You Know Who You Are. You’re the one that gossips about everyone behind their back, who berates co-workers for not following policy and then you do the exact same thing the next day (but it’s ok if YOU do it), who just today yelled and pointed your short stubby finger in my face causing me yet again to break down in tears. Guess what -you cannot take out your insecurities on me anymore. You are a horrible example of a human being and an awful role model to children. Hopefully karma will teach you a lesson. —Happier at home
This article appears in Jun 23-29, 2016.
Are you talking about your boss or a coworker?
If you’re breaking down into tears, you’re with the wrong employer.
Now’s the time to make a big stink about this to your former employer. Bullies should not be tolerated on the workplace.
Let me see – “You know who you are”. (Yep, out of millions) Breaking down in tears. Mention of children and good old Karma. Somehow you left out cruelty to cute puppies and kittens but other than that – Drama Queen writing 101.
there is so much I want to say….so much I have seen and experienced with dealing with subordinates in my career. My father used to give me “constructive criticism”, in fact still does. but society would call that “bullying” now. Even though his sometimes pointed finger in my face when I refused to listen and do what I was told in the first place was to drive home a point that I could and SHOULD have done better or known better. Now, as a supervisor of many individuals, I understand WHY sometimes a pointed finger needs to be used. SOME people just don’t get it. I have been nice to people, I have been welcoming to people, but when you get a fuck up, who is constantly pushing your buttons and taking every fucking second out of your working day to make you deal with THEIR fucking crisis over and over again, well then sometimes a pointed finger is JUST what the doctor ordered. it isn’t bullying. its telling that person in no uncertain terms that their shit, on a bigger picture scale is NOT the fucking priority and to grow the fuck up, suck it up and do your job. if you find enough time to worry about gossiping co-workers etc in your job, then find a way to be more productive in it to NOT worry about it. save the water works.
ill also give you an example. an employee was required to complete a project, that had a deadline and had lapsed for months past that deadline. everyone was on him…get it done. he was gently coddled. sternly told, etc etc until just before Christmas time. He came skipping into the office requesting time off during the holidays so he could visit his mother. He KNEW full well he hadn’t completed his project. now almost 6 months past deadline. he was given a direct ultimatum…if he didn’t have the project completed before the start day for his request, he was not getting it. that day arrived..he said he had it finished(he didn’t and I found out) He then proceeded to wail (full grown man) that he “HAD TO SEE MY MOTHER!!” at WHAT point should he have gotten berated and a finger pointed in his face? can you believe that he even put in a complaint?
Or the lady that refused to help keep the workplace clean because cleaning is sexist? or how she didn’t have to do some manual labour stuff because she was 49 and the younger people(though senior to her at the workplace) are more capable. This requirement was in the job agreement she read and signed for.
@Cuja12 If you stop managing staff as if they were children and instead treating them with respect and as an adult you may actually receive that in return.
If an employee is not meeting the expectations of a job as you indicated in your examples above, a finger in the face is a childish way to deal with this. A formal progressive discipline process including coaching and feedback to ensure expectations are clearly communicated and understood along with an understanding of the consequences for not meeting the expectations goes a lot further in developing employees and achieving results than a finger in the face.
If you can’t grow up i would suggest you change careers to one where you are not responsible for people.
I’d bet the examples Cuja12 speaks of are probably university breeds… shame they waste so much money to be so ill-prepared for the workforce.
You guys are such a bunch of embittered old dried up pricks.. Holy sweet fuckin Christ. Get a life.
Instead of breaking down in tears, get in his face. The only way to deal with a bully is to stand up to them.
Yeah, no shit. You hired losers? On purpose? Fuck you.
Cuja12, you have to understand that the truly ambitious and competitive workers don’t stay in nova Scotia. You are stuck with the walking dead.