You are on my mind! There are times when it is faint, but not one day goes by when the thought of you doesn’t cross my mind. I told you once that I don’t want you in my life (scared I guess) now I regret it, truly I wish I could take those words back. I didn’t think I was ready and now I fear I will lose you forever. —Lost Without You
This article appears in Jul 12-18, 2012.
Having recently been on the receiving end of the “I don’t want you in my life statement” I think you really need to tell this person the truth.
Blech, would you REALLY want that person after they didn’t care enough about you in the first place to want you then?
If they regret their decision later, they don’t deserve to have you. You can’t just throw people away and then expect them to come back when you want them.
If someone rejects you because they’re “scared” then they’re chicken shit and who knows what crap they’re going to pull down the road. As far as OL is concerned, you deserve what you get. Being “scared” is a cop out and is akin to “yeah, I’m not sure if you’re good enough so Imma be all oooh I’m skurred! so I don’t look like a douchehat!”
This goes for people who end up with people who have mistreated them. If they don’t show you the respect and consideration not to disparage you in the first place, than they don’t deserve YOUR respect and consideration later on.
As far as I’m concerned, people like that can take a flying leap. You had your chance and you blew it. Too bad, so sad for you! You made your damn bed, now go lie in it, motherfucker. I’d rather be single than settle for someone who couldn’t give me simple respect and consideration in the first place.
OP … maybe the person you are lost without is feeling the same. Thought without action can torture the soul. Embrace the fear, take a risk, turn thought into action and reach out … then at least you’ll have a chance of feeling the person in your arms instead of just wishing it was so. You’ll have a chance to discuss your fears and find out if you’re justified in applying them to this person or if it’s because of a pessimistic outlook you’re clinging to because of a jaded past.
Folks,
there are those of us out there that who understand exactly why he was rejected in the first place and don’t blame the other person one bit ….
Once bitten , twice shy , as the saying goes…
But we still hope against all hope for a second (or even a third) chance …
There is someone on my mind , every day , and every . single . day I wish I could go back in time 4 years and make the right choice and NOT walk out that door …
Love at first sight is a bitch , but it happens …
I read the post and wondered if it was directed at me , as I’m sure more than a few people did …
To the OP :
Lost Without You …. if you truly feel that way , and you know where to find that other person , don’t waste another day , because I guarantee you , they feel the same way.
I know …Because there’s not a day goes by that the Galaxy Master doesn’t think fondly about his Cinnamon Chiclet …
GM