I’m sick of your depressed, antisocial behavior as of late. Stop letting your whole life be controlled by some guy you just met 2 months ago! You are no longer the person you used to be. I tried (as many others have as well) to get you to hang out or for your friends to even meet this new guy of yours but you always come up with a lame excuse. You say this guy has done disrespectful things to you (like not wear a condom even though you insisted) and it doesn’t sound like your personalities are even close. I tried to offer advice but you never listen. Well, I’m gonna do you a favour and stop. I wish you all the best but please don’t come begging for a place to stay when it doesn’t work out. I’m sorry your self esteem is so low that you have to cling to the first guy who shows you attention… You deserve better! And for those reading this: I’m not some jealous, bitching friend. I’m happily married with kids. I’m just a concerned friend that’s fed up with with all this BS. —Moving On
This article appears in Mar 24-30, 2011.
Whoa.
People have to face up to their own mistakes – it sounds like this girl has the backbone of a stool softener. Her self confidence issues might require her to get smacked by a 2×4 of reality for a while. Like yourself, I grew tired of people with no self-esteem sucking the life out of me with all their fucking drama – cut her loose, OP – women like this would rather be perpetual victims than actually work towards extracting themselves from that defeatest mindset.
She sounds like a real glutton for punishment. Maybe she likes the drama it generates in her life; a drama queen/daredevil but who is too scared to go skydiving, and so instead she dates major assholes and then gets to whine about it over coffee and see the jaws of her friends drop in shock and pity as she tells them about his various evil misdeads. I’ve met people who get a thrill out of doing shit like this and TTFN’s right; it’s better to drop them.
That message didn’t flow very very well; a few typos and plus, I’m in a bad mood today!
Sounds like she lies riding his cock. No wonder she stays with him. You’ll see her in 9 months sporting a baby.
It’s simple: she likes the attention this guy is giving her. Is she overly experienced with men? How old is she? Maybe she figures she can’t do any better because her self esteem is so low and she hasn’t had a lot of experience with guys and figure this is the only guy she’ll ever have? The whole low self esteem thing was common, I found among my peer group when I was younger, but climbing closer to 30 you really need to cut the shit: lack of confidence is the most unattractive quality a person can possess. Especially when their constant complaining is really just a ploy for compliments. But, no matter how many times OTHERS reassure you, you gotta start believing it yourself. No one can love you until you love yourself first. OP’ll learn eventually… but not before this guy smacks the shit out of her at some point. And if he won’t use condoms when requested… isn’t that a form of sexual assault?
HA that’s the best time TO visit the bitch board, Z, when you’re in a bad mood ^_^
bitches like the bad boys….
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwAFDlMsXhA
My best friends have seen me date some stupid men….make poor decisions….stood by me in bridesmaids dresses and marry the wrong man…watch me make horrible mistakes in my life…and still give me sound advice, & lend me a shoulder to cry on. Sometime good people make poor choices but to be a good friend you need to stand back and let them make those choices. When someone is your true-friend then you should always be there for them.
Sebastian’s jealous.
“I’m sorry your self esteem is so low that you have to cling to the first guy who shows you attention… You deserve better!”
Your right! She does deserve better! Your Idea of better! The Man YOU think she should be with. Maybe like your Brother or that Guy at your work , pawn one of your ex’s?? Nothing would be good for her unless it’s everything to do with your ideal and under your control? Maybe your upset she’s not always available to be at your beck and call to give you free child care and companionship on a nightly basis cause she’s found, A LIFE!??? Sure person said should be lace’n it up if thats what she insists. Though you insisting your a great friend while instilling those negative belief’s one might have for herself and stomping off shows the age or your maturity and the strength of your friendship/ maladaptation.
and how completely selfish does one need to be in order to judge someones excuses “Lame” or irrelevant?
Personally, from what you have written, I’d conclude your egocentric ,controlling and manipulative individual who has some deep rooted feelings about being tied down with children and a lame example of a very good friend.
and i never comment on this thing.
some people go that extra mile o.p., to be the center of attention to one they are with. others just get dragged along in the wake. your friend sounds like the latter of the two. time will tell who is right. if a good friend, be there to catch her and help mend the mind.
This is the orginal writer of the topic. I realize I may have offended some parties involved and for that I am sorry. I have misunderstood the condom issue, I now I understand that the parties involved mutually agreed on, at times, not using condoms. Again I am very sorry.
“love they way we fessup”
….and you can point that fuckin finger up y’r ass!!
I take my last comment back. It takes a lot of courage to admit you made a mistake. I’m sure it means a lot to everyone involved.