Stop telling me, “Oh, you don’t understand because you don’t have a baby!” Or, “When are YOU going to have a baby?” Since when does someone have to pop a baby out of their vag to realize that a 10 month old baby should not be eating sodium-packed processed foods? Also, what makes you think I want to have a baby? I’m not even in my mid-twenties yet. I’m still in university, and I’m not in a serious or loving relationship. What the fuck do I want with a kid, I can’t even support myself yet. Oh wait… the same goes for you. You get government money and the father of the baby treats you like shit. You stay with him because you think your child will SOMEHOW have a better life with 2 unhappy parents that constantly argue and resent each other rather than 2 happy parents that are separated.
So, next time you ask me, “When are you going to have a baby?” I will tell you, I don’t want to be like you. I want to be able to support MY child myself and wait until I am in a situation to do so. I’m still young and your life changes drastically when you have a child. I want to focus on myself. I don’t even know who I am yet. Fuck off and stop trying to convince me that your mistakes should be mine too. I can’t even explain this to you because you reject it all. It’s difficult for me because I genuinely care about you and the child. I can’t voice my concerns over you feeding your baby processed foods because I would be deemed “judgmental” or “too opinionated”. I just hope your daughter doesn’t turn out like you. —Needs some new friends
This article appears in Jan 27 – Feb 2, 2011.
You don’t sound like a friend at all OP. Or you would try and talk to her without the name calling and saying that you hope her kid doesn’t turn out like her and saying she’s a loser for her choices.
I agree you shouldn’t have a child if you’re not ready – and I’d prefer that you be able to afford that child as so many tax payers would probably agree.
Word of advice…no one likes being given parenting advice because they feel like you’re saying they are a bad parent. Even though you may just be trying to help. Keep your opinion to yourself…hopefully your friend will come around and hopefully you will be there for her when she eventually needs help.
you know bitches be hatin’ on each other….
Sounds like they live in Fairview…
Actually,I’m kinda on OBs side. http://www.pollsb.com/photos/o/31325-forev…
People who do this aren’t good parents.
Babies do not need to be super-sized, ffs.
You do sound awfully judgemental op.
that poor tyke looks like he has liver problems…what’s with britney donkster?”
That’s her new album Pg. It’s out in March. I’m properly chuffed, for she’s my guilty pleasure!
lol I’m not gonna lie, at first I thought it was ke$ha. 😛
Tell your baby-bearing buddy to stick a steaming hot baby bottle up her fucking arse and rotate. I didn’t have kids until I was in my thirties and have absolutely NO regrets, probably why I don’t suffer from empty nest syndrome because I HAD A LIFE BEFORE I WAS 30!!!! Man, I hate women who think just because you have a cunt, you have to pop ’em out like a Pez dispenser. This is one friend you should drop.
pleasure should never feel guilty but i am surprised at the choice^^
Hey now, thou shalt not sip the haterade. How dare thee denigrate the name of my Goddess, mistaking her for Ke-dollar-ha. Shame.
Pg, seeing the ‘Hit Me Baby One More Time’ (her first) music video pretty much changed my life. Guess I grew up on her, and can’t fight it.
Hahaha I wasn’t hating, the thumbnail just looked all glittery, which apparently is kind of her trademark or something. I’m not judging either, since we all have guilty pleasures.
i enjoy me some stompin tom, tho i don’t let that personality out very often
Bud the Spud from the ripe red mud…that was the tune that looped through my coconut when I used to hitchike to PEI in the 70s.
i have never been to sudbury. a classic none the lesshttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkHhx3y__9w
As someone who has been trying (unsuccessfully) for two years to have a baby, I can tell you – there is nothing, I repeat nothing, more painful than having people ask “When are you going to have a baby?”
Next time you have the urge to ask someone this question, consider this – maybe they can’t have a baby. Maybe they’ve just had a miscarriage. Maybe they don’t want children, and don’t need to be be judged for it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkHhx3y__9w
I don’t see any name calling.. just the OB hoping that the daughter doesn’t turn out like the Mom.. which I kinda agree with.. do we really need more people sponging off the system?
You know what I find gross? When expectant mothers track how big their belly is getting via facebook profile photos. I’m talking about bare skin close up of their stomach filling up the entire photo. Every week there’s another picture of their slightly bigger stomach. ICk
And then there’s all the TMI facebook status updates.
“Nipples leaked for the first time today, I must be getting close!”
…eew
The OB is absolutely right and has her head on straight. Too bad there aren’t more lke her out there. If there were, the welfare rolls would be much lower. And what’s worse they are proud of being knocked up by some idiot who takes off, not pay support, etc, etc, etc.
OB you’re more than ok in my books.
Anytime anyone I know tells me they or their girlfriend are pregnant I have a hard time saying congratulations. Mostly because I know some of my tax dollars are going to go to paying their child credit.
Bill Cosby said it best, not an exact quote, but the spirit is there, “There is a simple formula to life. If you wait to have children until you are in a stable relationship and have a stable job you will probably not end up poor and your children will have the best opportunity in life,”
More people need to follow this advice.
Call this sexist but it seems like some young women in this country have gotten it into their heads that it is a good life choice to have kids and get social assistance.
That being said I think welfare should be available to anyone who needs it, but some people just abuse the fuck out of the system .
OP, 2 ways to go: Either suck up if she is a real good friend, or just move on. You can’ tell some people anything.
And pls post pics. LOL
without wasting my time, reading the whole bitch. i can honestly say, that new moms don’t know everything and the classes that they go to, are just about a waste of their time. you have to either have experience first hand, or listen to, and acknowledge that older people have done this thing before.
so listen to and heed their advice. don’t be a stuck up book learned asshole. because the babies in the books are not all babies that their teachings will work on. you have to take the practical approach to child raising, and that’s where your mom and other more experienced people come in.
JUST FUCKING DO WHAT THEY SAY, IT PROBLY WORKED ON YOU ALL?
Fuck it’s annoying when people on welfare have kids and then we reward them for not using birth control when they have more! If you have a good job and can support a kid by all means have a baby at whatever age you are ready. Living paycheck to paycheck? Close your legs ho.
..tell your “friend” Op she can gaze into her future life via the Jerry Springer show 🙂
I’m also a black sheep in this bit… As in “I’m early 20’s and I haven’t produced a fucking kid” black sheep…
OP: Next time someone asks you “When are you going to have a kid” I suggest you respond with “When are you going to support my kid?”
That tends to shut em up
What the heck will this country, and the USA and UK look like in 50 years? Watching Maury and Jerry, it’s alarming the amount of welfare fodder that’s being produced, while the taxpayer base is decreasing.
Perhaps we will have scewed our way back to a 3rd world situation?
On the other hand, The First 48 is trying to redress the balance by acting as a Henry Morgentaler clinic, but uses guns instead of surgical instruments.
I’m married which means that for one hour a day at suppertime Judge Judy is on the flatscreen . Now, like living next to a sawmill I’ve learned to let the screech fade into the white noise but I had to laugh earlier in the week when she gazed at the complainants, shook her head ruefully and said “Oi, the Chinese are going to win”
Exactly OP. At least you are using your brain, whereas it sounds like your friend just uses her vag (as you put it).
I’m with the OP. It’s Ok to tell your friend that your goals are different than hers. Just be prepared to walk away from that friendship because she’s not going to like it. By the sounds of it, you two really have zippity-doo in common, anyway.
see: frumping ob
Elton John – The Circle Of Life.
You can also tell your friend that you have a vag, and not a clown car :p