I know you don’t love me, hell none of you even like me, I also know the only reason any of you still speak to me is for sex.Well I’m telling you all the cow has officially been put into the barn..So I suspect this is goodbye, you sick sons of bitches…Because a woman enjoys sex doesn’t mean she wants to be used , lied to by a man she thought she cared about then passed around from one friend to another…
I suspected what was happening but naively (stupidly)
told myself you cared….Then you turned into someone different and I couldn’t continue to lie to myself about what was really happening.
I’m a fucking fool no more. —Find a new cow. I’m done
This article appears in Oct 23-29, 2014.
How many ”friends” were you passed around to before you went into the barn? Slow to catch on?
Someone wanted to play cum-bucket in the game of ‘Pass Around The Pamela Anderson Blow-Up Doll’. I’d be hightailing it to a doctor to get checked out for STDs, Bitcher. Just reading your post makes me want to wash my hands. Repeatedly.
WOMEN AS CATTLE, OR: IS ANATOMY DESTINY?
“Because a woman enjoys sex doesn’t mean she wants to be used, lied to by a man she thought she cared about then passed around from one friend to another.” Find a new cow, I’m done
What is the issue here? The issue is the sharp distinction between women in general and some men in respect to the connection between caring and sex. For the former caring is an essential component of sex – failing to care opens the woman to the charge of being an uncaring prostitute – while for the latter, particularly those of a predatory nature, there may be little if any connection between the two at all. For them, women may be little more than cattle. But why is this so?
It is so because the female and male differ radically in their world-view, their “weltanschauung.” (A bit of German there.) While the male world-view is based on action – the world outside is something to be conquered, to be penetrated – for female it is something to be accomodated, to be brought into her body if only symbolically, particularly for those about whom she cares or nurtures. The difference can be traced to their respective genitals – the male penis is designed for penetration while the female vagina is designed for receptivity. In the case of the predatory male, it really doesn’t matter who he penetrates but for the female it matters a great deal who she receives into her body. It is like her home and who she entertains as her guests is fundamental to her very being. (This of course, is not to be understood as an iron-clad general principle, i.e. “Anatomy Is Destiny,” but we cannot disregard anatomy without serious consequences.
(Avatar #59: A $10 Bank of Nova Scotia note.)
A peasure as always.
Cheerio!
OB – You allowed yourself to be passed around like a joint at a drunken frat party under the guise of “I just really enjoy sex” and then you wonder why you didn’t get any respect? And why would any man care about some cum dump anyway?
Well, I guess OB learned a valuable lesson here. There’s a huge difference between having a fuck buddy and being passed around like a cum dumpster.
Thing is, in both situations you can’t expect it to turn into the type of thing you were obviously looking for because if it was just because you like sex, you wouldn’t’ve been hurt enough to write this bitch. Casual sex usually doesn’t turn into a committed relationship. If someone is interested, they’ll want that relationship before they want sex. You can’t make someone (especially men) love you by using sex.
Get some self respect, OB and stop trying to reel in men by offering up your pussy on a platter.
you cannot be ‘passed around’ unwillingly unless you are drunk, drugged, unconscious or under duress. none of which you claim. so this was an unfortunate period in your life, op. bad decisions. move on now that you have figured this out. it does not make you bad, immoral or not deserving of respect as a human being. at worst you have been foolish.
it does NOT make you the disgusting names that some people are using at you. I am so fed up with the notion that a woman who has recreational sex loses the respect of others. respect from such shallow, bigoted, small minded, women hating closet puritans is not respect that I would value. C.O.Y.O.T.E.. go diddle yourselves to the salem witch trials transcripts.
Um. Thing about guys is…they don’t wanna make a girl that special someone when their homies could draw a relief map of your genitals from memory.
“Congrats on your wedding! I have had my tongue where your wife poops.”
what ‘thing’ about guys???
that they don’t want a well experienced partner? why not? do they prefer clumsy and naïve?
what guys? not ALL guys. not. just insecure guys. or guys who know they are lousy at sex. they can’t take the comparison. no well adjusted, confident man is going to turn away from a woman he is attracted to just because she has joyously bounced atop a few beds. this should be an attractant, not a turn off. ( and no, I am not referring to the sad case of OP up there)
Right-on Bad dog–you are absolutely right…..and um, Chico, thing about your post is that it is completely one-sided–good luck with that. Bad dog, you keep hitting those nails squarely on the head–it’s refreshing, to say the least, to read your responses: balanced, respectful, and open-minded! Thanks for taking the time.
@OP: Hope you are ok–do not be too hard on yourself, but do listen to Molly and use what you have gained from your past experiences to make your future experiences about what really works for you as a person. Navigating life is never easy, not even with the funstuff oft times–kudos to you for trying to enjoy yourself as YOU wanted and for believing in your own personal worth, you have my respect on both counts. A good thing to remember is that not everyone is as open-minded as their behaviour would suggest, and some very unfortunate people still cling to old double-standards. Keep on keepin’ on, but try to feel the vibe on the scene before you jump into anything edgy, and play safe both physically and emotionally–hope the next experience is super fun for you!
SS
Nope. Not saying that AT ALL! I am saying that I wouldn’t want my best man and all my groomsmen to have banged my wife. Of course I want an experienced partner! I just don’t want all that experience coming from ‘the guys’. But that is just me. Holy fuck.
Hey guys! Imma back!!
The only was you can be “passed around” is if you choose to do so unless as previously stated you were forced, drunk, or drugged. You have a mouth, Try saying no instead of more.
Welcome back Master Bates……oops, I mean Brawdove…lolz
Chico Styles: “Thing about guys is…they don’t wanna make a girl that special someone when their homies could draw a relief map of your genitals from memory. “
Yeah cuz that’s why women are put on this earth, to become a guy’s special someone…. and make all HIS dreams come true. Puhleeze. Yeah eeriebody (halloween edition)… women got nerve endings between our legs, just as many as you got between your legs. You feel good, we feel good. Eeriebody likes sex. OB’s story reminds me of the time I was juggling these two dudes. I started off hangin with this blonde adonis one night and then I moved on to his dark-haired friend the next night (cuz he was hotter n I’m greedy like dat). Then one night the hot brown hair guy called and said they BOTH wanted to come over. I started to realize what they had in mind and like you, I let my oxytocin-ruled brain get the better of me… I got all offended and, thinkin’ they wuz tryna pull one over on me, I told them off. Um still kickin myself to this day! Dat’s da stuff fantasies are made of, dat threesome woulda been a damn good memory to keep me warm at night for years to come. See OB sometimes you can “liberate yourself” out of a damn good fuckin time!
It seems the op wants to be…stop extrapolating statements about humanity from my comments about this specific situation, ya bunch of non gender specific expletives.
I agree with chico and think it extends to both sides of the coin – I wouldn’t want my husband’s dick to have been anywhere near any of my bridesmaids’ mouth, ass or genitals. That’d just be awkward.
Yeah it is 100% a question of what you are comfortable with…NOT with anyone’s immaturity/double standards based around gender and sex. But yeah I guess Shesang and Molly are in a much better position to speak about the average guy’s thought’s on this matter.
I am sure they are right in suggesting that most guys would have no problem having no secrets or lines drawn between his partner and friends. That was my point.
ok, i see chico’s point about knowing your partners previous partners if thats the sticking point. the fact that you know them and may all be in the same room together at times ( altho its still a wierd hangup to me, i can grok it)
“When she’s saying, all that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she saying, all men are like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can spend”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CkFH0KMO0G0
Bitcher,
Please try to ignore the venomous comments of the horde of sexually frustrated commentors on this board. Some of them have nothing better to do. ……You really did nothing wrong. It’s your body and you should have sex with whomever you want without feeling shame. There’s a double standard that reveres men with numerous “conquests” while belittling women for the same. As long as you are protecting yourself from disease and emotional harm you shouldn’t feel any shame for getting and giving pleasure …..when you, not others, feel it is appropriate….. and only you can make that determination.
Take care. Signed, A Man Called Zippy
you know, for anyone who feels squeamish about having a partner who has had sex with someone they know, can you stop a moment and think about WHY you feel that way. have you ever challenged your feelings about that? do you know why it bugs you?
if sex is light and wholesome and as natural as sharing a meal with someone then what’s the problem if two people you like shared it?
or if it’s love and intimacy, then why would it bother you that your partner and a friend, both of whom have your affection, also shared some love?
Let me be clear, so maybe we can put this to rest. I would not care if one, or even two of the people in my social circle, people I am very close with, had been with my partner previously. Whatever, we are all adults. This bitch suggests more than one or two. There comes a point-for me-where that just becomes unattractive. And man, with the friends I have i would never hear the end of it. We go pretty hard with the burns, and that is some powerful ammunition. But that is me!Everyone should make their own determination, draw their own line. That is just how i feel about it, and I think most guys would agree. Sorry free spirits! It may not make sense, it may not be fair. BUT, do not suggest this has something to do with gender politics, or frustration, please. It does not. (for me)
Furious nailed it.
And to maintain my rep, that’s what she said^^^
http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view1/3950847/d…
Here’s the thing, Zippy, OB is obviously not ok with this arrangement and isn’t taking any personal responsibility in this situation.
No one can turn you into the town bicycle but yourself. Are these guys asshats? Probably. But OB went in obviously thinking this would give her the affection she craves. It’s obvious because she wouldn’t be writing a bitch, otherwise.
If someone wants to go out and fuck everything they come across that’s willing, sure, go right ahead, but don’t go crying about it afterward about how you were used and blame it all on the people you engaged in sexual activity with. You had a choice to fuck them or not fuck them. People need to own up to the fact that their actions have consequences. How many one night stands and casual sex arrangements turn into long term, loving, committed, respectful relationships?
I suspect the bitcher probably wasn’t looking for guidance and only wanted to get a rant off her chest so I propose the following:
(Warning: contains graphic language)
http://www.someecards.com/usercards/viewcard/MjAxMi1hNWYyODM3YzJlZWI1NTli