Ok here it is…WHY is all I want to know are you always telling me you want to be with me and you have to see me….REALITY CHECK…YOU have a WOMEN !
How many times can I tell you until she is gone I won’t be around. I play “the other women” for NOBODY !
Your on the phone with me all day long, your blowing my phone up with text messages and you email me constantly…Tell me this does she know about it all…ummm no I doubt it. Does she know your at my house every other day and every weekend ?
You know all the right things to say and you know how to make me feel like I’m the only women in your life and yeah for a minute or two you can make me forget all about your women…If I mean as much to you as you tell me EVERY damn day then why have you not left her…because you’re a PLAYER !!
Until you can figure out what it is you want in life please stop breaking my heart and playing with my emotions…Do I want for more then anything to believe every word out of your mouth and to know you’re my one true thing OF COURSE I do but I’m smarter then that sweetie. I know you are here for a good time and not along time…Sorry Baby that’s not what I want 🙁
This article appears in Jul 10-16, 2008.
If he’s cheating on his woman, you can be 100% sure he will cheat on you. Call it life experience but I have yet to see it fail. One a dawg, always a dawg. Don’t waste any more of your life with this LOSER.
Too bad some of the worst guys in the world are also the most charismatic and charming… Just keep reminding yourself that his words and his charm are 100% superficial, tools he uses to get what he wants. It’s not sincere, and once he gets his prize – in this case, you – he’ll move on to the next challenge.
Here’s my mantra suggestion: ‘HE’S-LOOKING-FOR-A-NEW-HOLE-TO-PLUG.’
Too bad that strategy is so effective for men. Look at what the OP is saying: “Killing me inside to walk away”She knows this guy is using her, and she’s still waffling on walking away from the situation. Women like this make it too easy for men like him to succeed at getting ass. Drop the romantic ideals and face reality.YOU ARE BEING USED!!!! Don’t call, don’t text, don’t answer e-mails, and certainly DO NOT let him come visit on weekends and weeknights. You may want to tell him to piss off or his Mrs will get an inbox full of incriminating evidence, which would be doing her a favor too. Then move on with your life.
I’m with Miles. The poor sucker he’s with should know what a sack of crap this rutting pig really is.
On the upside: you get to be the star of your own little drama. You know what you have to do; but like Miles said, you’re waffling on it. Ask yourself why. When you decide to put away childish things, you’ll walk away without regret.
Well shoot, I had a whole speech planned on how you are WAY better off without this guy, and how he’d do the exact same thing to you as he’s doing now with the other one, but it seems everyone beat me to it. Listen to all of them — stop responding to him and letting him visit and move on, honey. Mr. Right may pass you by while this asshole is leading you on. You deserve WAY better!!!
The sad part about this story is that despite all this great advice (which I fully agree with) the chances are pretty damn slim OP, that you are going to follow it…In affairs of the heart, the heart almost always overrules the mind… This cheating skunk obviously has a pretty good hold on you now,,, or it wouldn’t be killing you to walk away…You need to do something BIG to break the spell… The real question is what..???
Go on an awesome vacation! Even just a road trip, with a few cool friends who will take your mind off the jerk…
Road trip is a great idea… or go meet somebody else… I just suggested to a guy today in another thread (he got badly dumped) that he should post in Psst to hook up with you…check it out… What can it hurt… You deserve better than second fiddle… BTW.. Second Fiddle is the code word in PSST… Good Luck…
Sadly, humans are creatures of emotion, and not logic. This is a hard cycle to break OP, but we, the majority, agree that you deserve better. How you break this to him is up to you, as you’re the master of your domain here.
Sorry OP my mistake.. Turns out the guy in the other thread who was dumped by his G/F,,, was in fact a G/F that got dumped by HER G/F…Never mind the Psst thing… But I think what we ALL agree on is: (1) You need to tell him its over and get on with your life… (2) You deserve better than to be with someone you know will eventually cheat on you also… and (3) It ain’t gonna be easy,,, but its what you’ve GOT to do…
I take issue with the comment “Sadly, humans are creatures of emotion, and not logic”, Plastic Diver Guy! You seem compassionate and decent, so no offense meant, OK? But I disagree. I think human beings have the unique ability to balance emotion and logic, although some of us may tilt more in one direction than the other. I believe that this is a CHOICE- we can be consumed by love/lust/desire/ whatever, only to be burned when that meets it’s inevitable end. Sure, sure, some people get lucky with their first; their one and only. That’s great! I’m sure they count calories and have regular bowel habits as well. You CAN choose this route if you’re Carrie Bradshaw and it doesn’t matter if your eggs are drying up faster than you can say “botox”. However, I don’t buy into the idea of ‘the one’. That’s simply not appropriate for everyone. In fact, I think that people stay in relationships that they shouldn’t based on this sweet, yet potentially hazardous lie.I’m definitely more logical on the subject of who I’m going to be spending the rest of my life with. Will he pick up his socks and underwear? Will he be someone that I can be compatible with? Will he be good to me and my children? Money…religious views…division of labour….etc. are all factors.I think that relationships need a good dose of realism before you know if they’re going to work out. Better that the OP realize now than later.Sorry for the length ; )
Abusive people prey/play on emotion – not logic. That’s why it’s so hard to leave, because they know you’ll feel like a bad person and that when you’re hurt (because you want to leave), you need comfort, and they can give it to you by begging you to stay. How fucked is that? Walk away, it only hurts for a while and you will learn why you were there in the first place. And hopefully never end up there again.
Well I would just like to Thank You all for the great advise and kind words. Here’s the thing I KNOW what I need to do and I know I as a person with a true heart and feeling deserve so much better…I just wanted to get my feeling out there and try to lighten my day if even just a little. After all this is the Bitch Board LOL Yes it kills me to walk away because I do have feeling for me and my emotions are all messed up right now BUT I do have a head on my shoulders and I’m on the right track…:)Thanks again for all your feed back. Here’s hoping you all find or have found your one true love in life !!