Why do you do that to yourself? Why do you continue to keep going back to someone who uses and abuses you? Plays with your heart and soul….makes you feel like you aren’t worthy of love…….Why can’t people just break-up and move on anymore? Why do you have to keep ripping open a wound and throwing salt in it? I feel sorry for you that you don’t know what a happy HEALTHY relationship is, that you feel like all your worth is a late night booty call, that you can’t see that HE WILL NEVER CHANGE FOR YOU. Don’t you get it yet????? You’re nothing to him but a game …….. And he keeps winning. —Pity
This article appears in Nov 14-20, 2013.
A CONCEPTUAL CONFUSION
To ask the question “Why?” in those cases where someone is in love is to commit a conceptual confusion. It is to commit a conceptual confusion since the question “Why?” is a demand for reasons. But the possession of reasons presupposes the presence of rationality, the predominance of the mind as opposed to that of the heart. In philosophical terms, of course, the question is phrased, “Do emotions have a cognitive core?” This is a difficult question.
It is a difficult question since it drives to what it means to be human. In other words, are rationality and the emotions distinct ontological categories? To suppose that they are is to suggest an “either-or” conception of what it means to be human. One is either totally governed by the principles of rationality – one thinks of means-end reasoning which has the question “Why?” as its logical cognate- or one is totally governed by the power of one’s emotions – one thinks, for example, of lusting after a female’s magnificent labia.
Paradoxically, the issue can be resolved only by appeal to rationality and not to the emotions. While the former may adjudicate the respective claims of reason and the emotions, the latter possesses no such adjudicatory power. One is simply driven to express oneself come what may. In the case of lusting over the female’s magnificent labia, for example, that is all one can do, just lust after her magnificent labia. One is little more than a plaything in their smooth, cradling grasp. As the old saying goes, “The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.” This is particularly true in the case of lusting after the female’s magnificent labia.
So what is the answer to the question “Why?” It is simply “Because.”
Next.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
The reason why this person keeps winning is you keep ALLOWING it to happen, if you don’t mind losing, at least make this person work for your charms instead of just giving in thinking you could do no better. A person’s history has a way of repeating their mistakes till one understand the why and how, the mechanism by which they keep repeating the failures.
Ditto Klyde
Being married 3 times for the wrong reason, oooh believe me, I’ve learned my lessons Meaty. Hence, how I wrote my last comment.
op, you said it in the first sentence. people do it to themselves. nothing you can say, do, encourage, exhort, wheedle or scream about will change that.
your friend will get clarity or will not.
Looks like my neighbor’s friend discovered LTWWB.
Dump the idiot ffs.
A CONCEPTUAL CONFUSION (II)
I don’t know, I still think my analysis as given in my “A Conceptual Confusion” was best.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Am I the only one who thinks OP is trapped in the Friend Zone?
Why? because they can’t say no to save their lives. Not even to an idiot that abuses them. it’s tough to take if you’re a witness.