When I got engaged, I telephoned you, long-distance, to let you know. I waited several days to post the news on Facebook because I was unable to get hold of you. I even emailed and texted you to find out when I could reach you by phone to tell you my news. You were SO excited, and very thankful that I told you before you read about it on Facebook. Your exact words were “That would have been horrible, I’m so glad you told me “in person” instead of letting me read about it.”
That was a year ago. Today, I get a NewsFeed on my Facebook that you got married. MARRIED! As awesome as I think that is, I am ROYALY pissed that you didn’t even TRY to contact me before you put it up for the world to see! It’s not like my number has changed, it’s not like we haven’t been in touch. I know you eloped, but come on, a quick call to tell me before I learned about it with people you barely even KNOW would have been nice.
—am I nuts to be pissed?
This article appears in Jan 14-20, 2010.
yeah. You’re nuts.
“Facebook: helping “friends” miscommunicate, one status update at a time”
big deal, it’s their lives, let them live it. i’m sure you don’t tell the world every time you take a crap, do you?. maybe they figured you were just too much of a whiner, to bother telling you, i wouldn’t. so suck it up, move on, and maybe find someone of your own, to do whatever with.
You’re a fucking ridiculous child, OP, I’m surprised you have the maturity to get married, given your idiotic outrage. I’ll bet a string of sulfuric anal toots that you’re female and under 30.
An early candidate for “Stupidest Bitch of 2010”
The most negative people in the world are on here it seems. I noticed it seems like a group of people float around just to say negative things, even if its a stretch. This post proves it.
You should start a facebook page.
with the state of marriage these days it’s not a big deal to most people; so they probably didn’t give it a second thought.
Hey Bad Guy, why don’t you change your name to “good guy” then, and use a picture of someone who isn’t a complete alcoholic rapist.
Sometimes we think our friend’s values are the same as our own but that is not always so.
“The most negative people in the world are on here it seems. I noticed it seems like a group of people float around just to say negative things, even if its a stretch. This post proves it.” What the fuck are you expecting on a bitch board, dunmbass? Go to the “Love the Way We Love’ board and gush your goodness over there, will ya? I’m sure you’ll be farting unicorns and rainbows in no time.
You’re obviously not as important to your “friend” as they are to you OP.
Or you’re at least not as important to them as their new spouse.
farting unicorns yea baby:)
someone else doing something without your knowledge….
burn em at the stake!
they have no right not to update you every moment of every day to ensure you are well informed that their crap was shaped like a half eaten grilled cheese and floated surprisingly well considering it was made up of processed taco’s and pountine.
must have been the corn acting like little buoys.
Sometimes people get married “in secret” (or while on vacation, for example) for good reasons. They may not want to deal with the whole “wedding thing” especially if they have overbearing family members who want to run the show.
You know your friend better than any of us. You should know if she did anything to deliberately exclude you, or if she and her fiance (now husband) just did something “for themselves” for reasons that make sense in the bigger picture.
Wow, funny how only a few people read things the way I did. I find this place a fascinating fishbowl…
Love Miles’ comment…
So you go out of your way to do something “nice” for a friend.
Your friend (apparently) gushes about this wonderful deed.
Then said friend goes and does the *exact opposite* of what you did.
Personally, I think the OP *should* be pissed if for no other reason than they don’t share the same idea of friendship that they thought they did.
who cares?
You do know what “elope” means… right?
if you can easily kill and ant and easily elope… can you easily kill and antelope?
OP: Why the fuck should you care?
YOU ARE MARRIED, your psuedo jealousy is likely not impressing the new wifehusband.
Get over it and stop focusing on your failed marriage before your present marriage also falls into the failed category, Ya Jackass!
actually, they’re just engaged is all we can infer from the bitch as it is written.
two years isn’t long to be engaged these days either…
I was for over 3 years.
True…but I am sure it’s still upsetting to the new partner, frankly if I was recently engaged to a fine lady and she acted like this over an ex…faith and trust would quite possibly be irrevocably ruined; thus the engagement would be over.
Unfinished business like that leads to DRAMA and bad news all around.
Why buy the cow ?
When you can rent it if needed 😉
…what exactly does the title have to do with the bitch? Is there some new jazzy expression I’m nissin out on? Did I not get the memo AGAIN?!
Yea really – your engaged – the other is married . Whats that tell you ? Fuckin moron is what that tells you . When you move on , you move on !!!
OP Your expectations of your Nova Scotian “friend” are much too high… obviously. Yeah, be pissed they don’t give a rat’s ass what you think, feel, say, etc. Save your considerate friendship for those who not only deserve it but also appreciate it and maybe you don’t become a fucking BITCH like your “friend”.
I guess when people read these they infer whatever will allow them to spew the most vitriol possible. I guess this is why I troll.
Not that any of you give a rat’s hairy ass, but I feel that I need to clarify some particularly shitty inferences.
1) This is one of my best friends, not an ex. Same sex, in fact, and no, we didn’t “experiment” in University. We are in touch OUTSIDE of Facebook on a fairly regular basis.
2) I am not an under 30 female.
3) My fiancee is pissed about this too, and supports me, and it’s possible to be engaged as long as is necessary to raise the money for the wedding you want.
4) Lots of people elope. It’s not the elopment I have issue with. It’s the fact that someone I have talked down from a ledge – literally, didn’t break incredible news to me somewhat personally, but allowed me to read about it at the same time as their coworkers and people who happen to like playing the same Facebook games as them. ESPECIALLY after they made a huge deal about how I broke my exciting news “personally”.
5) Sorry, Kay, this friend is actually from (and living in)ALBERTA. Put that in your crackpipe and smoke it.
Some of you people are incredibly jaded assholes who clearly can’t have an opinion without making assumptions to support your moronic opinions. No wonder you spend so much time here.
I know! There really should be a page that you can bitch and receive your well deserved sympathy to soothe your emotional state.
*Woman*
“Some of you people are incredibly jaded assholes who clearly can’t have an opinion without making assumptions to support your moronic opinions. No wonder you spend so much time here.”
phew, I’m glad I’m not one of them….
LS, martym, Basil, we’re looking at you.
whilst i am incredibly jaded; i don’t think i’m an asshole though i could be wrong:)
Lame bitch. Get off your damn FACEBOOK and get out in the real world with real people.
Coaster, if you really care that much about it, bring it up with your friend and ask WHY she did it that way. Explain that you feel a little hurt if you think that’s necessary. Maybe there’s a perfectly good reason why she did things that way. Ask her if you are still her BFF and this all a misunderstanding. Bottling it up and bitching about it anonymously is pretty immature. If your friendship has real value this will blow over. Otherwise one, or both of you are being pretty petty to make something as stupid as this a big deal. Be happy for your friend. She was happy for you. Who cares how you found out? What did you do when you read the status update anyway? Did you call her to congratulate her personally or just give her a “likes”?
I bitched about it anonymously because I wasn’t sure how to handle it, and before I said anything about being hurt by it, I wanted to see if I was overreacting.
Then I got attacked by a bunch of people who think that just because I’m on Facebook once in a blue moon (which is another reason this bothers me – this friend knows I am hardly ever on), I am incapable of RL friendship.
Again, not like anyone else gives a shit, but I *did* call my friend, and have so far not mentioned my upset, but when I was told that “everybody knew”, I politely suggested that “everybody who lives in the same province may have”, and immediately moved on to discussing the particulars of the special day.
Yes, in my opinion you are overreacting. If your friendship with this person hinges on things like this then the friendship isn’t as important or solid as you might think. Friends make mistakes. When people go and elope there are bound to be lots of people (like family and close friends) pissed off at them about not being told about their “special day”. Do you really want to be another one of them? This isn’t about YOU or your friendship..it’s about your friend handling a situation in a way they thought best.
If you are truly good friends you can either talk to her about it or let it slide. If you find that the friendship is increasingly one sided this way because she keeps doing stuff like this then you should realize that your friendship might mean something different to her than it does to you. At that point you can reevaluate how much effort you want to continue putting into the relationship.
At the end of the day, it’s just a missed phone call. You aren’t the only person in their life and sometimes you might be overlooked, especially when things are hectic, like when you elope.
So was all this just to lead up to this future conversation?
Coaster: I know her!
other random friend from facebook: Yeah, me too. we’ve been friends for a couple years
Coaster: no.. you don’t understand. I KNOW her… she even tells me things before posting them on Facebook.
other random friend from facebook: WOW! that must be amazing! what’s that like? you must be a truly special and unbelievable friend! Can I confide in you just as much?
will you have time what with your other amazing friendships to be my BFF too?
Miles;
Thank you for not attacking me about this.
My friendship does not “hinge” on this, I was hurt and upset at what I perceived as a slight by someone I have a close bond with.
Because they went on about how considerate I was and said they would have been extremely hurt if they’d heard about it on Facebook, I assumed -yeah, I know- they’d’ve had the same consideration for me.
We’re several provinces apart, and already have a hard time keeping in touch between schedules and time differences, I feel more hurt than anything else that “everybody else” knew because it just compounds the distance.
All in all, I have let it go because being happy about it is more important to me than bringing it up at a time when happiness should be the order of the day.
I guess the rest of these bitches just don’t get the idea that the initial shock and hurt of a situation allows people to occasionally over react -I’m sure none of the bile-spewing assholes here have never over reacted to anything.
Again, thanks for helping put this into perspective.
When you told them you got engaged….the message there is you moved on.
Consider that they had to come to terms with that, and they had to move on in there own way, and that respectfully may include excluding you from there lives.
😀
i dont understand this… arent you engaged? why are you constantly trying to get this persons approval? sounds like youre not ready.. or over her
sounds like she is ready, and over you
better deal with that before you tie the knot dude
mave…read some of the posts, the OB clarified that they are actually same sex and best friends.