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I know you’re holding back. And I have been patiently waiting for a sign from you that maybe something will really happen between us, but I am not sure for how much longer. You know I want to kiss you in a thousand places between the top of your head and the tips of your toes, and maybe we’re not suited for something long-term, but is that what either of us want or need right now? Or maybe you’re just waiting to see how much longer it takes before I go crazy – I think I’m there, because I would never have written this otherwise. I just wish you were here too. —Wondering when, or if.
This article appears in Jan 22-28, 2015.
I think I can help with the holding back bit @ mysoisanemotionalcheater at gmail dot com
What’s tragic here is that one of you may not make a move and an incredible union may not happen. This happens with countless people nowadays all across the globe…
The question is: what is preventing you? Waiting for the other to make a move could have you waiting until the stars burn out.
If you’ve waited till the point of going mad, chances are this person is going to continue until you make the move. The stillness and silence speaks loud enough as it seems to say ‘For this reason or for that reason I cannot go ahead and initiate. It will require you to be proactive.’
Again, not to sound like a broken record or dampen your hope, but if they have waited to such a tense point, in all likelihood they’re going to continue to do so. I’m sure you both have great poker faces and intimidating composure, but, while you’re maintaining delicate egos, Love is decaying and melting away to Somethign That Could Have Been…
Take a chance. Have some Faith. Be brave. Don’t Look Back…
Best Wishes
When someone hesitates, there’s always a good reason. Sometimes that good reason has a name and consequently a heart. I’ll change that hesitation into a meeting for you, if you wish. Your turn. Go.
Alas, there is light yawning up below the rim of the horizon… I really hope this one works for these ones, as it sounds quite quantum with deep existential tension. It seems the strongest Love is always dramatic with a Renaissance taste and a nail-biting ‘To Be Continued…’ vein…Ha! I Love such colorful Life-Junk! To read this one amidst the sewage of modern apathy is great…
BINGO. That’s rich.
Time for the frank discussion. As long as the mutual attraction isn’t just in your mind OL, why not “call” as in poker? It might hurt, that’s always the risk but the painful, obsessive longing would get an answer.
Then you must consider that maybe what makes this particular love so appealing is that its quite unattainable( by the sounds of it! ). Life, being what it is, has a way of dampening these comforting illusions we carry around. You might be able to get with this person only to discover some circumstance you didn’t factor in that makes the whole thing impossible. Hence ‘The Spirit of the Chase’ and all that…
Not to dampen, but we tend, as human beings, to build people up in our minds as glorious idols when, in reality, they’re just people: scratching in their sleep, regularly inglorious on toilets, ugly beneath the surface at some point and all those other things our cinematic longing minds don’t factor in.
I once ‘fell in love’ with a woman deeply, only to become familiar with her down the road and was shocked to discover I didn’t like her at all, let alone love her. I had this presupposition of her character in my mind, merely a flight of fancy as irrelevant as it was disappointing.
But who knows? Maybe its one of those rarities were you’ll be more than compatible…
Again, only one way to find out…. clocks tickin’… fuse is burnin’ down…. sweat glands are workin’
TO BE CONTINUED….
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07T3h0b93Rg
Well…If you are a “she” and have recently been through some shit…and if this guy is a friend, he might have too much class or respect you too much to try to take advantage of someone like that. A respectful guy will let a girl make the first move there because anything less is just praying on the vulnerable. If he is your friend then he will always be your friend. Even if you make a play and are wrong, you wont lose him. Or …you have simply not provided enough info to help this guy identify that it is him this post is about…
No, this whole thing’s vague and dim beginning to end… it WAS previously interesting but you know what’s gonna happen: obviously both of their monstrously huge egos will prevent the union. This is Real Life, not some New-Age late’ sipping romance movie.
I was thinking about this while brushing by it again and realized something fundamental. Love, like hate, is a mental-illness. They only possible way you could ‘love’ someone so much is by imagining( Full-time Job of the mentally-ill remember! ) that person over and over again until their true unworthy human shabbiness becomes obscured by complex layers upon layers of distortions and erroneous ideas.
The funniest thing is, once these romantic-types crawl into bed, their monstrous egos usually make intimacy impossible. All their energy went to daydreaming and the physical aspect, always disappointing outside of fantasy-scenarios and mental-movies, throws them out of their comfort zone and there you have it! ANother Pathetic Failed Human Relationship. Ha! I love it!
You know, now that I think about it, the frailty of ‘love’, as they call it, is the only thing that truly distinguishes it beyond, say, eating a bag of chips or taking a leak. Love only seems to matter to us, the Universe doesn’t really seem to give a shit.
OP, you continue to lie to him,continue to lead him on.