It’s been almost two years since you left. We have a child. It is not any of my family or your family’s business and they should stay out of it. You say with the rhetorical crap in emails “as the primary caregiver…blah blah blah.” Well, I would like to mention that one, you are self-appointed and not by any authority and two, I am perfectly as capable as you of looking after our son. You make up these wild and crazy memories and accusations with your own personal twist. I propose compromise and you say “I am not comfortable with this…” and “I am not comfortable with that.” I am so sick of hearing this. It seems all a person has to say is that magic word “uncomfortable” and it gives a person the right to say whatever they want and do basically whatever they want concerning a child and shuts out the other parent. It has NOTHING to do with the welfare of the child. It is your own self interest. What your feelings are personally or mine with each other is irrelevant. The child is perfectly happy with my family as I suppose he is with yours. All that should matter is the child. That’s it. Not you… not me… just the child. We are done. None of this silliness is any good for the child. Stop manipulating situations and twisting words, searching for verbal loopholes, hair splitting, and taking things out of context and act like a mature, reasonable person. So please… answer the lawyer’s letters… let’s get to court and get this custody and divorce business over with. —Alienated Father
This article appears in Dec 13-19, 2012.
Good luck! It can be such a nightmare to go through a battle, but can be even worse if the other partner wont give into compromise!
What I despise are parents who use their child as a pawn – ultimately it’s the child who pays from this unnecessary crap.
It’s really hard for Dads who aren’t douches to get a fair shake in the “system” we have here. It sounds to me like you get what it’s all about (the kids of course!) so all the power to you!
I had a very similar situation myself a few years back so your bitch spoke to me… Stay strong man.
I am SOOOOOO glad that there were no kids involved in my divorce. It was hellish for me. I couldn’t imagine a child in the mix as well.
It definitely seems like you have your priorities right though, OB. It IS about the child.
Best of luck!
Dear women,
Stop manipulating situations and twisting words, searching for verbal loopholes, hair splitting, and taking things out of context and act like immature, unreasonable people.
Here, here! OP.
It’s true Dartmouthy. Jerk fathers can actually just take their kid(s) and never let the mother see it, if they don’t have any sort of agreement yet. I know a mother going through just that, and she’s even called the police and they said they couldn’t do anything without a legal agreement/order. Tis a very sad story for the kiddies.
Sounds like she’s stalling for time OP. She may get the sense that things are not entirely going to go in her favour.