It seems like we have come a long way towards gender equality, but a few things really stick out for me.
This if for the bitch that stood me up a few weeks ago, and women who think like her. We had plans to go out for a few drinks. I showed up at the bar we had agreed to meet at. Surprise, you were not there. I did meet up with a few friends who coincidentally happened to be at the same bar, so thankfully the night wasn’t a complete wash. Even though you stood me up, i gave you the benefit of the doubt at first, and I thought that maybe you got held up somewhere and you were on your way. I called your cell phone 3 times that night and left a message each time.
A few days go by, and nothing. Not a call from you, not an e-mail, nothing. I see some shit on your facebook name about how “all men are scum. sick of men’s bullshit.” A mutual friend asked me what was up with you, assuming that I had done something. This mutual friend then has a chat with you, and I find out that you stood me up that night and went out with another guy. This other guy was apparently treating you like shit the last few days since your date. If you had kept your fucking plans with me, gave me a fucking chance to get to know me, then you wouldn’t be feeling like shit. But in you head, “all men are the same” so I guess my words just fall on deaf ears.
So you choose to ditch me, choose to date an asshole (and I know the guy, and his shitty fucking history with women is well known), then when he treats you like shit, it’s NOT your fault? It’s the fault of every man in the world because we are all assholes?
If the genders are supposed to be equality, then why the fuck can’t some women (many women) take responsibility for their choices? Why is it that women can so easily say “all men are assholes” and no one bats an eye, yet a man says something about women and he is labeled a sexist? making gross generalizations is sexist no matter what fucking gender you are.
How do you think it felt to be stood up, be offered no explanation or apology, and then to be lumped together with the asshole men of this world? I am a good guy, I am an individual, and the actions of the assholes of this world should not affect women’s opinions of me. I have no control over what other guys do, so why the fuck do I get punished for what the assholes do?
What if I encountered a girl who treated me like shit, then used that experience to judge all other women? Girls, I know, I fucking know that someone in your past treated you like shit. Most of us (guys and girls) have someone in our past that did us wrong, but just because I have a penis doesn’t make me fucking evil.
How about growing the fuck up and realizing that your choices have consequences, and you should take responsibility for those choices? The days of “evil men doing innocent girl wrong” are gone, so why the hell do so easily pass the buck to “evil men” when it comes to their piss poor fucking choices? here’s a newsflash for ya…when ya hear that a guy has a bad history with women, maybe you shouldn’t date him. Thats a crazy idea, I know. And if you do choose to get involved with the guy, know that what happens is partially your fault and own it. I am sorry that you made a bad choice, but no matter what your narrow- minded-I’m-a-woman-I’m-a-victim thinks we are not “all the same”. Men, just like women, are indviduals and we deserve to be thought of and treated as such.
Fuck you and women who choose to think like you.
This article appears in Apr 17-23, 2008.
Boo-fucking-hoo. Longest sob story ever!Step back a sec and think if this is really the chick you want to hang out with? That girl’s trouble and better you found out before getting involved. Give up the crush and move on. If you are really a nice and decent guy try moving over to the nice-and-decent-people social circle and stop hanging out in the flakey-immature-everything’s-a-drama social circle. You are responsible for your choices too.
Most females that say : ‘all men are scum’ are usually stupid bitches. The ones that do not fall in to that category are likely pissed off at their decision to be bi-sexual, wishing they made the choice to be exclusively with females . Opinion or observation, tough call.
Miles said it best !! And to the OP if I had a boyfriend like you i’d turn gay!
if she stood you up, she surely was NOT worth the time and effort that you put into this post.