So many single girls whine, why not me… well I am not like most single girls. I am a very confident exciting person to be with… but every bloody guy seems to run and frickin hide from me, except the CREEPY guy, ya know the kind I mean, the stalker types who show up at a random restaurant and try to pick you up…. That’s the type I get… No offense some girls would be flattered to have this problem, I am not! I just want someone NORMAL to be into me, I’m not looking for a prince (or princess) in shiny white armour, but seriously, i’d love just one shot at this ‘happy’ thing. So seriously people… Why not me! —24 and Tired
This article appears in Feb 2-8, 2012.
Maybe your “confidence” is coming across as “egotistical” and the “excitement” is seen as annoying?
*shrug*
Sweetie as a girl who is ACTUALLY not like most single girls (ie: who has ACTUAL confidence and not this pretend confidence freaked out singles use to try and become NOT single) Let me tell you, you are very typical. You don’t realize you’re typical because you’re YOU and you is never typical to you. But you are typical. You’re looking for a guy. Which is pretty much a guarantee you won’t find one.
Chill out and enjoy being single. It’s awesome. You’ll get a ton of offers if you really enjoy being single. And since you enjoy it you can afford to turn them down. right now your criteria is a little fucked. The only guys you attract are creepers? That sucks but the bar should be set WAY higher than that. ‘not a creep’ is barely enough criteria for me to even give him a second look. Not because i’m necessarily anything special. But because i afford myself the luxury of being choosy.
Guys don’t want a chick desperate to be in a relationship. It’s a HUGE red flag to stay the fuck away.
I think you should use single quotes here or it sounds pretty pervy…
“I just want someone NORMAL to be into me”
and you’re 24… still young and immature, as is the age range of the guys you’re attracting.
Give it time and mingle a bit….
and try not to be as much of a tight-ass
No one is Normal.
You’re tired at 24? You say you are confident yet your message is “why not me?” …. that is not confidence …. you are looking for the “happy thing” ….. confident people have the happy thing whether single or partnered. Discover yourself first and when you know who you are others will notice as well.
At 24 you are not fully cooked and these CREEPY ones can smell desperation.
Chances are, the “normal” guys are in the friend zone, right were you left them.
Random restaurants? Either you’re a dining room hostess or you’re looking in the wrong place for a date. Join a group. Volunteer. Try something new.
Meanwhile ask yourself if you’re not getting dates because you’re coming across as a whiney-ass crybaby who thinks the world owes her a life partner.
someone mention my name, consider yourself stalked.
There’s always older men, OB (ahem).
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he’s quite dishy op, and he has a dog and a motorcycle
“Yesh, it’s tough being beautiful, I can get anything I want, and life is SO difficult! I’m not typical though. Oh, you? Yeah, you’re so typical you just can’t see it”(as I dole out The Truth).
Jeezus.
It’s back from vacation.
Wp
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, Wheelie.
Don’t rush it. Enjoy your freedom while you still have it. When the time is right you will meet your version of a “normal” guy.
When you stop looking, you’ll find it.
And this ‘very confident exciting person to be with’ – is this according to you or has anyone else expressed this sentiment? I don’t think you have as much confidence as you’re braying about -you honestly need to chill and put the ‘Sadie Hawkins’ lasso away. Besides, even if you pulled him off his feet, there are NO guarantees of happiness.
Welcome to adulthood hun, where nothing comes easily, and anything worthwhile takes time. Nobody but you is on your schedule, and forcing your agenda just annoys everyone but you. Perhaps you should write down what you are looking for in a partner, so that in a year, you can revisit your criteria and see how it will change. You are too young to be in a hurry to do anything, see what’s out there, relax, and things may just fall into place. On the surface, you sound a little demanding and controlling, that’s a huge red flag for anyone who wants to be an equal partner.
you sound like you’re still in high school waiting for a note slipped in your locker or some shit. Also you sound like my sister. this isn’t confidence it’s compensation. You probably come off as arrogant. I don’t understand… I am just as happy in a relationship as not in one. different kinds of happy but still happy none the less. oh and my boy friend was one of those “creepers” which i am assuming you call them that because anyone outside of your usual taste or standard is deemed that in your eyes
I_K as much as I didn’t like that comment I have to agree with it. Especially the part about not really “looking” to be in a relationship, but that’s kind of the whole mind fuck of finding somebody isn’t it. How can you find if you don’t look?
ok, there’s a difference between actively seeking out someone…
and noticing when something is sitting right on… er… in front of your face..
Thanks, PK. As a Very Handsome Guy, I usually get anything I want by flexing my (big and plentiful) muscles.
(Mr Furly sniff)
Yeah. I’m the tits, ladies.
🙂
Wp
Maybe your pussy is too hairy, budd. That’s prolly why you’re single. My sex-giver-to-me is completely bald down unda and that’s one of the major reasons I’m with her, that and we click!
goddammit, now i’m gonna have to join buddy in a jerk off. all this sex talk and no pussy on a string is a bitch, in itself. you know how to find me girls, satisfaction gaurenteed.
is that creepy enough alex?
hahahah omg LIFE SUCKS i think thats creepy enough
haha Right on Frenchie.
You’re too young to be tired OP. If the guys you’re interested in are running in the other direction that would seem to me that something is off in your approach. I’m not a relationship expert but I kind of get that feeling.
In all seriousness though, you may come on as needy or clingy and the “creepy” guys can smell that a mile away. Relax, take a deep breath and let them come to you of you’re all that.