but, where intelligence involves understanding and where understanding involves the power of abstract thought, particularly in the verbal sense, it is not clear why she does not do so. Two concepts require clarification, that of literacy and that of intelligence.
If literacy implies the ability to read and write, what does that ability itself imply? To read, one assumes with comprehension, logically entails that in terms of which such comprehension is attained, i.e., intelligence. So it appears obvious that literacy and intelligence are intimately connected. The same is true with writing. What, after all, is writing? Whether imaginative or analytical, writing presupposes the existence of thought. Indeed, some say that writing is nothing other than crystallized thought and thought, in similar fashion, is intimately connected with intelligence. So what’s the next step?
But eats_crayons may be a logician. She may be questioning the proper sequence of intelligence and literacy, that there exists a logical causal relationship between one and the other. In other words, rather than intelligence being based on literacy, she might be suggesting either that intelligence presupposes the prior possession of literacy but the latter has no causal efficacy in bringing intelligence about. Or, alternatively, she might be suggesting that intelligence is based on something else altogether, that in fact it is unrelated to literacy. But difficulties might be seen to arise in either case.
If intelligence presupposes the prior possession of literacy then it falls to eats_crayons to give some account of its derivation. Where did it come from? If eats_crayons wants to advance a wholly genetic account of intelligence she must supply some content to that concept. If she can do this she will be the first to do so since even cognitive psychology has never been able to account for the “intelligence gene.” Intelligence, according to the psychologists, is either denoted simply as the letter “g” or, alternatively, that as which intelligence measures which, of course, doesn’t take us very far does it.
Similarly, if eats_crayons maintains that intelligence is based neither on the “intelligent gene” nor on literacy she must give some account of its derivation. Where did it come from? What eats_crayons must do, in other words, is to give some account of the concept of intelligence apart apart from its embodiment in literacy. I trust eats_crayons will proceed to do so now.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
CORRECTION
“… as that which intelligence tests measure”
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!