As you paid for your beers, you told me that you tipped me 18 percent because I looked 18 years old, and proceeded to discuss with your pal whether or not that sort of line worked. Here are some thoughts I have that I wish I could have shared with you in the moment beyond “that’s super gross”:
1. I didn’t serve you at all last night. I took your payment because the bartender was busy pouring drinks. You were tipping for their thoughtful service, not mine.
2. Loudly stating your tip percentage is a sucky thing to do.
3. Comparing what you think my age could be to a suitable tip is super messed up. and, to inform you, I am 30 years old, and if we are to live by your lack of logic, the tip should have been 30 percent.
4. Trying to tie in what you think might be a compliment (it’s not, it’s yucky) with financial control made me feel very uncomfortable at my safe space at work. Also, I was working. As in providing a service so
that I can finance my needs. I don’t know what you do for work, but I’m certain you wouldn’t be jazzed to be belittled by a stranger mid-day.
5. Chatting over my appearance with your bud while I am literally standing one foot away from you as if I am not even there made me feel small.
If you know who you are, if you can remember, I’d like you to
know that you’re still welcome to visit the establishment. However, I’d like you to visit knowing that your commentary had a detrimental effect on my night, and I’d like you to not speak that way to me (or any of my warm, wonderful fellow service workers) again. Learn from being shitty, please. Please do better. –Tired, Tired, Tired
This article appears in Dec 21, 2017 – Jan 3, 2018.
So you served beer to a probably intoxicated person who said something you didn’t like.
I’m not a farmer because I don’t want to shovel shit. It’s great to have choices.
“Generic comment that I, but no one else, thinks is witty and/or intelligent. On every, single post”
Being drunk doesn’t excuse your from acting like a douche. Announcing your tip amount is pretty tacky and trying to figure out if your waitress is 18 is creepy AF and quadruples in magnitudes of grime every year that passes after you, yourself, are 18.
Women can’t even be guaranteed safety getting home from work in this city — sad truth, guys — can they at least do their jobs in peace please?
You work at a bar & expect it’s a “safe space”??.. you’re delusional
Why didn’t you say that to the guy? Cause you wanted the 18%? Come on.
Btw, for the record.. I think the way he acted was totally shitty, stupid & gross..,
…I’m just not sure what this phenomenon of “safe spaces” is.. are they invisible invisibility bubbles or something?
In most places employees aren’t really permitted to give disgusting customers a moment of truth. It does not matter where you work, there is no situation where that kind of harassment is acceptable. Some of the comments suggest that she should just accept the behaviour as part of her job and endure it. That’s ridiculous and probably not far off from the attitude from certain men in Hollywood. The way the guy behaved might have been from too much alcohol and maybe sober he’s not such an asshole. Being drunk could explain his behaviour but it doesn’t mean it’s acceptable or okay.
She didn’t say that to the guy because she probably needs her job and didn’t want to get fired. Furthermore, it wasn’t her tip, she was taking payment because her colleague who had served them was was busy.
Surprise, surprise! Most comments suggesting she should be fine with harassment because of her job are probably from males. The easy dismissal of her concerns and the attitude that she should not only expect the behaviour described but accept it is disgusting.
I don’t think anybody is suggesting it’s “ok” or “acceptable” (you may interpret it that way but that may not be reality, may be naive.. be careful Wordsmith..)
I think one person was suggesting she outta not be surprised by the actions of the drunk man because her “safe bubble” isn’t real.. it’s in her head (like your simplistic interpretations of others words)
#weakpremise + no evidence = #weakconclusion
You’re welcome
Invisible *invincibility bubbles or something??