I don’t think you know this, but I like you. My heart skips a beat whenever you are near. You are everything I have ever wanted and even though you are this close, you could not feel farther away. I wish you would give me some sort of sign because I don’t have the guts to tell you how I feel. —Dizzy with Anticipation
This article appears in Feb 17-23, 2011.
This could be anyone OP!!!….there’s no details at all….why did you post this in the Coast if you’re not going to give the person you’re talking about the tiniest little clue. You’re just going to have to grow a pair and ask the person out for coffee…or something that you can play off as “just friends” in case they don’t. Good luck.
LOL, then you end up with the “was this a date?” question in the back of your head which is just awkward to ask — probably more awkward than the actual admission of feelings, RC. Haha. So OP ends up more fucked up with thoughts of “does he/she like me or not?” whilst analyzing their every little interaction they have with them.
Maybe, OP assumes they know the answer already and can’t talk to this person because they assume they’ll be rejected? I suppose I can see where they’re coming from because I’ve been there, but…why not wait it out and see how things go? As NGF always tells me “assumptions are dumb.” lol
Also: I *think* I know who wrote this….but I’m keeping mum! *nods head*
How on earth would you know who wrote this? It’s so general? Also I guess you’re right on the coffee thing. I just don’t understand how you can have “no idea at all” if someone is interested or not. And waiting it out? …just seems like a waste ….but if it’s gonna happen it will happen so whatever! I’m glad I’m not part of the dating pool anymore!
The handle tipped me off — “dizzy with anticipation” is something someone said to me a while back and sounds like the general situation this person is encountering. I could be wrong though 😛
I think the thing *is*, people send out mixed signals all the time. You get that “vibe,” but other things tip you off and make you question things. And some of us really are that dumb when it comes to noticing/figuring out with someone likes us 😛
LOL and some of us like to hold out hope when there clearly is none and all the signs are there that they’re just not that into you.
Love is a fucked up game, my friends. *shakes head*
it’s not love kitty…
lust is a fucked up game.
What? You don’t believe in love at first sight?
hahaha.
That’s ok, me neither!
I say step up and take a swing batter! Don’t go through life wondering what may have been. Allow me to let you in on a bit of trivia……
Let’s go back to 1923. Major League Baseball. Do you know who led the league in home runs that year? A certain New York Yankee, Babe Ruth hit 41 homers that year… not too shabby. Now, can you tell me who led the majors in Strikeouts that year? The very same Babe Ruth…..
What is the significance of these facts? Why, they are also the moral of the story. Even if you go down swinging… you are nonetheless swinging to crack one out of the park. If you keep on swinging to crack one out of the park, you are bound to do it more and more.
Ask said person to do something and if you feel comfortable with them, say something! You may strikeout, but even if you only hit a single, well hey…. nothing wrong with getting to first base!! 😉
not to mention no-one remembers who holds the record for the most bunts….
Wanna know what’s SUPER dumb? NGF won’t introduce me to his hot friend, yet talks about him all the time (knowing I think he’s adorable). I’ve had a crush on this guy for two fucking years since I met him for about 5 minutes when he randomly bumped into him (not like, “I want to marry you” crush, more like “ooh he’s cute, I wouldn’t mind getting to know him” kinda crush), but the bugger (NGF) won’t do me a solid and just invite him to lunch/supper with us to formally introduce me when we go out. And all he does is tell me about how great this guy is. I met this guy once. He’s a cutie and super smart…but it’s not like I can randomly FB him or whatever and be all “yeah, I’m NGF’s BFF and I think you’re cute, wanna go out for coffee sometime?” because then I come off as a creepy stalker-type.
NGF’s response when I call him out on it? “You don’t know WHAT you want.”
/rant for the day.
Fucker.
Great analogy My Jonno!!! Love the Babe!…well actually the BF does and he’s rubbing off on me.
Great advice Sir! Great advice!
And Z and PK…Love isn`t a game…
We are young, heartache to heartache we stand
No promises, no demands love is a battlefield
That’s just rude. But hey, might as well take jonno’s advice, PK, start swinging! Ask, ask, ask!
I 100% agree with NFG not hooking the 2 of you up! Sorry PK…but no one wants to get in the middle of 2 of their very good friends. My BF best friend is a chick and a few people have mentioned I should hook her up with my brother and I`ve always responded over my dead body!. I don`t want to be in the middle or responsible for any heart break.
Pfft HE doesn’t care about THAT — he’s just being a big meanie head — when I suggested it like last week his response was “I don’t care about your stupid love life” after the “you don’t know WHAT you want.”
It’s a good thing I love that Fat Bastard.
http://xkcd.com/601/
Well if he’s just being a douch then let it go and hope you someday run into each other. When’s NFG birthday – throw him a party….invite the guy you like.
He’s always being a douche to me 🙁 Last night he told me I “fucking suck” because I deleted his FB comment about me having an affair with Grimace and getting accidently knocked up with his little grimace babies and having to have a shotgun wedding at mcdonalds with ronald mcdonald officiating.
*shakes head* such abuse I put up with from that guy. *sigh*
Also: RC — tried that route last year and NGF was all up for it….but it didn’t work out. And now he’s being a prick about it so we’ll see what happens.
Aww that sucks PK. I would have found it quite humorous about the grimace baby thing though.
But he ruined my status about my dream Mcdonalds wedding!
I plan on being 9.5 months pregnant (shotgun wedding, of course) and huge so the only thing that’ll fit me is a grimace costume. My bridesmaids are going to be dressed as fry girls and ronald mcdonald is going to officiate. I even have the location mapped out — the three level mcdonalds on University in TO. hahaha.
THIS IS HOW BORED I WAS AT WORK YESTERDAY. GOD.
watch for that bloody hamburgler…
might want to have officer Big Mac on hand to keep it on the level.
I thought fatso wasn’t in HRM anymore … ?
and you seem to be crushing on a lot of people there PK…
I’m inclined to believe that sumo wannabe.
He isn’t in HRM anymore — but we talk every day and he comes to halifornia every so often for FOOD dates and such. As much of a bastard he is, I love him with all my heart!
And they’re just silly little crushes, zed! I only have one serious crush. Sheesh!
Also: I fit into a skirt I haven’t in a year and a half so I ain’t no sumo [anymore]! -15 thus far kthx.
OK I MIS READ YOUR COMMENT, Zed.
I do know what I want, thanks very much 😉
just go for it! I’m sure he’ll say yes… he looks like he’s interested…
http://i1.trekearth.com/photos/18186/jolly…
I think he called NFG a summo wannabee not you PK.
yeah, I mis read that, RC 🙂
NGF probably COULD pass for a sumo atm. He’s one fat bastard. We went out for lunch once and he had to rest his fat on the arm rests on the chair! And when he stood up the chair stuck to his butt!!!
Also: stop posting pictures of LS, zed!!!
heh heh….
I didn’t know Fat had a boat….
the SS Fat Guy
http://www.paultrader.com/images/fat_guy_o…
AHAHAHAHAHA.
That just made my otherwise stale and mundane day a whole lot better, zed. Thanks for that! *hugs*
hahaha “ss fat guy”….lollz.
That should TOTALLY be NGF’s new av, right there. That’s how I picture him, anyway…
I still picture him as ‘silent Bob”….only mean.
NGF is actually quite handsome. Natural tan, great hair…kinda has a life preserver neck, though, and is about as fat as the goodyear blimp, but still, nice bones. 🙂
Don’t say I never said anything nice about you, ya fat bastard!
Fat bastards not fat at all. I bet he’s as skinny as can be. He’s doing the same thing as me (I’m really a man).
hey… I didn’t know they had a REAL CHICK action figure?!?!?!?!?
WICKED
http://www.figurerealm.com/Customs/18500/1…
AHAHAHAHA fat bastard…skinny…….AHAHAHAHAHA.
No.
OMG, I’m liking that action figure. That’s totally you, RC! Man, or not, it’s how I”m going to picture you from now on. ha ha ha. Good find z3.
Heehee, I’ve confirmed the OP of this bitch. ^_^
wait no, this love.
jesus.
hmmmm….. please don’t tell me Sebastard has finally seen me for the Canadian McSteamy I really am…… Looks like I’ll be taking a bit of a holiday from the Coast *gulp*
Hahaha, no, I can assure you it’s NOT sebastard, jonno 😛
Canadian McSteamy?
HAHAHAHA. I *heart* you.
That’s exactly what I look like…I pregnant man with a black wig and a wonder woman costume. The only thing missing is my stash.
because this love is so vague I’m just going to assume its about me.
🙂
Maybe NGF just doesn’t want to share you, PK.
aha, that’s it…nice old post revisited miss kimmy
Yeah, I had to give credit where credit was due. I appreciated the effort that must have gone into Tim’s article, and I wanted to congratulate Blair for hanging there. But the comment area was closed…
= p
OP here. I have been lurking LTWWB/LTWWL for a while but have never posted. Thank you for the comments everyone. The problem here is that we have gone out a couple times with a couple times him asking and a couple times me asking but, like Pretty Kitty mentioned, I can’t tell if he saw them as dates or just friends hanging out. That is my dilema. We flirt all the time, but I just can’t tell if he’s just joking around or serious. And I am afraid if I say anything I’ll look like some random clingy girl who took things to seriously. I decided a while ago that if he is interested he can make the first move, but all this waiting is driving me bonkers. So there you have it everyone. The real story here. 🙁
Well. This sounds familiar ^^^ heehee
wait: 🙁
Aaawww OP…I want to give you a hug. I have no good advice to give you unfortunately. If you really want to know then take the plunge and see if he wants to go on a date…and go in for the kiss maybe?? either way when your hearts involved pain usually hits at some point…so maybe it’s easier to get it out of the way at the start.
Disclaimer: I’m on a hormonal rollercoaster so please don’t take any advice I give without a second opinion.
That’s great advice, RC. Though, I don’t know if I’d choose the “go in for a kiss” over just saying how you feel.
I know the OP personally, and she and I share a lot of things in common and we’ve talked about this and I know how sad it’s making her. It’s just all these mixed signs guys keep sending us. There’s logic saying one thing, then our hearts/guts saying something else. And I’ve said it before: you’re just going to have to rip that shit off like a bandaid. You can’t help how you feel and attraction is something you can feel when you meet a person and once you get to know them…wow — it can skyrocket….so how would you be “some random clingy girl” by simply saying “I have feelings for you?”…everyone is deserving of their feelings and no matter what’s happened in the past, how crazy we’ve been made to feel about said feelings, you deserve to be loved too, especially because you’re an awesome person, and I’ve told you this!
Sometimes, though, it’s easy to say/hear these things, but not so easy to believe them. I’m not much of an example — I couldn’t tell a guy I have feelings for him if my life depended on it 😛
Anyway, FB chat me anytime you need to talk, dizzzy 🙂
PS, jonno: yes, OP is hot 😛
I have to say….don’t talk about your feelings OP! As bad as it sounds it’s scary for a guy to hear the word feelings…..in his mind he’s hearing “How do you feel about me? Where is this going? I want a commitment? blah blah blah…..First step…see if there’s a mutual physical attraction….without going past first base…then leave the ball in his court to pursue you.
Woah, slow down ladies. PK- even if it appears guys may send mixed feelings, in reality we are just as unsure as you ladies are! Perhaps, maybe even more insecure. “If” I were currently in this situation (which I am surely NOT) I would likely second guess myself (which I most certainly DON’T) non-stop as to whether or not I should just keeping on treating things like a friendship or just go ahead and mention something about my feelings. Sure, there may be flirtation but I think that is something of a fishing line we put out to test the waters and see if there is replication. But EVEN THEN we cannot be sure that any similar motions returned are genuine or simply innocent platonic flirting. Of course, this is only the case in situations whereby the attraction goes much deeper than the physical sense. The more there is at risk in the current relationship, the more cautious we are and, seemingly, the more “mixed signals” we send out.
RC- I see nothing wrong with the OP saying something about her feelings. And I am unsure what you mean by “see if there’s a mutual physical attraction”… are you suggesting dizzzy just come out and ask if he thinks she’s hot?
Picture this…. dizzzy continues the friendship as it is… each day going crazy because she wants it to be more than that. A few months down the road he gets a girlfriend and then her chance is gone. Years later she finds out that had she only mentioned anything he would have surely admitted his attraction, forever rewriting history….. I’ve been there… it sucks.
So… MY suggestion to you dizzzy? If this guy seems to be even remotely interested in you, take the plunge. Just think beforehand- if the interest is NOT mutual, can you still go on being friends? If so, go for it!
Or maybe dizzzy needs to read “he’s just not that into you.” (I’ll even lend you my copy! and yes, i ahve that book — it was an xmas gift, so suck it all you haterz) If none of the proposed situations apply THEN she should say something! haha I mean, they’re pretty obvious. haha.
I just don’t understand why people aren’t more direct with each other. It would save a whole lot of trouble for everyone involved. Whenever I’ve been in this situation in the past it would’ve been nice to just be told either way. But of course, humans can’t do that and we’re scared shitless of each other because there’s no hurt like the hurt of rejection. It really does a number on your pride.
And — flirting is a fishing line? Interesting concept. Now I feel bad because of all those times guy friends have flirted with me and I just threw it back as platonic silly fun 🙁
So thanks for that!
Whaddya know, we’re actually somewhat helpful for once. 😛
I guess my advice was coming from not knowing the guy she’s talking about. Is he a nice guy who seems to be more of an adult then some men I know? Is he mature enough to talk about feeling and not get squirmy….or is up for a challenge? Does he go on a lot of first dates that lead to one night stands?
If there’s the physical attraction that usually can lead to deeper attraction and the erge to want to get to know you better (not in the bedroom).
Jonno – please take this as a compliment: You are a very nice guy! You are not the normal of most men that I know. In my mind you have the “nice guys finish last thing” written all over you. Some lucky girl is going to get you for a wonderful husband some day. But that woman will date a lot of assholes in their lifetime before they will truly appreciate just how amazing a person you are.
jonno… any particular reason you added that extra z every time you mention op?
HMMMMM….
also, I’d be inclined to believe jonno in this matter…
he’s definitely had experience .. both directly and indirectly.
that’s not surprising, he does have those boffo eyebrows^^
Thank you for your comments, again everyone. I actually decided to take the plunge and ask the guy out on an actual date. I just called him instead of sending a text and unfortunately he isn’t interested in me like that. At least now I know 🙁
zZz jonnoman was putting the extra z in there because someone else already had dizzy as a screen name and I had to add an extra z in there. I don’t think it had anything to do with you.
Awww sweetie 🙁 I’m sorry 🙁
Look at it this way: at least now you know (like you said), so the uncertainty won’t be driving you crazy. I know I haven’t really been interested in anyone in a while, but I still remember how it feels to put yourself out there and get shot down. It sucks and is embarrassing, but I’ve always gotten over it and you will too 🙂 Until then, develop little crushes on cute bus drivers or random friends of friends. That’s always fun 🙂
Thanks Pretty Kitty 🙂
Shitty Dizzzy. Sorry to hear. If you don’t want read PK book – read Steve Harvey’s “Act like a lady think like a man” It’s really funny and easy to read – and makes you feel good, because it takes the “it’s not you it’s him approach”.
Hey RC…. I had to laugh when I read your “compliment”… I have kind of always had the nice guy approach but believe me, I have also been known to be an asshole. I appreciate your sentiments into wishing a wonderful wife upon me someday but, to be honest, I have been there and done that. It shall not be happening again at any point in this lifetime 🙂
Dizzzy…. I am sorry to hear about the outcome of your decision. I only hope that you are able to look at it in the sense that now you know the reality of the situation and can (hopefully) work on being friends and having fun together. Plus, it’s easier to get over crushes like that when you have absolution. Before you know it someone else will appear to be attractive and you can begin the whole process all over again!
I don’t believe it should be something to be embarrassed over though, PK. The way I see it, all you have done is told someone how special you think they are. If they are mature enough to respond in a responsible manner without “shooting you down”, at the very least you can come away from it knowing that you are able to express your true feelings and go after the things you want. Sometimes we obtain them, sometimes we don’t.
that’s too bad miss dizzzzzy, at least you tried
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Well, in *my* experiences, no matter how nice the let down was (and none of them have really been “shoot downs” I just use that term for a lack of a better one — I’m a bit rough around the edges today heh), I’ve always felt like kind of a huge tool. It’s hard putting yourself out there. Even when there isn’t a rejection at the end of it. I’ve always gotten over it, though so it’s all good. It’s just the initial expression of vulnerability that’s the hardest because it’s tough for some of us to put ourselves out there.
I know dizzzy though, and I know she’ll be fine. 🙂
Jonno…how can you say you’ll never do it all again?? the wife and all that good stuff. Next time it may be the right one. I think we all need “starter” husbands and wives…lol. If I gave up after round one I wouldn’t be sitting here painfully at my desk while the gi-gantor baby does flips off my organs 🙂
hmmm., what are the odds of anyone’s ‘next’ time being the right one?
are you willing to bet half of everything you own against the divorce rate of … well it’s less than 50%…. ?
I’m also inclined to believe him.
Ahh the old division of marital assets. Certainly one reason to avoid marriage, like, ever, not just a “second” time. heh.
Though, iirc: property brought into the marriage isn’t counted as marital assets, right? Inheritances aren’t considered marital assets either, apparently.
I can’t promise anything. Jonno is right…and Z you too with your pessimistic outlook. It’s the truth…no 2 people are compatible…there’s no reason to get married and put yourself through all that misery. People will just let you down in the long run and love will fade along with looks and romance. The truth is that people should spend all the time their wasting on finding a soul mate on themselves – to become the best “you” you can be. Cause that’s who you’re stuck with forever – might as well like yourself.
they’re
🙂
(I know I’m poking the bear…)
I’m just being pessimistic for pessimism’s sake.
I’m sure there are people who are completely compatible…
I just don’t think there is that compatibility for every single person on the planet.
I would show you with the back of my f’n hand what I think of your grammar corrections if I were in reaching distance.
There was no problem with the division of marital assets. As far as I was concerned…. our daughter is with her- she can have whatever she wants/needs and I can rebuild my own life. It’s all about my daughters at this point in my life. Girls first- jonnoman second. If they are happy and we have a great relationship than that’s enough love for me in this life.
Sure, I may change my mind should I happen to meet the “right one”… but I am not going to actively seek it. I have no problem going out and having fun with people- we all need that every now and then, but if I were to die tomorrow I’d be supremely content in knowing I brought some amazing little girls into this world and now they’re set up to become great women.
PK- you’ll get there one day. As it is right now if I were in a positions to reveal my true feelings to someone I felt them for, I’d feel better about myself no matter what the result. If said person returned the feelings, well then FUCKING EH….. there’d be some pretty special times ahead. If said person admitted they didn’t feel the same, I’d simply say, “well, it is something I needed to get out into the open and I am glad you were honest…. now let’s continue being friends, because that is what is now important.” Rather than feel like a fool, I’d just feel like someone who went after what he wanted and knows he has the confidence to do it again if the opportunity arises.
That said….. have an awesome weekend everyone. I am going to see a lion, some snakes and an alligator (among other species…….) this weekend with one of my precious little ones. Can’t wait!
heh heh… 🙂
http://cats.moreawesomethanyou.com/edumact…
I’m off.
grammar police signing out.
*shakes head* you’re so mean to poor RC, zed 🙁
jonno — it would probably bug me if I was actively looking, but I’m not really so while my “shyness” in expressing my feelings to the opposite sex is a thorn in my side, it’s not top of mind most of the time ;). I believe I mentioned to you how 2011’s about me so aside from having a little fun, maybe, I’m perfectly ok with being on my own for the forseeable future. I really just don’t feel like expending that kind of emotional energy at this point, truth be told. I’d much rather spend time with friends at this point than a significant other, to be honest and perhaps make some new ones this year now that I’m done with the whole school thing and into the work routine because it’s always nice to wind down after work/weekends with some great friends 🙂
Hope you have fun with your little one!
i do hope to see some of you at the doggie expo, it’s only a toonie, kids under 12 are free. that means zZz gets in for nothing…kidding^^ http://attachments.techguy.org/attachments…