I was turning the big 3-0 and was kind of depressed about it (wanted to stay in my 20s forever). You all promised you’d make it special to make me feel better. I didn’t want any huge event, I just wanted my friends there to hang out and drink with me. My birthday was on a Friday and I notified you guys the previous Monday of what we’ll do. All four of you agreed. “See you Friday” you basically said.
Thursday morning rolls around and already one friend bails on me. Thursday night, bailing friend #2 tells me something about leaving a day earlier than she though for a vacation with her boyfriend. Not fucking impressed!
The morning of my birthday, the two remaining friends notified me they were still coming, but one worried that she wasn’t feeling good. At around 8 that night, I don’t hear from either one. So I messaged them. Friend #3 says she’s feeling so sick she might throw up and can’t make it.
Friend #4 never messaged me back all night! This made me worried that something happened to her, but the next day I found out she just went downtown with someone else! Apparently she lost her phone and “forgot” it was my birthday! That one I call bullshit on!
You ladies are incredible douchettes (especially you, #4!!)!! I spent the entire night, drinking by myself, waiting/hoping for at least one of you to show up after all! Thank you so fucking much!
On each of your birthdays I was there to celebrate with you. So where the fuck were you guys on my birthday? Not with me, that’s for fucking sure! —Tired of shitty friends
This article appears in Nov 11-17, 2010.
Another person who doesn’t know the difference between friends & acquaintances ! ! !
You are another year older…& perhaps now wiser.
Well maybe not wiser, but you now know the difference between the two !
That sucks big time. Sounds like you need to do some friend-cleaning and toss a few of them to the curb.
that is very dis-heartening…cheer up you’re not very old. there are many friends available
It’s just another fucking day. Wow now you’re 30, so what’s different from yesterday when you were 29. I’ll tell you – NOTHING.
When you hit fifty, you just shrug and go: Meh.
just wait until you’re around some people who really care about you and celebrate then!
Just be happy that 30 brings a maturity (to most people) where you care less about what people think of you, you start doing more of the things YOU love as opposed to what other people want you to and you surround yourself with people you actually want to spend time with instead of people you hang around with out of habit.
That’s been my experience anyway and I loved turning 30. Hoping 40 will be even better.
Your ideal 30th birthday celebration consists of drinking with pseudo-friends? Are you sure you turned 30 and not 16?
Happy Birthday kid 🙂
It’s Monday, I’ll buy you a Birthday pomegranate tini, if it’ll make you feel beter.
I don’t even remember what happened when I turned 30, and it wasn’t all that long ago.
From the OP’s post, it is impossible to judge what the whole story was with the ladies bailing on her, but it is quite possible (I think) that they were afraid you were going to spend the night crying about being oh so old and didn’t feel like being subjected to your pity party.
By the time you turn 35, you should fully realize that sometimes people don’t think of you as much as you think of them. Don’t take it personally. Just find and stick to the ones that really care about you.
The same thing happened to me this year, also for my 30th bday. It sucked at the time, but not much I can do about it now.
Happy belated birthday! Welcome to the dirty-30 club!
I wouldn’t give 3/4 of your friends that much shit… I don’t know #1’s situation but I’m guessing that they had reasons. But #2 had a legitimate excuse and #3 was sick. It’s the dickhead that’s #4 that forgot your b-day that sucks ass.
Happy belated birthday!
That sucks OP. Lesson learned: you now know who your true friends are.
You’re fucking 30 now. Grow up and get over it. A birthday doesn’t mean shit in the long run.
Shit!! Those don’t sound like very good friends.
I say fuck ’em. Find some new friends.
I’m with Bro-tim. I can’t even remember the last time I celebrated my birthday, apart from my mom having me over for supper and making me some cake lol.
That sucks OP. Sorry you had a shitty birthday.
Sorry, OB. You got hosed.
I spent my birthday alone last week. I know it blows, but they showed you who they are. Find real friends, have a Take2 Do-over.
Happy birthday!
Maybe this will cheer you up
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ryjpbd4D4bg…
That high kick is just magnificent, if I do say so myself.
You said that on each of your friends’ birthdays that you were there to celebrate with them. Don’t take this the wrong way, and it’s not like *we* need an answer to this, but what do you mean by “celebrate”? Hang out and drink? Just like you proposed to these four people that you’d all do for your thirtieth? And if that’s the case, that “celebrate” to you means “drink”, maybe it’s the case that not all of these 4 folks are quite as enthused by that as you are. Just a thought.
Even if that’s not a factor, just because you were “there” to celebrate their birthdays implies no obligation on their part, and you can’t reasonably expect any. Did all four of these people *implore* you to be with them on their birthdays, or did you expend some energy in making that happen?
To me having all four people beg off because none of them are actually friends sounds possible but unlikely. #2 sounds like they had a decent reason – some people did have Thursday off, you know, and therefore took Friday off too. As for the other three, I wouldn’t be quick to assume that you really know for sure what happened.
If there’s one of the four who you really still think is a solid buddy, and you don’t work with them, pick a time when you’re with them, and non-confrontationally ask them why all four people wouldn’t show up. There may actually be a reason.
That’s really sad 🙁
That really sucks O.P. Happy Belated Birthday and welcome to your dirty 30’s! 😛
Ya, I never really celebrate birthdays either, OL. I made (asked pointedly?) my bf take me out to a fancy dinner where we sat and chatted and drank wine for over 3 hours then wandered home… But my 30th is coming up, and somehow I feel like it needs to be celebrated – or totally forgotten. But I”ll be sure to plan a real party, not just a normal night out drinking.
cheered me up donkey dearest *clap clap*
“You’re fucking 30 now. Grow up and get over it. A birthday doesn’t mean shit in the long run.” ~NGF
I don’t think it was so much that it was her 30th bday, it’s the fact that her friends stood her up and it happened to be her birthday. The sick friend — ok I can see that — I’ve cancelled plans when I’ve been sick, but this is a perfectly valid bitch: especially in regards to the one who stood the friend up.
Find new friends. Any REAL friend I have that I’d want to spend my birthday with wouldn’t do this to me, and I’d venture to say these flakes aren’t your REAL friends.
That kind of sucks that they weren’t there for you – but seriously – stop calling them friend 1, 2, 3, 4, because none of them are your real friends. My girlfriends hate parties…3 were pregnant and 1 was breast feeding and they still all put on their game face although I knew they didn’t want to for my birthday and stuck it out all night with me.
you people not celebrating your b-days….
it’s an excuse to celebrate and get together.
I try to celebrate mine every year…
*try*
Angel, we’re celebrating your next one whether you like it or not.
What?? People celebrate birthdays after 19? Wow, and all these years I have been missing out.
That sucks OP and it’s a perfectly legit bitch.
The sick friend & vacation friend might have some kind of valid excuse….but IMO they’re only worth your friendship if they offer to make it up to you when they’re better/back from vacay.
But that’s assuming they are actually AWARE that it’s upset you this much, sometimes people can be clueless and self-centered and it’s completely unintentional (though still a shitty thing to do).
I was depressed about turning 31 last year but now that 32 is rolling around I actually am not bothered at all – in fact I even slipped up a few times in the last couple of months and mistakenly said I was 32, lol.