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Why on earth do I have to listen to my 75 year old boss talk loudly on the phone about people having sex on an ironing board? Or talking about his use of Viagra, how beautiful his son’s girlfriend is, or how he can barely make it to the bathroom at night?
I gotta put my headphones on…
—Waiting for your retirement…
This article appears in Jan 7-13, 2010.
75 Comments
Record him talking about his son’s girlfriend…then send it to him (the son). (evil grin)
yeah, I would say something or at least DO something to embarrass him.
that’d shut his yap… er at least the door.
I certainly wouldn’t want to be hearing that shit while I’m trying to work…
now reading about it on the coast… that’s different…
I feel for you… that is nasty shit!!
Let me guess. If it were someone your own age talking about it, it would be ok? Old people have sex too you know! They just don’t do it as often. And I’ll tell you why. You ever pulled apart a grilled cheese sandwich?
Are you sure he wasn’t having sex WITH the ironing board?
You don’t have to listen to any of that. Every boss has a boss and I would make a complaint. No person should ever feel uncomfortable in their place of work. That is just completely unexceptable.
But nothing will happen if you choose to listen and not do anything about it
Enough said: “No person should ever feel uncomfortable in their place of work.”
I’m sorry but that is a complete crock of shit. 100%, Pure, Grade A, uncut, unfiltered bullshit. If it were true then no one would ever go to work. What if someone felt “uncomfortable” working around members of the opposite sex? What then? Sometimes there are unpleasant things in life that you have to put up with. So long as the boss isn’t directing this conversation towards the OP, then there isn’t really much of an issue. The OP needs to stop listening to other peoples conversations and do their job. Period.
“Every boss has a boss”
Also untrue.
Actually it is very true lehova. Everyone has a boss even the boss.
There are many places to go and deal with these types issues in private companies and in government.(President of the company, owner of the company, director, Human Resources, unions, newspapers, meet with him tell him how you feel, many ways to deal with this issue)
Don’t like the advise go get another job.
“You ever pulled apart a grilled cheese sandwich?”
Jesus Christ. ew.
Never Wrong: Let’s be realistic here. Have you heard of diveristy / respect it applies in all workplaces. Someone talking about sex in the work place is wrong if it is making another co-worker uncomfortable period! So no your comment is wack
Miles: You like that one? Eh? Eh? It’s not the joke that’s funny, it’s the reaction you get from people!!
Enough Said: By your reasoning anyone could complain about anything, ensuring that no one could ever talk about anything. If the OP’s boss is at his desk, having a private conversation with someone, about something that has absolutely NOTHING to do with them, then the OP should be minding his own business. It’s all this over-sensitive politically correct bullshit that makes it harder and harder for the average person to make it through the day without going postal. Your job is not your home. You don’t get to feel comfortable all the time. You’re there to do a job, get paid and go home. If you don’t like hearing your older boss talk about sex, don’t listen to his private conversation. You talk about respect, well what about respecting the boss’s privacy? Maybe he has no idea that people can overhear him.
NW, it may very well replace my “you ever see a bulldog eat mayonnaise” description.
NW-
If it is a PRIVATE CONVERSATION then
1. NO ONE should be able to hear him.
2. Your right your there to do a job! SO IS THE BOSS, not to take about sex during work hours.
3. Respect your bosses privacy how about respecting your employees. Employees do not come to work to hear about other peoples sex lives
4. The boss should NOT feel comfortable talking about this at work anyway.
What’s with all the grill cheese sandwich references! So far, they have been compared to Jesus and old people sex–and (almost) big people (cheese). I wanna eat grilled cheese sandwiches again sometimes, people!
75 years old? There’s no sticky left, only icky. He and his partner could start a fire rubbing together.
shit i’m 50 (look 40) and i don’t really like hearing about sexual escapades by people in my age group let alone 75 year olds; that is fucking disgusting;ps i’ve lost alot of respect for meryl streep because of her new movie yucky yucky bleh
mmmmmmmmmm grilled cheese…..
it’s on the menu tonight.
don’t want zZz around? Stop cooking with cheese.
Miles: That’s just nasty!! I like it.
Enough Said: Just because your over-zealous, Puritan inspired hatred of sex is so over-the-top, it doesn’t mean everyone else’s is. Why is it unacceptable to talk about sex at work? You can talk about last night’s supper, your bowling game from last week or your kid’s grades. Why can’t we talk about sex? If society stopped putting such a taboo on damn near everything that could potentially have to do with sex, this wouldn’t be an issue. But no, people like you have to relegate sex to the dark corners and hide it away like it doesn’t happen.
NW…I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. I am never going to be able to look at another grilled cheese sandwich, let alone eat one.
Der? = Curls up into ball and starts rocking
Old People Sex – aaaaackkkkkkkk – now there’s a greasy hairball you can chew on. Then again, all sex looks like too much work and sweat to this ol’ abandoned mine shaft. Even a canary would fly away in terror.
TTFN, I have to thank you. Your humor has made an otherwise very difficult few months of my live, enjoyable and full of laughter. You are awesome.
Der?: The joke goes “Why don’t old people have sex very often?… Ever pulled apart a grilled cheese sandwich?”. I told that to a friend of mine right before he bit into his grilled cheese sandwich. He hasn’t been able to eat one since. That was more than 3 years ago. >=)
ummm old people vaginal discharge; eat it up yum!
i have been making reubens of late yummy
Buahahahaha NW you are positively (and Hilariously) evil!!
Did you at least offer to help pay for his counceling?
I am so going to tell that joke sometime…next time I am at some diner and I see someone about to bite into a grilled cheese, of course I will be ensuring I am close to an exit before I do…LMAO.
My ex (thinking it would be funny) told the following joke to a fishing buddy on their first overnight fishing trip:
Ex: “If you woke up with Vaseline all over your asshole, would you tell anyone?”
Other man: “NO!”
Ex: “Well, time for bed.”
The guy didn’t laugh, didn’t sleep in the tent that night and he never went on another overnight fishing trip with my ex again.
i don’t get it:)
ha ha ha!
Just wait, martym, it’ll come to you = D
Enough Said- no, it is not true. Most businesses (especially small ones) have someone ultimately at the top. If every boss had a boss, it would be a never-ending chain of command. In my small business, I only have four people who work for me. I am what you would call the boss. There is no one in my business who you could say is my boss.
i am the boss in my shop and there is no other
a litttle double entendre pun action cest cest bonne
sex on an ironing board.next time i get with a lady,must try that.no one on here wants the adventure i guess.if you do,get hold of me,and we’ll rock the world.anyway,if you don’t want your pure little ears to hear this shit,maybe you should consider becoming a monk or a nun.but then,there is more sex in the churches,than on the street sometimes.and not just the pervs in there either.boys,girls,nuns ,and whoever,you are all fair game in a religion.
oh,and by the way,i still love grilled cheese,just had one after i read that,so yummy,ummmmmm.but martym,if you had vasaline on your ass,you would be fucked,period.unless you were a loose one.
Ironing board sex? What about the XXXXXs on someone’s back, the wonky legs – fuck, you and your partner better weigh less than a harbourwalk pigeon.
Grilled cheese? How about old rope poking at ya? Or at least trying to.
ttfn,hey hon,i’m open all hours,and cheap too,free.ride em cowgirl.
TTFN, you totally crack me up! Thanks!
HKM I heard one that goes like this
If you went camping and got blitzed – and woke up with vasiline and a condom hanging out your ass – would you tell anyone? If the answer is NO – then ask ” you wanna go camping”? haha
See if Pfizer will hire him for their next Viagra ad. If so, instant retirement.
If he’s 75 and still working, he’s a sad old sack of yack vomit.
Sounds like someone is jealous.
Record and post it online.
Iehova – yes it is true. As I have already pointed out in my above comments. For small businesses their is the news paper, frank magazine prints anything.
So even in your case I would get you one way or the other. Embarresment for the so called boss would be just as satisfying. Everyone reads it and I wonder how well the small business would do after a perverted artical was printed and releasesd.
NW – I do enjoy sex as much as everyone else but do not broadcast it to everyone and if I did and it would be a private conversation no one would be able to hear me anyway. So your way of thinging in obscured.
You apparently think people actually want to hear about it.
You asked:
Why is it unacceptable to talk about sex at work? Same reason it is inappropriate to have sex at work. There is a time and a place for everything.
OP has a ligit bitch and your trying to turn it on her. Typical
“no one told me i couldn’t have sex on my desk with the cleaning lady”
Except the cleaning lady.
I’m so glad I had my hymen reinstalled with a Clap On Clap Off feature.
its a fucking seinfeld episode about a cashmere sweater dino
Haha TTFN!
MISSED U BRO
Enough Said, who has been charged or convicted of sexual assault or any other crime in the last week, according to the media? Bet you can’t remember any of their names (or the crime) without a reference, unless they are somewhat famous. Most things like that go through one ear and out the other.
TTFN: does your clapper come with a remote control?
Yep – but I had a hell of a time glueing it to my inner thigh.
Bro Tim – ALOT people just don’t stand up for themselves. It is a shame really. The ones making excuses for this 75 year old working loud sex talking jack ass – are just as bad as he is for not seeing what is wrong with it and sating it’s “ok”
Oh Lord, Enough said, why don’t you stay away from these types of conversations?? I don’t get it…..if you are so offended and disgusted, it just doesn’t make sense to me why you put yourself smack dab in the middle of it.
And great advice, I would love to hear the reaction of the person who got that call… “Is this the Chronicle Herald/Frank magazine?” …. “Well, my boss is talking about sex….” “….yes, I do have a recording! …but its pretty graffic….there’s talk of ironing boards and grilled cheese!”
I’m sure the media would be all over that story! LOL
Lorilulu – maybe you should go work for this 75 year old you would probably get along GREAT. You could probably compare your stories of your privates. Respect in the workplace is not a privilage it is a right so suck it bitch!
OH yeah just beacuse I don’t share the same opinion and have more class and couth then yourself doesn’t mean I should be here. I just don’t have off the wall comments that don’t benifit anyone and it just rambling bull-shit no one wants to read.
yeah,go to work for him,be nice,and the old coot will croak,and leave you all his stuff,lorilou.
Enough Said: “Same reason it is inappropriate to have sex at work. There is a time and a place for everything”
Wow. You just threw the door wide open on this one. Thanks, I appreciate that. It’s inappropriate to play sports at work, but we talk about them. It’s inappropriate to watch movies or TV at work, but we talk about them. It’s inappropriate to bring your kids to work, but people talk about them.
“I just don’t have off the wall comments that don’t benifit anyone and it just rambling bull-shit no one wants to read.”
You’re right, no matter what type of comment you make, it’s bullshit that no one want to read.
NW -It’s too bad that you have to attack other peoples opinions just because you need to feel good about yourself.
Sports/movies are you serious? There is a big difference in entertainment (ie: movies, sports, tv, art, travel etc) and private lives (sex lives of individuals) You sound ridiculous. Arguing for the sake of arguing with out actually saying anything.
If a person doesn’t agree with you, you go on the attack.
Not everyone thinks or wants to share your opinions
though if you fail to narrow your opinion to that which actually sounds reasonable then it should come under attack as a far-stretched, blanketing statement.
if you’re clear and concise about your stance, then others can see it as it should be represented and not find counter-arguments that are perfectly valid.
well put zZz
I believe I was for the most part.
I can’t help how other people want to take it. But if all they have is to attack ones opinion without having something to actually say, then maybe they should not say anything at all.
Counter arguements are valid if they actually say something regarding the topic. Otherwise they are shooting out hot air.
BOTTOM LINE: Sex talk does not belong in the worklplace. A private conversation is one that no one else can hear. That may be hard for some to understand but I am sure most places of business would agree. Expect maybe OP’s.
Enough Said: I feel good about myself regardless of whether or not I “attack other people’s opinions” as you put it. And that is a major case of the pot calling the kettle black. Good job hypocrite. Thumbs up for your ineptitude!
Since you have highly selective reading capabilities, I’ll point out to you that I don’t “attack” other people’s opinions. Miles, zZz, Life Sucks, TTFN, Dino and most of the other regulars and I have all had differing points of view on many different issues, but it’s always a reasonable debate, not us attacking each others opinions. I’d like you to point out where in this thread, or any other thread that I have attacked another persons opinion without be provoked first.
NW – Yes Yes you did, Mine! Go back and review. I made a comment to the OP! I have never made a comment to you or made one about your comments until you attacked mine. So YOU are the hypocrite here. I am not sensitive I have opinions and will stand up for them. Regardless if you like it or not.
So in the words of you – I guess you provoked me.lol
Enough Said:
“No person should ever feel uncomfortable in their place of work.”
^This is not stated as an opinion. You are stating this as a fact.
If you’re so overly sensitive to having people call bullshit on you, then LTWWB is not the place for you. I find the ability to stand up for one’s opinions commendable. Hell, I do it on a daily basis. But when you’re stating something as though it’s a fact, when it isn’t, I will call bullshit on it. Period. If you can’t take the heat, stay out of the bitchin’!
hmm, I’m stuck because I too think it’s not correct to speak about at work…
because it’s personal and private and that shouldn’t interfere with a productive work day …
AND I know there are other types who talk about anything anywhere… especially buses if half those bitches posted here are anywhere near correct.
So, I’ll agree with NW on the fallacy of the argument but with Enough Said on the premise.
Heat I can handle – On a Human Rights factor “No person should feel uncomfortable at work” In this case YES it is a fact! We aren’t talking about ones gender or movies or even the sports played on the weekend but an old man taking loudly about sex and his sons girlfriend etc, things he shouldn’t be at work, making an employee uncomfortable to the point they have to put earphones on. I’m not being over sensitive, I am being real! MOST people don’t care/want to hear this stuff. I gave my opinion to OP on where they could go and options on what they could do. Period
Enough Said: So what you’re saying then is that when I screw up at work and my boss gives me grief for it, which makes me uncomfortable, it’s a human rights violation? Really, wow. I’m going to have a field day with that.
You’re obviously an extremist. You didn’t suggest that the OP go to their boss, tell him that his conversation could be overheard and politely ask that he not discuss such issues at work. That would be the reasonable thing to do in the OP’s case. No, you suggested that they go over his head right away and if necessary, have the storey published in Frank magazine or the newspaper. You skipped right to doing as much harm to his standing/reputation as possible, right away. Thanks for being such an upstanding human being, looking out for the well being of others.
My guess is that the OP (like most bitchers) just wanted a place to vent the frustration of having to deal with the mental image of the boss getting it on and his creepy infatuation with his son’s gf…especially since they signed “waiting for your retirement”. The thought of someone calling the media on this is HAlarious, and the claim of sexual harassment doesn’t apply so I don’t think the OP is looking for options.
Enough said – you wouldn’t last a day in my work place, and while I don’t think sex talk should be hush hush, I (believe it or not) don’t want to hear all the details of everyone’s sex life, but you are just WAY over the top, and like I’ve said before, should probably stick to bible chat sites (if such thing exists).
NW – I did give them that advise.
My first comment:
“You don’t have to listen to any of that. Every boss has a boss and I would make a complaint. No person should ever feel uncomfortable in their place of work. That is just completely unexceptable.
But nothing will happen if you choose to listen and not do anything about it”
Sooo NW I believe I did offer other adivise ie: talk to his boss lodge a complaint. So your-welcome for being such an upstanding human being, looking out for the well being of others.
Ok Lorilulu like I said you should go work for him I think you would have alot in common.
Yes, I am glad I don’t work with you, I read your discriptions of yourself and thankfully I work with mature people that have much more class and tact.
If the employee does complain and it keeps happening then yes is would be harrassment lorilulu.
So you don’t like the media idea, so what! As far fetched as it might be someone could still use these tools to make their point especially if they have no where else to go.
Also about this bible thing. I don’t know where religion comes in to this but umm I am a non believer so now what genius.
I must say though low – blow
By low-blow, you must mean your gut, because referring to your private area is something you would never do.
I’m also glad you don’t work with me, I can only imagine the number of complaints you’d be filing daily…we have a word for people like you…
FYI, you have no idea what kind of person I am. This is called the internet and very few things are what they seem.
Since you are so against any kind of sex talk or references, I assumed you were religious….sorry my mistake, your just a prude with your nose in the air!
Enough Said: Your reading comprehension skills are astounding! You DID NOT suggest that the OP inform him that he could be heard and politely ask him not to discuss these things at work. You went right to “Every boss has a boss and I would make a complaint.”. No mention there of dealing with it like an adult first and talking to the boss about it. You have to take the little kid approach and go tell teacher right away. No quarter given to a 75 year old man. Nice. Extremists like you are what make the workplace such a hazerdous place these days! You want everything to be sanitized and bubble wrapped so everyone feels all safe and warm and cozy at work. That’s not how the real world works and that’s the harsh reality of it.
Lorilulu – your an idiot. I have never made a complaint because in my professional place of work we don’t talk like that nor would it be tolarated. Nor do you know what person I am but making comments about your privates and when you shave doesn’t give a good impression. Unless I am some perv. which I am not.
I’m not against sex talk just don’t care for your visuals. If having self respect, couth, and class is being a prude then I am one PROUD PRUDE!
NW – HAHAHAHAHA Are you kidding? At 75 years old he should know better and not need to be told. REALLY! If the 75 year old boss was acting like an adult, there would be nothing to tell. Harsh Reality? I have been in the work force for 15 years and have never had a problem EVER! Sooo I guess I work in a great place. Not sure I would want to venture else where based on what you say.
Enough Said: I’m sorry, I forgot that everyone alive today grew up in the same kind of world, with the same rules. Oh, wait, that’s right, they didn’t. Wow! You’ve been in the workforce for 15 whole years? Really? That’s impressive. With an attitude like yours I’m amazed you’ve managed to stay employed at all.
It’s against Human Rights to be uncomfortable in the workplace? Maybe someone should tell those Canadians in combat, patrolling our streets, fighting our fires. I’m pretty sure most of them get uncomfortable in THEIR workplace.
Uncomfortable in the work place isn’t against nothing but yourself . Being threatened – harassed – threats of and violence and discrimination is illegal . Hearing about your bosses nuts hitting box isn’t . It’s just uncomfortable for you because your getting a visual of your pappy jacked on viagra boning a hooker .
I would say it’s very unprofessional of the dirty old bastard, but not illegal and if the dirty old bastard owns the company it’s his perrogative in how it is run.
Has the OP tried to have a discussion with him about in a mature and reasonable manner?
If the dirty old bastard is not agreeable to a compromise than just quit…or buy earplugs.