It sucks that it doesn’t matter what you do to prove something to someone, because once they have made up their minds it’s practically concrete.
Everyone makes huge, hurtful, horrendous mistakes, but some of us actually mean it when we say we’re sorry. Building back someone’s trust can take time, understandably, but it’s a big encouragement and incentive to know when efforts are appreciated. Even so, I’ll be… —Trying Regardless
This article appears in Aug 26 – Sep 1, 2010.
Once trust has been broken it is the hardest thing in the world to gain back. Usually it’s better to cut your losses and start from scratch, unless you have a family. But don’t go looking for credit for doing better – YOU screwed up, so YOU have a lot of work to do. You’re not going to get cheered on for your efforts. (EVERYONE makes mistakes, but with every action there’s a reaction, sorry man!)
My trust can only be broken once….and never rebuilt.
It has happened to me too OP, and I just moved on knowing that I didn’t lose anything by losing someone in my life who couldn’t trust me enough to believe in my sincere apology. It hurts for a while, but eventually the pain goes away.