Please stop telling people that I broke up with you because you have schizophrenia. I broke up with you because you treated me like garbage. I know that your life is hard, but that does not give you an excuse to refer to me as c**t or b**ch. I know that you have trouble managing your finances when you get so little from welfare, but I have a hard time being sympathetic when you spend your money on booze, smokes, and tattoos, then expect me to pay your rent. I know that your motivation for work and chores is low, but I don’t want to be treated like your personal chef, maid, or shopper. Telling me that you can’t wash your own underwear because of your illness sounds like a cop out to me, especially when you’re dashing out the door to go play pool with your friends as you say this. I want a relationship with someone who treats me with respect, and you just weren’t doing this. I knew you had schizophrenia early in our relationship, this never bothered me. People with schizophrenia are not lazy, stupid or mean as part of their illness. The more time we spent together, the more I realized that you were all three – innate personality or character flaws, not from symptoms. Taking advantage of my finances, treating me like a personal servant, your rudeness towards me, and your ongoing neglect of your own grown-up responsibilities are why I needed to end this. I would date someone else with a mental illness, I have a few friends who struggle with this and none of them treat other people like you treated me. I didn’t break up with your schizophrenia, I broke up with you. —It’s not me, it’s you
This article appears in Feb 12-18, 2015.
good for you op. what a putz.
Managing finances? What finances? Glad you got away from this mess.
DO NOT REPEAT IT!
Of course, you do realize you need to treat yourself with respect first. Seems to me you are/were lacking in this department.
Today is your lucky day. You can live each day for the rest of your life thankful that you got away from this disaster.
Trust me, EVERYTHING is going to be better for you from now on–it can never again be as bad as what you just escaped.
OB, as someone with a schizophrenic relative I can assure you that you did the right thing. If a schizophrenic takes their medication they can often stay on an even keel but when they self- medicate with cigarettes and alcohol that’s another story. And, if they are being verbally abusive then there is no way you should put up with that. There’s no excuse for bad behaviour. You need to take care of yourself.
A young woman who actually respects herself. I applaud you, lady.
Good move OP, this guy sounds like a professional victim.
Don’t you think that you’re being a bit masochistic?
A disability doesn’t give one the right or excuse to be an Asshole.
Mental health-shaming! Typical feminist thinking she dodged a bullet.
Well, Mary, the guy is apparently single now, so maybe he just needs a nice girl like yourself to “rescue” him. Let us all know how it goes. That sort of thing always works out juuuuuuuust fine.
Please tell me how this is mental health shaming or makes her a feminist? I am proud of op for making the step to leave him. I agree with crispy critters, he’s acting like a professional victim, and she put up with his abuse for too long. From someone who left their ex fiancé for very similar reasons and more… It takes a lot of courage to walk away knowing the person you love suffers a disorder, but it’s no excuse to treat someone like garbage. Kudos and good luck.
cat lady,
A gadfly is a fly that annoys horses and cattle. It’s also used to describe a person who tries to deliberately annoy or provoke others.The gadflies are attracted to LTWWB like a steaming pile of horse dung.
That makes it difficult to separate opinion from provocation if you are not familiar with the poster’s modus operandi. So, I wouldn’t get too steamed over what you read here. It just might be a steaming pile of dung.
Angel of the Tarsands, if I wanted to hear from you, I’d take a number 2. #plop
You might not be a crazy cat lady, naccl, but you’re probably a typical dumb feminist. #genderstudies
Spoken like a true cow, Cat. #moo
“A disability doesn’t give one the right or excuse to be an Asshole.”
of course not… what you need is anonymity in a public forum.
That usually works just fine.
Montrealman’s a Douche-nozzle