So my cousin is single and he asked me if I knew anyone I could set him up with. I suggested you would be a good match for him. You’ve known him through me for about a year. He was all for it–you, not so much. You stated “he’s not right for me, and I’m not just talking about looks.” I was floored and asked you why not. Then you proceeded to compare yourself to him.
Your comparison:
Him- Grade 11 education, currently unemployed and living with mom, late 20’s, no current plans to go back to school, spends weekends getting drunk off booze he didn’t even pay for (his mom and friends lent him money).
You- University grad, ‘blossoming career’ in sales, mid 20’s, financially independent with your own apartment, party Friday nights but spend rest of free time volunteering to gain more experience in your field.
Ok, the comparisons are true I must say. But that does not make you better than him!
Did it ever occur to you that my cousin doesn’t plan to continue living like that? He’s been looking for jobs at restaurants and call centres etc. for the past 5 months or so and he only has had a couple of interviews, no offers–the job market is tough in HRM!
When he gets a job, he’ll pay his mom and friends back for the booze and eventually he’ll move out. Going back to school? Is it so bad that he doesn’t have any plans on what he wants in a career yet? Why can’t you give him a chance, he’s a great guy!
You’re one pretentious little bitch who needs to get over herself! My cousin will find someone more down to earth than you! I don’t think we can be friends anymore… —Blood is thicker than water
This article appears in Oct 7-13, 2010.
Your friend isn’t a bitch, she’s just being truthfull.
I wouldn’t date your cousin either. He doesn’t even have his high school diploma and can’t find a job, on top of that (and this is the part that really sunk it for me) he borrows money from his mom for booze. He has no job, yet gets his MOM to buy him liquor. He doesn’t pay rent, either, right? And he probably doesn’t pay to feed himself. And he’s in his late 20s! RED FLAG++
If he isn’t going to live like that “forever” why the hell is he still living like that going into 30?
Your cousin is a loser. Most people with education tend to gravitate towards others of a similar ilk. That’s why you never see doctors with McDonald’s staff or lawyers with call centre people.
Seriously, no educated/independent person is going to go for a high school drop out who is older, jobless, lives at home and is in debt.
If this is not a joke I’m still laughing.
This is a level, right?
Re reading this bitch I’m CONVINCED it’s a joke.
No one in their right mind would call someone a bitch and defriend them after putting this all down in writing and comparing the facts.
Yep, he sounds like a prize, sign me up! FFS people…
It can’t be real. No one can be that brain dead. If it’s real, hopefully this friend of yours drops your moronic ass OB. ‘Cause obviously you’re missing the point.
he just sounds a little slack is all….
trying to get his bearings and get his feet stabilized.
If that’s the case, he shouldn’t be dating anyways.
He’s already got too much on his plate to add ‘entertaining someone’ to it.
I mean, he may be great and all but whomever he latches on to is going to have his burden to bear as well by default.
A little slack !
ZzZ are you kidding ?
THis guy’s a poster child for the LOSER Convention !
Jesus, there are daily work places where you can labor & earn a few bucks . He’s sitting around mommies & waiting for opportunity to knock, he’s going to wait a long time !
Slack? It doesn’t take a huge amount of effort to finish high school circa 1998-2000; that’s when I graduated FFS. And nobody finds a job by being drunk and living off of mommy’s teet. Sounds like a real prize; probably thinks washing dishes is somehow beneath him. Even Angelina the bartender from Jersey Shore thought retail was beneath her and she’s kinda hot.
Your friend definitely has more brain cells than you or your cousin.
This has to be a fake bitch.
If not, then I’m really intrigued, OP. Please elaborate on the thought process that lead you to the conclusion that they were a “good match”.
I smell irony/sarcasm here methinks either that or you’re completely mental op 🙂
This is great. Maybe you could set her up with a troll? Or maybe one of those miners? I hear they are getting like $10 extra on top of their regular $40 a month.
lesson…do not set your friends up with family members
Maybe you can try hooking them up AFTER he finishes his grade 12, gets a job, and starts to live a responsible, independent life. Then you can bitch how your friend feels she is still too good for your beloved cousin.
Bitch? Better turn the mirror around. Why should this educated girl settle for cat food ash and ground chicken elbows when she can have sirloin wrapped in bacon? Sorry, OP, your bro is one lazy leech (with aspirations of restaurant or call centre work – wow! That boy’s got ambition – the ambition of a perpetual 16 year old.) I’ve seen guys like him come and go – he’ll never completely leave the financial tit. I can’t blame her for not wanting to be a money mammary for this stupid, useless clod. If I had your blood, OP, I’d look for a water transfusion.
This has got to be a joke… if not the OB needs to start defending her comments. This is absolutely ridiculous!!!
Sorry OP but I wouldn’t even date your cousin either.
OK who showed you how to do joined up writing? You and your cousin are on vacation from Meat Cove aren’t you?
I’m surprised this woman is even a friend of yours, unless she’s a pneumatic one.
well now, sounds like a match made in heaven for satan.
You really are being ironic, aren’t you?
You’re being nice to your cousin (he reads the coast), defending him on an open bitch, right?
If your answer is No… you date him :>)
pk you should talk.
^^^???
Here you go, OP. Tell your loser cousin to apply for this: http://www.careerbeacon.com/search/en/24/0…
No education required but knowledge of communications and PR is a requirement. It pays $11 an hour only but considering your cousin has a grade 11 education he’ll make $1 per grade accomplished!
This is a joke. For sure.
But incase it isn’t… You’re right, your ex-friend is NOT better than your cousin. It’s not fair to say one human being is “better” than another. But the differences between them, in terms of lifestyle and career aspirations, ARE reason enough for her to assume they aren’t compatible. That on top of the fact that she didn’t find his looks appealing.
I hope you extend your easy going attittude of his lifestyle to your own children some day, when it’s your money and basment that’s needed.
Yeah… has to be a joke.
I have to love people who say one person isn’t better than another. What utter bunk. Are you saying you’re no better than say Robert Picton, Clifford Olsen, Paul or Karla, or anyone who would harm a child or steal from you? Yes there people you are better than and those you are worse than. It’s called nature, regardless of how civilized one is or not. You want to be equal to one of the above, go ahead, I know I am better than them.
This has got to be a joke, but…
Your cousin, OP, is a loser. Sorry. :-/ I wouldn’t date anyone who hasn’t at least finished high school or has a job or still lives with his family. But as PK said originally… it’s the fact that he borrows money for booze from his mom/friends. Like, seriously? Come on! Even while writing this down, how could it not have sunk in what a loser your cousin is? Fack.
OP, your friend’s shit smells quite good from where I’m sitting.
Your cousin’s – not so good.
I wouldn’t date your cousin either. Not even a GRADE TWELVE education? You don’t need to “know what you want to do” in order to an effing high school diploma, that’s basic shit right there.
I wouldn’t date him either for those reasons
Uh yeah, what everyone else said. Her shit probably doesn’t stink because she flushes her own damn toilet instead of getting mom to. Really though, how can you apply to any call centre and not get the job? OVER five months he couldn’t get a single job at a call centre? Yeah right there’s no way this is a real bitch.
I don’t blame your friend. It would be fine for a hook up but for long term, the guy is late 20’s and still living at home without even a high school education. Yes, eventually he’ll get a job and maybe he’ll even save up enough from his (likely) minimum wage job to move out of Mom’s basement, but it’s going to be a struggle. Your friend is a university graduate and your cousin didn’t even finish high school.
What part of you thought they’d be a good match?
I don’t blame your friend either. I wouldn’t date your cousin. He’d be leeching off me instead of his mom. It’s not pretentious, it’s common sense. He doesn’t need to be a university grad but he sure as hell needs to be able to pay his own bills. How can an adult want to date someone like that?
It can’t be real… the person who posted this bitch needs to come on here and explain this… someone would have to be a moron to agree with it!
you ask too much from the anonymous bitch sweet padawan^^
I call shenanigans!
gotta be a fake bitch… If not, you belong in an asylum for being so delusional. Red flags all the way, I wouldn’t want to support a deadbeat by falling in love with them either.
I wouldn’t date him. And it’s gotta be a fake bitch
FLECS (Flexible Learning and Education Centres) costs $20 a year, and I believe the ALP (Adult Learning Program) is still free. If there is a will, there is a way. If this guy has no will, then that is the biggest red flag of all.
I’m going with the majority here. Your cousin is not a match for your friend. I just don’t get why it would bother you so much. How would you feel if one of your friends was trying to set you up with a relative of theirs that you felt no attraction to? Top it with that friend resenting you because you don’t want to date her relative who you have nothing in common with and don’t feel that ‘chemistry’ with that is so important when selecting a mate and you’ll begin to understand what your friend is currrently thinking of you. If you value this friendship an apology to your good friend is in order.
If your cousin wants to appear more attractive to potential dates he’d be best advised to obtain higher education which = higher pay. Offering a woman a lifetime of poverty isn’t going to impress anyone. Women like partners who are independent and motivated. Guys still attached to the maternal tit need not apply. In my lengthy lifetime I’ve watched this play out with friends and aquaintances who were not motivated. They hit 40 wondering why they are still single and feeling like life has passed them by.
Time by Pink Floyd seems to come to mind 😀
Fellow Floyd fan agrees melectric:)
Well if your cousin wants someone who likes a loser tel him to go to a bar. There’s enough women there who have no standards.
She dodged a bullet! A little tough love is in order for the cousin, a famous quote comes to mind:
you’ll get a goddamn job before sundown or we’re shipping you off to military school with the goddamn finkelstein shit kid… son of a bitch
love that movie jake…yeah, my dog ate my stash man
I get that he’s your cousin and you love him, but he’s a loser and that’s why your friend didn’t date him. You friend isn’t pretentious, she’s true to herself. You would do well to surround yourself with people like her because if you think your cousin is acceptable as is, you might want to re-think your dating choices.
theory: if this isn’t fake, it’s the girl who was offered the set up who posted this bitch, to prove by our repsonses why her friend is nuts.
Either way the late-20s and broke dude is *still* a loser.
Sorry,
Your c is a loser. Too bad more women disn’t have taste like your ‘friend’. This is what happens when we deify useless, unproductive, user-men as seen on television (3 1/2 men, home improvement, the simpsons, etc, etc); we actually defend them against intelligent, productive worthy women. Just say no ladies. You are better than this!
yyy,
all those men that you described on those shows are bread winners and the exact opposite of someone using a woman:
-Homer Simpson (he says he makes $80,000 in a recent episode)
-Charlie Sheen (Rich as fuck in his show and if you’re talking about his Butt-Of-The joke questionably gay brother then you’re a retard if you call that “deifying”)
-Home Improvement guy (a TV celebrity on his show with a nice assed house the HE paid for)
Not to mention that all the main female characters are stay at home moms… or thieving bitches (Charlies brothers X-Wife).
SHUT UP OP!!! Why don’t you date this loser cousin then? Cause obviously your friend has much more NORMAL standards.
Introduce your friend to me, OP. I’m not 25, but after your cousin, I’ll shine like a star 😉
I’m siding with your friend on this one. Why would a univ educated person want to date someone who doesn’t even have their grade 12 and no future. I know I wouldn’t. Dating is like applying for jobs….you look at the options, and choose the best for you…..not the below average and likely to never succeed option (that eventually gets shredded).