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I hope my closest friends wait a bit before bombarding my facebook wall with RIP’s and song lyrics.
And I really hope that past classmates that didn’t know me don’t also jump on the bandwagon. The dead cannot access the internet. —Logged Off
This article appears in Sep 16-22, 2010.
39 Comments
I’ve seen many wall post starting with “I didn’t know you but…”
OP don’t do it. You may not be aware of it today, but you have too much to live for, and you have as much right as any of the rest of us poor struggling idiots to claim your piece of ground.
The days may be getting shorter and darker with the approach of winter, but there is indeed in each of us an invincible summer.
I agree with this.
Leaving RIP”s and cheesy song lyrics is in poor taste. People who start off the wall post with ” i didn’t know you but…” are just vein assholes looking to be part of the club. Its usually about them.
And If i see one more post like ” heaven has another angel now” I am going to gag! I have strict instructions to a few close friends that if i ever meet an untimely death for whatever reason that they are to do two things
1 – Make sure my family doesn’t punk out last second and to ensure they donate all by organs and body tissue
2 – Police my facebook account for this nonsense and have my account shut down as soon as possible so the guy i shared a locker with in highschool for one semester doesn’t post ” tears in heaven” lyrics on my wall.
Fuck, I hate adolescent angst and all its associated spew. Self-indulgent hamster turd.
Great bitch. This is sooooo cheesy! If you knew the family give your condolences personally or keep it to yourself. Posting on FB is all about “look at me”…
So close your Facebook account already. They can’t post to it if it’s not there! I swear this site should be called LTWWW… Love The Way We Whine
Facebook is dead.
Why do you care about what people do after your gone on your Facebook? Are you sick? is something wrong? If so, then think positive thoughts and enjoy what days you have left…don’t waste them on FB.
Even worse is when you see Facebook pages dedicated to people who’s deaths were in the news. Case in point, that folk singer who got mauled last year by coyotes in the Cape Breton Highlands. Some people from my place of birth nearby started the page, and all of a sudden everyone in the village is the singer’s biggest fan. Very cheezy…
“If I should die, think only this of me.
That there is some corner of facebook that is forever…OH FUCK IT!”
OP …put down the facecrack pipe !
just throw it away.
Never pick it up again & you’ll fade away from the interest of the other facecrack heads.
Just fade away & you’ll only be bombarded by the facecracks auto generated e-mails for a week or so.
You can do it, just take a little bit of will power & you can come here & bitch with us to give you something to do with your hands ~;)
op here. I feel like a few misinterpreted the bitch. I am not contemplating suicide. I just think its ridiculous when someone dies, and members of the immediate family find out on the facecrack news feed.
I completely agree… unfortunately this is how I found out of a very close family members death only an hour after it had occured… my parents never had the chance to call me before it was blasted all over FB. Definitely not a great way to find out :S
And the constant updates through FB after a close friend passes away is like a jarring reminder every time. And a lot of people are not tactful at all. Just really, really obtuse.
I found out my best friend went into labour 6 weeks early on FB. I was a little upset.
You say ….close family member died an hour before & no one called you !W!T!F !??????
I had a death in the family 2 weeks ago this coming Wednesday…I was informed within minutes by phone !
I immediately started calling others in the family …by the time an hour went by EVERYONE ,their children & friends & pets…ANYONE who was close had been informed….Maybe Purplefire this “very close family” member is actually just a figment of your imagination !?!
Maybe “close” & “family” are different in your family than in ours !
When I shuffle off this mortal coil I want people to post the lyrics from ‘I Want To Fuck You Like An Animal” on my wall. >; )
Just kidding – I may always have my face in a book, but facebook – never gonna happen. (Mostly cuz i don’t know how)
I was JUST saying the same thing the other day. Mourn in REAL life, not the internet. How tacky. If you don’t know the family or person that passed well enough to console them in real life, then stay away from the FACEBOOK cliches. It just comes across as disrespectful and it takes away from the seriousness of the situation.
Haha. I had a brief discussion with two of my girl friends and I said, “If I die suddenly when Facebook is still relevant and popular, I want you two to create my FB RIP group… and boot all the people that post cheesy lyrics, poems, and suggestions that ‘I’m in a better place’.” I also told them I want them to have my password so they can update my status regularly saying that I’m still dead, etc.
I don’t want people to not miss me… but I don’t need a million people who didn’t have a positive place in my life pretending that suddenly they feel sorry for me.
Oh, I also told them they’re in charge of all the Picniks (you know, that cheesy photo editing thing that all the teen douchebags use where they add “cool” effects and lyrics to the image). They’re going to be like, “[insert name here]: I had a class with him once”.
shithawk,
I am happy to learn that I misinterpreted this bitch.
o.p., if i knew you, and you were an asshole, i’d piss on your grave.
somehow I think the odds of them posting this, then dying and then getting buried within 24 hours to have a grave to piss on in the first place is a little sketchy….
realchick, would your friend’s initials be p.r., and has a douchebag boy that just beat her up?
Ah, I’ll be dead. Away from all you ppl, definitely in paradise 😉
I care not what occurs on FB.
Sebastard only said FB’s dead because no one will be his friend.
Poor, poor ‘tard.
None of my relatives is on facebook. lol I guess that can be a good thing. But I wouldn’t mind it if people wrote stuff on my wall after my death. At least they cared enough to write something.
Did I just sound very emo?
On the Emo-Scale I’d say you’re sitting at about 4.5 Morrisseys. Anything above 6 you should consider locking up the household knives. Anything above 8 you are in severe danger of toxic shock syndrome from excessive black hair dye.
you sound like a gnome with boobies newt^^
“The dead cannot access the internet.”
Since when are you an authority on this shithawk (although I do agree with your sentiments regarding suckbook, shitbook, fuckbook, lamebook, crookbook, schmuckbook, yuckbook, schnookbook, look-at me-book, etc., etc.)?
Why the hell would “the dead” want to access Facebook?
What are the keys for yawn?
:-O (no, that’s surprise)
😀 (no, that’s laugh)
:-* (no, that’s kiss)
}:-( (don’t know what the hell that is)
:-() (Izzat it?)
Lifesucks..nope that’s not my friend. Sorry to hear about her though.
More- actually she was like a second mother to me. My Aunt and I were very close and talked all the time. My parents wanted to wait the hour until I got off work so I would be able to make it home without being devastated. They didn’t think it was appropriate for me to have to hear about the death of a loved one while I was at work dealing with people. I actually really don’t appreciate you saying that maybe I just wasn’t as close as I had thought. All of my family is in Newfoundland and unfortunately I was unable to be home for the funeral because I have no more leave left at work and although my aunt is closer to me than most everyone else in my family, she is not considered an “immediate” by the Government and therefore I was unable to get the time off to go home. I could also not afford it. It was devastating for me to be here while my family (parents, brother, my aunt’s children who I am also close with) were all home suffering. Hearing about it on FB on the bus home was exactly what my parents were trying to help me avoid.
I’m so sorry purple fire. I can’t imagine having to go through that kind of news on a bus. I had a friend pass and there was a FB page in place within hours. I had to get a hold of another friend out west to tell her before she read about it. I wanted to wait till she got home from work too but couldn’t chance it and had to tell her there. I’m really really sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 4 years ago, I can’t imagine not being able to go the funeral and getting to say goodbye. (hugs to you)
Thanks Real Chick… I appreciate that.
I’m really sorry for the loss of your mom, I don’t know what I’d do without mine, even if I only see her twice a year because she’s in another province.
Purplefire…your parents are inconsiderate.
Fuck work & the people there.
Fuck no more leave/time off.
THAT IS BULLSHIT.
When the recent death happened to us, one of my brothers tried your lame ” I’ve got no more time off” CRAP EXCUSE.
I didn’t ask work for time off, I told them I was taking it. I’m not a little child to be dictated to when there’s a family emergency.
I called his boss & asked him how that would look in the papers ? We plaster what an asshole you are…this isn’t time off, this is DEATH in the family !
I’m very sorry to hear of your loss, I know how much it can affect you & those around you…everyone seems to deal with it in different ways !
I just suffered one of my own. But you are an adult (I am assuming) don’t ask work for a couple of days , tell them you are taking a couple of days…its CALLED COMPASSIONATE LEAVE.
When you see your parents, you might want to have a talk about their consideration for someone at your work, being more improtant than your right to know !
More- you seem like an ignorant prick. You have no idea as to why my leave at work does not work that easily. I have ZERO sick leave, personal leave, vacation or any other kind of leave left. This is NOT an excuse, this is a fact. I had been off for medical reasons for two months and was in a training program. I would NEVER give a bullshit excuse for not going home. I would have given anything to be able to go home to be with my family, as it is I can’t even go home at Christmas time. No, staying in a province where I have no family is not how I would chose to go through my Aunt’s death. I am an adult, meaning I have to deal with consequences and sometimes do things that I really don’t want to do. One of those being work.
Fuck you for talking about my parents. They are no where near inconsiderate. They were being considerate of ME by not wanting me to have a breakdown while I was at work then have to get the bus home. I’m not really sure how else to get that through to you. When my father called me two minutes after I had read about it on facebook he was devastated that I had to find out that way. He couldn’t imagine how someone who had JUST LOST their mother an hour before would already have it posted on facebook. He doesn’t use facebook, has never been on it and doesn’t completely get what the purpose of it is… had he known I would have found out like that he would have told me. Last year when my grandfather had passed away my parents did call me immediately. I was on my lunch break and devastated while still having to get home. I then ASKED THEM to not tell me about a death while I was at work. They were not being considerate of my co-workers, they were being considerate of their daughter who lives far away and who they are unable to be with at such a devastating time.
So once again, FUCK YOU.
When my Da bought the farm… passed on… rolled down the curtain and joined the choir invisible… I had to make a very fast trip from Ottawa to Toronto… made possible by my friend Paul who left his own work and drove rather quickly to pick me up and deliver me to North York General. HE got the time off… I did not. My boss basically said: ‘Hey, not my Dad, you’re gonna be docked kiddo’. Nice. I thank Paul all the time for being an awesome friend. My boss’ own Da died a few weeks later. HE got all sorts of benefits. Life stinks in many different ways.
And PF– hugs my girl! My condolences to you and your family. Not all of us suck!
Thank you TheBlackRose, I appreciate that. It definitely doesn’t make it any easier having someone tell you you’re making excuses to not be there for your family.
..’4.5 Morrisseys’ – bahawhawhawhaw – I’ll raise you two Pete Dohertys.