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To the guy who stole my heart, and continues to break it into a million pieces – I know you are married, but then why do you continue to lead me on? You made me fall in love with you, and I really wish I didn’t. —The Other Woman
This article appears in Jul 14-20, 2011.
33 Comments
You’re leading yourself on.
Love is what it is, but after all … you know he’s married. We all go willingly. Do not delude thyself.
like bart says,”i didn’t do it.” but seriously, move the fuck on, i can’t see you or anyone going thru this shit again. get rid off your thoughts, they will lead to more hurt down the road. trust the bitchers o.p., most of us have been there.
Your first mistake was getting involved with a married guy.
Unless he hoodwinked you and you didn’t know he was married, you have no one to blame for this situation but yourself. 😉
My guess, OP, is that you’re just good pussy to him because wifey won’t put out nearly as much anymore (or at all). Sorry.
Get some self respect and move on!
DTMFA – The Other Man
So, you’ve outed yourself as a slut?
WOW
Leading YOU on that is halarious. How fucking stupid are you. You are a pathatic person, who will continue to blame others for your stupid decisions. Grow up and leave the married men alone.
You are gutter trash. Trying to take something that is already taken. You are trash and the boy you are attracted to is too. You deserve the depression that you bring into your life.
Improve yourself. Change your life direction.
Totally your own fault.
HOPE IT HURTS LOTS 🙂
D=
No morals = no sympathy.
You get what you deserve here, but I do feel bad that the unfortunate wife’s husband had to meet you.
Grow up/get some sense and don’t go messing up other peoples lives because of your stupid irrational feelings.
Imagine if you were the married one and didn’t know there was some female stalker creepin on your husband like this. Problems like this rarely get solved with words…. I hope you grow up and move on (or preferably, away) for everyone’s sake.
I really dislike your kind, always thinking about yourself no matter what damage you cause to other peoples lives. I bet you lie a lot too, maybe owe some money to friends? Ugh.
As much as I think it’s OP’s fault, I really hate the fact that the guy in this situation is turning into a victim. He’s just as bad as OP, guys! No one forced him to pork this bitch!
Ladies: leave the married menz alone.
Men: leave the married ladiez alone.
Married people: leave the single people alone. if you’re THAT unhappy with your marriage tell your spouse about it and/or fucking leave them already. Cheating on someone is just mean and communication in relationships is key. It’s ok to fall out of love with a partner and it happens, but it’s NOT ok to cheat on them. I’d rather have my partner tell me they don’t want to be with me anymore than stay with me out of obligation when they clearly don’t want to be than be cheated on. You can’t help who you are attracted to and/or have feelings/interest in, but you CAN help how you deal with said feelings.
Thanks PK. The married man is certainly NOT a victim here. And is more in the wrong than the single girl he’s boinkin’ on the side.
Seriously though, sweetie – run away, run far, far away from that situation. It’s nothing but heartache. Move on. And let him deal with himself. Nothing good will come from a relationship that starts with lies.
Did you guys read about Ryan Giggs? That British footballer who was cheating with multiple women … including his brother’s wife … get this … for dun dun dun 8 yrs!
She was interviewed and said that “she was just living in a fantasy world and she’s sorry” … I guess she took up residence, built herself a house, opned a store, planted a garden, bought a car … you know … established herself in that world for 8 solid yrs.
People are demanding that the brother get a paternity test for “his” 2 kids. Amazing how delusional and self serving people can be at times.
Repugnant behaviour should be hidden away. Sorry OP I feel for ya … but only so much.
🙁
She only said he was leading her on… maybe Im not as good at reading between the lines, but I assume they work together or something and it’s mostly in her head =
I could be wayy off but that is how I interpreted it.
Orrrrrrrrr he’s pulling the classic “I’m going to leave my wife… when *insert some bullshit excuse here*” line and OP believes him.
HAY OP: THEY NEVER LEAVE THEIR WIVES.
Why buy the milk when he can get the cow for free?
Orrrrr it’s the old “I’d leave my wife but I have to think about my kids!”
Um, if he thought about his kids he wouldn’t be sticking his penis in OP’s vajayjay.
No way in HELL these two aren’t porking.
He ‘made’ you fall in love with him??? Had a gun to your head did he?? No you fell in love with him because you wanted to do so. Lust or infatuation is very quick to hit yes, but love takes some time to happen – which was time you had to get away from him, especially since you knew he was married. You play the ‘love game’ be prepared to lose – big time.
You know what’s funny? This bitch actually thinks that if he leaves his wife for him that he would not fuck around on her. Fuck, I’d bet they’d cheat on each other. Once a cheat always a cheat. But OB, I do have some sympathy for you. You can find it inthe dictionary between shit and syphlis. You and “your man” are both scumbags.
I’ve been cheated on and I’ve been the other woman. Neither are all that much fun.
Before anyone jumps all over me I will say I had no idea I was the other woman. Once I discovered this detail I high-tailed it. I developed feelings for a man who was never going to be available to me.
Yeah, it sucks but move on. Trust me, just put on your big girl panties, find even an ounce of self respect and move on.
Shit happens, people. It’s easy to cast the first stone. I don’t condone cheating either, but it happens.
Why are you swimming in the ‘married’ end of the pool OP? The only takers there are slimeballs who cheat. Not great husband material really. The only thing lower than a spouse who cheats is the person they cheat with. With no ‘other’ to take the cheater up on their offer of illicit lust/love, cheating would simply not exist.
You make it sound like he just fell onto his dick, Tommy. LOLZ.
You know… why is a guy cheating an asshole while a woman cheating isn’t? If The Bridges of Madison County’s taught us anything….
Don’t EVER tell me how ‘romantic’ that movie is…. cause you’ll get an earful EVERY time.
Trust me, kitteh, cheating women are assholes too.
That should teach you that not all married men are closet gays, sebastian. Good enough for ya.
Don’t worry, OP, I’m sure he’s sizing up his next soft thatch – pity his poor wife and kids instead of boo-hoo-hooing over a selfish prick. She’ll be doing a lot more crying than you ever will over this fucking moral coward.
Oh, and I think the question “What am I to you?” is more appropriate. Clearly you’re the fling, the other woman…..nothing more.
Oh, and by the way…no one ‘makes’ you fall in love. You alone, allow yourself to feel that way.
This man that’s leading you on, that made you fall in love with him has a major character flaw OP. It’s one that ties directly to his trustworthiness as a partner.
If he was unhappy with his marriage and really loved you, he would be yours by now but he isn’t.
That speaks volumes. Leave this situation and find somebody you can build a real future with.
“what am I to you?”
Boo Hoo Poonanny.
Now go fuck someone single, dumbass.
Fuck’s sake…
trood, the OB also has a serious character flaw for even entertaining the thought of fucking a married man. The only people I have sympathy for is the wife and children. Oh BTW OB, I’d get tested for STDs cause he probably has more than you on the side.
PK I agree with your comment…everyone is responsible for their own actions so we shouldn’t blame just one person here. OP hopefully you grow up and get some self confidence and realize that “a wise man learns from others mistakes, a fool from his own” and you made one seriously foolish mistake in getting together with a married man. When you do eventually get married you will spend the rest of your life paranoid that your husband is doing the same thing behind your back that this loser is doing to his wife and the shoe will be on the other foot – then you’ll realize what a horrible person you were for being the “other woman” once, because you’ll now be on the other side of the fence. So maybe its better for you and your sanity to stay the dilusional skank you are right now and keep blaming “him” for YOUR own actions and save yourself from the self loathing that’s ahead.
there you have it op… the peanut gallery has spoken.
“Today… is the first day…. of the rest of your life”
-Dr. Phucking Phil
OP, have you learned nothing? He only wants you for your pussy, and you seem to easily offer it up to him, so no wonder he keeps coming back. Close your legs and you’ll close the door on him.
My sister just discovered her husband had another woman and trust me, it’s not a role you want to play. The guy is a prick in the first place, once a cheater always a cheater. Let some one else be his excuse and move on. You can do so much better and find true happiness instead of being the sucker punch of a sinking love story. Abandon ship.
I’ve always assumed that if you are allowing a married man to lead you on, you know what you are getting yourself into.