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Constantly, I’m told to lower my voice, usually while I’m on my cell phone talking to my mother. I explain my mother’s half deaf and still get told to lower my voice. I will not lower my fucking voice!. I’m no different than a caregiver. Understand my situation or you can shut the fuck up. –Hear Me Roar
This article appears in Jan 19-25, 2017.
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And if people cut the slack for you, they’ll have to do it for every person on a cell talking to someone hard at hearing. It is your responsibility, as a grown ass adult, to go someplace where people don’t have to listen to you scream into a cell phone. I certainly wouldn’t want to listen to you, no matter what the circumstances. It’s called good manners. Go get yourself a heaping helping of some.
Maybe you could give your mother a phone that has volume control so she could turn it up on her end. Problem solved.
I am woman hear me roar… but because you are woman doesn’t give you the right to roar. Inside voices children! Take your call outside please.
WHAT…?
I especially like people who get annoyed at me when I have to ask them to repeat themselves because I have poor hearing. Hey, if I heard you the 2nd time I wouldn’t ask a 3rd.
Where is this voice when people have to tell you to lower it? If in a public space then you need to take your fat arse away and scream into the phone to half-deaf momma. Maybe you should provide her a cell phone and have her text. Turn down the volume as those who text with the clickity-clack keys are lonely and depressed and like to listen to their own noise.
There must be an epidemic of deaf mommas out there because a lot of people yell into their phones. Seriously though, it’s a matter of being respectful of the personal space of others. Yelling into your phone in close proximity of others is an invasion of that space. It’s akin to farting in public. So, don’t make an outgoing call to a hard-of-hearing person when you are in close quarters and if they call you either step away to an open space or, if not possible, tell them you will call back. It’s just a matter of being considerate of others. You would feel the same way if the roles were reversed.
“What? Speak up!” said the fish, “I’m hard of herring!”
Stop being a tight wad and get your mom a hearing aid or a loud speaker phone
Understand that you cannot demand respect if you aren’t willing to give it. Sometimes, it might not be feasible for you to remove yourself to have a private, albeit loud, conversation with your hearing impaired mother; when this happens, I can understand and sympathize with you. More often than not, you can delay your conversation to a more appropriate time and relocate it to a more appropriate venue. In those cases, try not be so selfish as to assume that everyone must cater to your needs while you blatantly refuse to consider theirs.