Have you ever met someone that, despite their politeness and their smile, is obviously condescending? There is a girl that I work with who is like that. I could never call her rude, in fact she is “nice”, but I get this vibe that she thinks that just because my title has the word assistant in it, I must be an inferior person.
Listen, chick, you are a very intelligent person who will go far in life, but SO will I. Just because I haven’t found the dream job yet doesn’t mean you are better than me. Stop treating me like I was hired to serve your needs, respect my workspace, schedule times to meet instead of assuming that I can accomodate your requests at any time, and learn to treat people like they are equals, not inferiors.
—I’ll be your boss some day, wait and see
This article appears in Feb 26 – Mar 4, 2009.
Um yes, the guy that works at the bookstore on Barrington – no matter what you ask him he will give you a “what the hell language are you speaking?” look, followed by a solid ‘eye-roll’ , and a disgusted ‘head-shake’, before finally, and grudgingly, checking that computer of his.
Don’t give her any credit for being intelligent- people who have this type of attitude are missing something integral when it comes to emotional intelligence, and if she had enough intellectual intelligence, she would know that the first type is just as important as the second. I hate phonies like this. When someone greets me with this type of attitude- if it’s pronounced enough, I usually respond by mimicking their exact tone with my reply, only I put some extra yuck by cocking my head to the side while batting my eyelashes- this way they see my sarcasm and are thus put in their place.
If you want to take this woman’s job, then you’d better learn how to express yourself better. If this person is condescending, then it should be diplomatically drawn to their attention. They might not even be aware of what they are doing.
I think this is common for women in professional management roles. Thank all the men and their glass ceilings since women adapt ruthless behavior to play and win at the game men call business… all in the name of equality.
Kay,
on behalf of all men,
you’re very welcome.
I’m curious… you say men call it “business”…. what do women call it?
Kay,
Next time, please rush to open and hold the door for me. Also, if you’re ever out on a date, pay for all expenses.
It takes a man & a woman to create a baby. Yet, the majority of the time, the woman gets custody of the child, the man pays child support, yet he does not get equal time with the child.
Yes, all in the name of equality.
Food for thought… Can you name ten women in your social circle who have men who provide for them and not the other way around? I’ll bet you can’t.
As for “the game men call business” women call it working for a living or doing what’s required to raise children, not a big power play on the peons below or a competition with the Jones’. I don’t mean to stereo-type all men but you fuckers created “economy,” “capitalism” and created all the “game rules” before we were allowed in the game. We women simply make it work in our favor because we MUST adapt. Just don’t be surprised if you see more and more women exuding masculine traits adapting well to the “game” such as the boss the woman the OP mentioned.
I can’t remember the last time a man who was not my husband showed any chivalry… a very feminine quality, onlythetruth. It’s kinda like what a bird does before he gets laid (show his best behavior)
Kay, you can’t possibly believe half the stuff you post.
and I’m not surprised people don’t show chivalry to you… not at all.
hmmm, let`s see how this could happen? Do you teach chivalry to your child or do you prefer to teach equality? hmmm, I guess the world has changed.
And zZz, let’s not confuse chivalry with men falling all over themselves when they see me coming.
Kay,
Please address the issue of fathers’ rights and the lack of equality there. Refer to:
http://www.fact.on.ca/
http://www.f4jusa.com/
for further details.
onlythetruth, I’ve been affected by “dead-beat Dads” my whole life. I managed to raise a healthy happy boy on my own who happens to have deep respect for women, kittens and the less fortunate. That said, I was careful to introduce healthy male role models along the way.
I’ve seen women out there thinking it their right and prerogative to disassociate their children from their fathers over their own failing relationship, an embracing of stereo-types and far from what’s in the best interests of the child (which, of course, is balance between mom and dad’s child rearing). It’s a crime in my mind but I’m afraid there have been so many dads before you abandoning their responsibilities that a stereo-type has formed. There is no such stereo-type against women but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Justice, indeed, is NOT blind and is certainly subject to stereo types. You’ve got your work cut out for you.
Why not tell us about the issue and it’s challenges in a new thread? We love the way you bitch.
She isn’t better you and she knows it which is why she treats you that way. When you are on top – and I agree, you will be – be sure to remember this treatment. You are already a better person by the sounds of it.
i hate people like that.