I have noticed over the past few months and years that all the good girls go for the douche bag guys in the world and just turn the other cheek to the guys that stick to the way they were taught.
I was always taught to hold the door open not just for a lady but for anyone else you can, I also know that no means no, so why do I feel like this, every good girl I know has gone for the guy that treats her like shit! —FU Douche
This article appears in Sep 16-22, 2010.
It’s something a lot of ladies go through; a kind of phase. They often get over it if they actually mature. Sadly, some do not.
dude, it’s hopeless.
Might as well go for a soda…. it’s better than slander. it’s better than lies.
Well OP you seem to keep yourself (and your kind) well hidden too.
Those guys are only douche bags because she is going home with them. Grow a fucking pair, stop blaming women for not finding you attractive or interesting and do something about it.
I can actually hear you softly sobbing to yourself while masturbating when I was reading your bitch.
Trevor. Trevorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Oh God my meds.
I’m a “good girl” and I found a “good guy”. Quit acting like “good guys” aren’t just as likely to go for the “bad girls”. It goes both ways. Deal with it. Try harder.
I can confirm this, I feel like I’m deff a good girl, and somehow out of all the (poor)decisions I make I keep getting douches.. =[ who knows if there will ever be an explanation.
P.S- LOVE the Kim Mitchel reference in the response from Zzz
The older you get, the more resentful and bitter you feel about staying with the ‘bad’ boy – in my experience, that’s how a lot of good girls end up – in divorce court 10, 20 years later. Any man who steps in the prick’s hoofprint afterwards will have to take lots of shit because of it. Me and me mates have said time and time again: after the ones we’ve got pop off, relationships can kiss our pancake tits and arses goodbye forever. Cackle-cackle – I fucking love being an old broad.
As a so-called “good girl”, I can assure you that there are many good girls out there like myself…but you probably won’t find them frequenting the downtown bar scene on a regular basis.
Sometimes a ‘good girl’ doesn’t want a bad guy, but rather a guy that has some sort of edge. If it’s too easy, it isn’t fun.
Yes, girls want to be with a man who will treat her right, but with that being said, he also must be masculine — spontaneity, adventure, & heart-racing sexiness. A lot of these things can come from being “bad”…
I once broke up with a guy because I felt he didn’t have the so-called “Edge” I am referring to… He didn’t challenge me. I didn’t have to work or fight for anything, it was always given to me. Girls don’t want a douche… they just want you to be the masculine man that you are. Don’t hide it.
cackle cackle. good one…ya old bag
I thought Mel Gibson had the whole “what women want” thing all figured out. Then again, maybe not.
I still don’t know what my wife wants and we’ve been joined at the hip for 27 years!
I say, be yourself OP and fuck ’em if they can’t take a joke.
Skinny made a point, nice girls don’t often go downtown.
Parks, libraries, volunteer, grocery store, and there’s always the Preachers’ daughter at church.
On a side note; skinny – “nice girls” don’t have a need to fight, that would be a “bitch”.
I call bullshit, nice girls DO go downtown… my friends and I frequent downtown and we’re all really nice and fun people. But besides that, the statement “nice girls don’t usually go downtown” is a gross simplification of reality to the point of meaninglessness as well as being completely useless to the OP.
Speaking of which… so you hold doors open and don’t rape people, whoop-dee-doo, you’re a saint. Being polite and nice does not obligate girls to want to be with you. There are dozens of nice guys out there, so what do you have to offer that makes you stand out?
Seriously, forget about girls for a while and think about yourself. What are you interested in? Join a group, read some books, take a class. Make yourself more interesting than you already are, but do it for yourself.
But most importantly you need to get over the cynicism you’ve attached to nice girls, AND the men they choose to date. People can smell that a mile away and it’s not doing you any favors.
wow this snoop person is a voice of reason 🙂
I’d agree with snoop, and I’d also say that people are most attractive when they are passionate about something (hobby, volunteering for a cause, sports etc).
AHAHAHAHAHA TTFN. My mom says that all the time! “once this ride’s over…”
Problem is, OP, at first everyone’s on their best behaviour…by the time the asshole tendencies shine through these girls have “fallen in love” and they don’t want to give that up. That and I have a theory that girls like assholes and douches because these guys tend to have a lot of self importance and being “accepted” is a big deal to these girls. Or something. I dunno. I’ve been involved with two incredible, beyond belief, assholes in my younger days and have learned a few lessons. However, i will say: the ‘nice guy’ often comes across as ‘spineless’ which is a huge turn off.
Sorry for the rambling, guys. It’s off to bed I go!
zzz…. you so crack me up! thanx!
TTFN, wait til you read the bitch I posted. I wish I knew you!
to hell with the good girls, i want one that is bad, because i have been a verrrrrrry bad boy.
hey skinny, you still up for grabbings?
So true. Women seem drawn to assholes. Same with gay guys. Why can’t the nice people meet nice people?
I agree with the Commandante and snoop. Quit whining, and get out there and actually talk to girls. Be yourself and if they don’t like it, move on to the next one. (Though I should probably take my own advice, but that’s something else entirely.)
I just love how some of you bitchers generalize people and relationships. Everybody’s situation is different. I was the good guy, never being agressive in chasing women, and I watched a lot of friends getting laid much more than I did. Five years ago, I met the love of my life, and not to generalize (lol), but most of my skirt chasing friends are still acting like they were 20, and I got to question whether they’re happy. OP, don’t fret, if it’s meant to be, you will meet someone. If not, make the most out of life but stay true to who you are. Some women do find that attractive
Also, the terms “good girl” and “good guy” are somewhat subjective really.
I’ve always dated the “bad guy”…. it’s an initial attraction…then you get to see the softer side and you fall in love because you feel like your special and they opened up to you …then their true colours come out after they have had you for awhile. But you’re stuck now cause you think you can change them….never ending battle with losers like that. But the truth is most girls will either grow up and date a nice guy eventually or divorce the assholes they marry … 20 years of resentment later.
TTFN…I love listening to your point of view. Snoop…I hope you’re in the profession of helping people mentally cause that was great advice!.
We’re here. And we’re wondering where all the good guys are…
Do you all smell that?
that’s me.
I reek of cynicism.
It’s wafting over HRM….
and I’ve had that bloody song in my noodle for a week and a half now.
i’m standing right behind you zZz, ya smell great…teehee
+1 on what BRoc said…I’m in a similar place now, although a few years ago I was very much the skirt-chasing type with a busy dating schedule (but since found the right one).
OP: Don’t validate your life through women. Make life work for you and pursue activities that you are genuinely interested in. Stop thinking you will start having a fulfilling life once you find yourself a woman…it’s the other way around: you will find yourself a woman once you start living a fulfilling life…When you fail to make life work for you (i.e. trying too hard, being overly apologetic or too available), you seem desperate and that’s unattractive. If you are an interesting man who has his shit together, things will happen naturally. Bad guys are only popular with women because they are assertive (and make life work for them).
DaTiffi seems like a “good girl” on the ads next to LTWWB….her and the twins. Maybe you should email her.
In my experience, when I’ve met someone who I ended up in a relationship with… I was never looking .
IT just happened, you meet someone, for example my present lover, at a friends Bar-B-Q.
Seen her a couple of weeks later at another get together, she seemed to be genuinely happy to see me again. We made a date by the end of the day…. took it slow & now were seeeing each other exclusively.
IT happens, happened the same way with my first wife. There was no …see each other & fall madly in love, not that seeing someone & us falling madly in Lust hasn’t happened.
But I don’t believe that is what you meant.
WHy not take some of the others advice, do stuff you like ,do things just for you & keep your eyes opened, meeting someone who you realise you care for & they reciprocate that ,does happen that way.
RC: Spot on with the “DaTiffi” comment…Everytime her ad appears on the page I can’t help but think “My GOD! Why so trashy?” LOL.
Lol on the DaTiffi slut! OP, I think there’s some good advice on here from us. Scary isn’t it? Us bitchers as relationship councelors….
Too easy, Sebastard….toooo easy.
lesbanim flashin her shit all over the interweb.
personally, I think she’s going to get the responses she’s wanting though.
Ohhhhhh I get it PK. Hahahaha wonder if he meant it to be pun like …
@LIFE SUCKS… depends on what kind of ‘grabbings’ you are refering to
hey simple, i’m here also, interested, or interesting.
skinny, only of the best fun kind there me love.
If you plan to ‘get’ women by being the guy ur mommy told u to be, forget it. Why?
Nice stable guy = boring, predictable.
Bad boy = exciting, spontaneous, dangerous.
Women want the former for the long term, but they wanna be seduced by the latter. Why?
Women are built on a platform of emotionality. Until those emotions are rockin and rollin, u may be a good guy/catch but not emotionally satisfying to most women. Hence, you must be an exciting lover before being a lifetimme friend. Ur mom taught u to be the latter cos thats what will secure a long term relationship.. unfortunately, that behavious will not start it.
@Veeny:
Damn. I’m screwed.
@Skinny:
I wish.