What does it take for a normal 40 something man to meet a normal 40 something woman through a dating site? Tell me what words have to be spoken. What has to be conveyed? They claim to want the truth from men (NO HEAD GAMES PLEASE) but truth from a man doesn’t seem to be working.
The truth…politeness…charm…humor…pictures…(Im not a troll)…good income…a car… a good spirit…Five+ years says it doesn’t. Maybe normal doesn’t come through on the internet. Or isn’t the place to find or express normal? Is there some other way to meet 40 (or 30 or 50 something) women? Why is the truth not working?
Why is the internet such a wasteland of “nudges”, “flirts”, “winks”,”emails” and lists of wants that no woman seems willing to leave her desktop to meet face to face. Many good men posess what you want, but your hands stay fixed to the mouse and your eyes stay peeled to the monitor, browsing… clicking… assessing… looking for your diamond when diamonds dont come from the screen. They come from our words and our embraces and our love.
I guess the most succesful ladies man is Bill Gates. Sad isn’t it?
This article appears in Aug 21-27, 2008.
I think the problem is that your using an online dating site
Speaking as a 40-something woman, that definitely goes both ways!! I have NO idea where the UNATTACHED men of my generation are, but sometimes I think that they must all have left Halifax!
On-line dating works for some, not for others. Better you get involved in something community-based if you want to meet women. Where are those 40 something women? Most of them have probably clued in and decided taking care of a man is more fucking trouble that it’s worth.
One of my family members got married to someone he met online, so it DOES work for some people. I think the problem comes when people misrepresent themselves, which can happen anytime but is easier to do online.
I find in this city, if your not a moronic idiotic loser that’s jobless and poor, you’ll have a hard-time finding a good woman, for some reason whatever I just mentioned is portrayed as the bad boy image. A lot of women love that. I know of guys who get laid every week. Always manage to hook up with women, no problems. They look like garbage, can’t put a good outfit together, not to mentioned the lack of showering, working a min wage job or on EI. How is that attractive, beats me. So I see where OP is coming from. I went through it myself, and I met someone at a b-day party. She’s perfect for me. Amazingly attractive, great career, great family. Very intelligent, very healthy, clean and considerate. Can’t stand the above-mentioned guys. I say be patient, and get off internet dating. It mostly offers shallow selfish profiles. go on POF and look for yourself. It’s actually hilarious.
i would rather die an old spinster than resort to an online matchmaking site/dating/whatever. it speaks volumes about what a lameass you are.
i would rather die an old spinster than resort to an online matchmaking site/dating/whatever. it speaks volumes about what a lameass you are.
i would rather die an old spinster than resort to an online matchmaking site/dating/whatever. it speaks volumes about what a lameass you are.
i would rather die an old spinster than resort to an online matchmaking site/dating/whatever. it speaks volumes about what a lameass you are.
whoooaaaa…. 1000 apologies for the quadruple posts
It’s funny but all my girlfriends over 50 swear that if they find themselves single again, that’s fucking it for ‘love relationships’ and all the compromises it entails. It’ll be ‘friends with privileges’ and independence all the way, ba-bee. We’ve all concluded: When a man’s young, he wants a whore in the bedroom, when he’s middle-aged, he wants a mother and when he’s old, he wants a nurse. From what I’ve seen, there’s a lot of truth to that.
TTFN, when I was young I wanted a whore in the bedroom. Now that I am middle age, I want a whore in the bedroom, and when I’m old, with any luck, I will still want a whore in the bedroom…Too bad though about them other guys and gals…
I’ve never been on a dating site – it’s not my thing, but I did see a commercial on T.V. for e-harmony where they match you up with someone else based on personality and likes, have you tried that Mr. 40-something?Seven, I don’t think dating websites are for lameasses. Like TTFN says it works for some, and not for others Maybe these people are just getting sick of not finding the right person at social events and that’s why they do it. I don’t blame them, I wouldn’t want to grow old alone, but that’s just me.
“much violence against women originates in emotional territory that they already command… women are in total, despotic control of their marriages”Thus says Camille Paglia. She also theorizes that women stay in violent and/or controlling situations because they equate it with hot sex.I’d LOVE to hear Ann Coulter’s perspective….sick bitches….
SOOO sorry! Wrong thread-duh!
Well, Floyd, I’m at the nurse stage with a partially disabled spouse after decades of being the mommy. I can’t even remember the whore part but thank fuck for raw liver and inflatable sheep otherwise hub-unit wouldn’t have any fun at all.
i agree with jane d’oh… get off the computer, you’re never gonna meet good people that way. online dating is for losers and paedophiles.
Well, Plonkie, if you have good friends, a decent family network and a mega-turbo double headed vibrator, you never have to be lonely.
then again, one could sink even lower than online dating/hookups, i suppose… by hanging out in (some of) halifax’s bars and night clubs, many of whose patrons are creepy horndogs and tarted-up bimbos looking for a quick lay, or to get into drunken fights, or both.
I’m not a woman, OP, but I find your writing style in this post to be rather corny / affected. If this is typical for you, it might turn a lot of women off…I know many say they want “sensitive” but in reality most of the single women I know can only handle so much of that. Fellow posters, feel free to correct me if I’m wrong…it’s just a hunch.
Have any of you heard about this:'(AP) A new study shows that taking birth-control pills might screw up a woman’s ability to sniff out a compatible mate.According to a recent LiveScience article, it’s not just brains and braun that attract a woman to a man. It’s also the man’s body odor, or rather the aromatic molecules beneath it. Those molecules are what can tell someone they’re near a person who is genetically compatible.LiveScience reports that normally, women are attracted to someone who ‘smells’ different than they do. However, the results of a study show women who take the pill are attracted to men with odors that match their own.’So that’s what happens……
@TTFN, i’d add, with all the male ‘grooming products’ (Axe perfumes, body sprays, et al) that are the rage these days, the male pheromones don’t stand a chance against that kind of assault on the sensesjust take a bath, scrub your twig ‘n berries, and be done with itall that perfume, especially on a MAN, just makes you stink like a cheap whore, after working the night shift
Techcafe, how do you hnow what a cheap whore smells like, after working the night shift?And Jammie, I think a woman can be perfectly satisfied with sensitive as long as her senstive partner is also a (insert your favourite noun here) in the sack.
haha touché, plonkjust invoking an old cliché to make a pointor was i?speaking of ladies of the eveningon my way home one night, an enterprising young woman offered me her servicesi told her she didn’t have the right ‘parts’ for my tastesnot to be deterred, she said, “oh don’t worry honey, i can strap one on for ya”d’oh!we both had a good laugh
Not all people looking for someone online are losers or pedophiles, I resent that comment. There are a lot of people that work like 60 hour weeks and don’t really have much of a social life, or are shy, and just don’t know where to find that special someone. I know someone who met their husband online and they are as happy as can be, so it DOES happen. I went out with 2 guys that I met on an online dating site, and they both ended up being momma’s boys that lived at home and were still into childish crap at like age 30. I too would love to know where to find someone that doesn’t involve bars and clubs that has actually grown up. Its hard — its an age where most people are are already attached and you feel there’s no one left. Good luck. Let me know if you wanna go out for a coffee sometime. I’m looking too. 😉
So techy, what happened next, did she give you a good pegging?
OK, Plonkie, I’ll try:”a woman can be perfectly satisfied with sensitive as long as her senstive partner is also a (cunt) in the sack.”Hmmmmm, doesn’t work that well…
Well, seeing as no one seems to be actually providing a real answer. I will. I know a lot of girls who have used POF. And it seems that 80% (I just pulled that number out of the air, but a lot) are on there just looking for sex. When they demand a bj from someone and doesn’t get a promise to receive it on the first date, they will insult the girl and move on.So OP, the challenge is for the females to root through these type of guys to find a sincere one.1. Include a pic, a good one. Women on there do have a lot of choices so make sure you look presentable, while not too presentable as it may look fake.2. Read their profiles, speak directly to their interests. Have a sense of humour. 3. Try to find a way to message that sets you apart from the other hormonal guys on that site.4. Experiment. Try different styles of messages to see what works for you. Short ones, long ones, serious ones, or funny ones. There are a lot of good women out there looking for someone. They just have a lot of BS to wade through.
Jammie, I like the term “souped-up fucknugget”. There’s a noun in there somewhere.”A woman can be perfectly satisfied with sensitive as long as her senstive partner is also a (souped-up fucknugget) in the sack.”That might work.
Another study for you TTFN:”A study conducted by UCLA’s Department of Psychiatry has revealed that the kind of face a woman finds attractive on a man can differ depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle. For example, if she is ovulating, most women are attracted to a man with rugged and masculine features. If she is menstrating or menopausal, she tends to be more attracted to a man with scissors lodged in his temple and duct tape over his mouth while he is on fire.No further studies are expected.”
Geeze, Jamie, your post made me blow coffee through my nose like a pressure washer. Good one.
For the record, I can’t claim credit for that one. It was one of those normally-annoying email forwards…
OP, get away from POF, that’s your first mistake!