It really frustrates me that men have to lie to women in order to keep them happy, and to stay in a relationship. Men can’t be honest and tell them that we are visual and yes we love a nice ass, or great tits. If a hot girl is wearing leggings and she has a great ass, it is actually impossible for us not to look at it. Sure, some guys will take that further and cheat, or flirt and that is not fair to anyone. There is nothing wrong with looking, and women like to do the same. They just like to hold men up to a standard and think that we are pigs.
Women should also be able to look at a hot guy, hell even fantasize about it and come home and fuck their husband. Women say that they don’t want guys that lie, but every guy lies because he has to in order to stay in a relationship. Women will call a man a pig for looking at a nice ass, and then read Fifty Shades of Grey. What a double standard. The imagination is actually more powerful so technically that is worse.
So your guy is obviously attracted to women and that is how he met you in the first place, and now suddenly, he should turn his attraction for the female figure off and only be attracted to one female figure. Plus, in a beach full of people wearing thongs, most females would actually look at the nice female asses, and that shows even they know that females are sexy. We should be able to live in harmony. We should be happy knowing that, that person is with you, so that says a lot. You should be able to people watch, comment on attractive people, be turned on by other sexy people, watch porn together and let your partner reap the rewards of all of this that you do together. Let’s all just live a life of complete honesty. Books like Fifty Shades of Grey do not need to exist for women. Just be honest about how you feel. If we all lived in this world and all had a free and clear relationship full of honesty, relationships would last. Women, if you are reading this and deny this is true, then you are truly in denial. If your husband says that what I have written here is false, there is an example of being lied to. What else is he lying about? How do you like it? —Let it Help, Not Hurt
This article appears in Nov 8-14, 2012.
Very interesting post.
I have to admit not all women think like that. In fact the majority think the complete opposite.
One lesson I learned from past relationships is if I can’t be free and happy and not afraid that my gf is going to be upset if I point out a girl’s nice ass or both of us having fun together and commenting like that, or people watching together, I just end it. It’s not worth the headache. As you said OP, I’m with you now, stop being insecure.
Same way as you want to drool over “hot guys”. I wouldn’t have a problem with is since you and I are together. We’re secure and happy in the relationship and there’s a stronger bond between us that won’t break unless both people weaken it.
Don’t be bossy, demanding, high maintenance and jealous. Conserve your energy, watch porn together and go nuts on each other.
It’s funny, if you see ladies night at a strip club, you’d think some of these women have never seen men before. Sad thing about it is some are actually married to much better guys than the strippers!
Yeah, people love it when you gawk and stare at others while right in front of them….
inconsiderate retard.
If you’re so huffed and horny that you feel the need to point out every nice ass to the person whom you claim to want to be with…
then they’ve unfortunately made the mistake of choosing a dewsh as a partner.
Everyone looks, glances, and is aware of surroundings…
but to go out of your way to gawk and point out every thing that makes you ‘hawt’ makes you a jerk. Big time.
Same for ladies… I don’t give a fuck if you think he’s cute… but I’m curious, why the hell would I want to know that you think that?
speaking as a woman, i haven’t a clue, sorry. it can be even worse in a two-woman relationship. ‘some’ women, not all! even if they tell you they think it’s no problem if you look at other women, are fooling themselves, and it comes out later. 10 fold.
back to my really unpopular theory – all people should be gay except when reproducing. women can inflict their emotional selves on each other nad paint each other’s toenails at pj parties, and men can have constant orgies.
I just gots to say this. Damn you folk is gullible. You all really thought I was from Sprytown. Keep your eye on this. Gullible cry babies, who’s going to report this to the editor? Avast, was that you? Giving someone a hard time for spelling and grammer when those two concepts don’t seem to be your strong points, lol. Then it gets thrown in your face by Nukka of all people. Good Dog, so many laughs. Bro Tim, you were funny. But overall, I think Mr Meaty and Montrealman are the only ones on here that havn’t contradicted themselves repeatedly, and pretended to be or know something that they are not. Keep on, keep on. And Avast, read your posts, you are the troll. Its just a reversed roll compared to I guess the standard definition of an internet troll, you to zzz man.
R.I.P. Nukka. Thanks for the laughs buddy.
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huh?
nukka, what does your dr phil confession have to do with the topic? you can’t hijack a thread until after 27 coments. it’s a rule i just made up.
Oh Ivan, always with the making of the pictures. I guess you could say I got off on here. Not sexually I might add, but you will all have the chance to leave your comments and thoughts about that. I had fun, some other commenters had fun. What a ride Nukka, good job. I also need to say I was not aware of the racial implications of the word Nukka. My girlfriend pointed that out. She is smart, so Nukka got that right at least. So sorry to anyone that may have taken offense to that, and only that.
God Dog, the title of the Bitch brought it out I guess. Avast reporting me to the web editor also played a small role. Nukka just can’t get no respect. Not on the bus, not even on here.
Another forethought. I did not write “Another Example of Shitheadness” about the #14 bus. I thank whoever did though, it shocked even me. Played into the storyline very well, so thank you “Old Guy”. Good job.
well you were getting tiresome and repetitive.
and don’t be such a coward, i am sure you shrugged out of nukka suit just to avoid responding in po-em form. c’mon, i threw a gauntlet. pick it up, c’mon.
Good Doggy. We mustn’t fight now that Nukka is out of the picture. We must band together now more than ever.
rats in a maze, the monsieur already did that
Safe to say we all had a good time. regrettably, I’ve yet to master the art of creating memes. All the pix I posted were already in existence on the interwebz; it was just a case of searching for the appropriate one.
And I really don’t think it was Vastie who reported you to the moderator. As for who really did…?
“Fu’ chu, Mang. I dunno an I ain’t co-operatin'”
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>; )
If you see something nice, I want to see too. Tell me. I LOVE people watching! (well … that just seems creepy, lol). Just don’t get mad when I comment. See, 2 way street.
Well, contrary to what you might like to think, Nukka, (and you can choose to believe this or not, I really don’t care), I didn’t report you to the web editor.
show some self control OP and wait till you’re out with your buddies to gawk and comment on a fine ladies shape.
Nukka believes you Avast. You can sleep well tonight, his feelings are not hurt.
P.s … I mean … tell me within reason.
I have pointed out attractive women when out with my boyfriend haha. I find myself checking out women (their hair makeup clothes and of course figure) more than men. I’m not sexually attracted to women but I would honestly rather look at women than men.
I wouldn’t be thrilled if my guy went to a strip club but I wouldn’t tell him he couldn’t or even say I didn’t want him to. I don’t begrudge him watching porn either, the only time it ever bugged me was when I was really fat and only becsuse I was mad at myself!
I would never want my partner to feel guilty or ashamed just for looking 🙂
That is also a good way to get cussed out or a slap in the face from random women. Not all women dress that way for the attenchen.
Oh gawd, OP. You sound absolutely miserable to be around. Not all women are like you’re claiming, and not all men are like you’re saying. Get out more. PS not all women have husbands/boyfriends. Some have girlfriends and wives.
Just out of curiosity, considering the amount of posts by the same people daily, do you guys work or retired or something? What’s your story?
Wondering how there’s enough time to post so many comments by the same people everyday!
Just curious!
well, speaking for myself, i am management, so this is all i do!
hahahahaha. no seriously. can we say ‘multi-tasking’?
ability to juggle many things at once? swivel chairs from one computer to another?
the more i do, and the faster i do it, the more i do. i work best in a feeding frenzy.
i’m a ceo, cfo, vice president, gopher, nurse and driver for a very small company
I’m an incredibly efficient draftsmen, Randomness, that’s how I can post as much as I do. I actually need to slow myself down at work sometimes, otherwise I’ll have my workload for the week done on a Wednesday. I don’t everyone’s reasons though, but I think the majority of us work desk jobs and this is the escape.
Cool. Was just curious 🙂
Captain Leebob, you serious?:) I’m pretty much in the same boat and exactly do the same.
Except sometimes I try to learn new software. So when I’m not busy I check The Coast 🙂
What a small world Captain 🙂
True Story, Randomness! I spend my free time on Wikipedia learning about space and physics 🙂 That’s when I’m not on here chillin’ with my fellow bitchers
You know Revit? Sketchup? I was an AutoCAD pro back in the day, now I’m into a drafting based estimating software. It’s still all in 3D so it’s pretty bomb.
I’m an Occupy “Sleeper” – bringing the whole rotten system down from the inside.
Heh heh heh.
hey ivan!
http://youtu.be/UbP-5zUsom8
Nah – I’m just a lazy sod. >: )
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vz0KpTGSWPM
What Madeinthe80’s said. I’ll be the first one to point out a beautiful woman. If I find her attractive, there’s a good chance my hypothetical man does too! Lol
I agree with Zed too…can’t be disrespectful about it. If his eyes wander TOO long, it could get ugly. A simple glance is sufficient
It’s not all women, OP, but a good number. A lot of men are quick to get jelous too about stuff like that too. Like you can’t be nice or friendly to someone without it being interpreted as flirting, even if the person might be a salesperson or waiter. That shit is just unacceptable.
Most people are insecure, I guess we all have insecurities. I don’t gawk when I see an attractive girl when I’m out with my lady friend out of respect, not because I’m afraid she’s going to bitch me out. If that was the case, you’re right, I wouldn’t want to be with her.
It’s not easy but there are some non crazy women out there with realistic expectations when it comes to typical male behavior. Just keep lookin.
“…I guess we all have insecurities”
You’ve guessed wrong, Tommy! I have absolutely zero insecurities! I am a towering concrete pinnacle of male confidence and ability! I experience no anxieties, and am the standard by which all self-assuredness is measured! Just look at all my exclamation marks! Are they not reminiscent of a man who is centered, zen, competent, and secure?!
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^^ the captain of his zenstiny
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you remind me of my younger brother cap, and that’s a compliment.
MONTREALMAN REFLECTS
“It really frustrates me that men have to lie to women in order to keep them happy, and to stay in a relationship.” Let it Help, Not Hurt
What is the issue here? The poster is “frustrated” because he has to lie to women with whom he is a relationship in order to keep them happy. But why does he want to stay in the relationship if he has to violate his moral code. i.e., to lie? And why does the female require him to violate his moral code in order for her to be “happy”? What is the real issue here? Montrealman has reflected and determined that the real issue if the viability of exclusive monogamous relationships.
Whether or not exclusive monogamous relationships are viable depends upon what in philosophy is called “teleology,” the end-in-view. Why is the poster in the relationship in the first place? What is its purpose? Two possibilities arise: (1) Sexual Satisfaction and (2) Marriage.
(1) Sexual Satisfaction: One assumes that Let it Help can engage in relationships with other women and so one wonders why he would violate his moral code to stay in the present one. Females, of course, are by their nature possessive of their male partners who they see, whether subconsciously or not, as their protector and provider. For the female reproductive success requires that their eggs be fertilized by a reliable male, not a promiscuous rogue. Males, on the other hand, are by their nature promiscuous. To achieve reproductive success for the male requires that he copulate with as many females as possible. So there is a fundamental asymmetry in the hard-wiring of the female as opposed to the male. In this case, Let it Help should jettison the female and set out to copulate with all available females.
(2) Marriage: The only rational basis on which Let it Help should stay in the relationship with his possessive, controlling female is to intend to eventually marry her and raise a family. He may still look at other females with lust but has no intention on acting on that lust. In this case he would do best by just shutting up, staying in the relationship and not vitiate his moral code by lying.
Next.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
randomness,… we can’t all have the mail updates like nukka…. oh wait, we can.
Um, I just use my few minutes here and there between duties to keep my brain going and while away the hours 2 minutes at a time.
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Becareful who your honest to,it might come back to bite you on the ass,mine still hurts. People tell you they want to hear the truth but can’t handle the truth.
Hey Painy, are you going to be in the shop tomorrow? I may pop in if you’re around.
Phhht – Avasto showing up when he says he’s going to. What next, peace in the Middle East? >; )
Just joshin’, Vastie. But seriously Troop – you do need to attend a summit before long.
Thanks, Good Dog!
You cut me, Ivan. You cut me real deep just now. 😉
I know, I know. Trust me. It kills me when I see yet another summit invite that conflicts with previously established plans. (I’m not blaming you Kitty! Just stating a truth. Luvs uuuuuu!)
I got some running around to do tomorrow and was going to be in Painy’s neck of the woods.
If you’re working tomorrow Ivan, I may pop in to say hi too, if you’re alright with that.
i will be at the shop til about 11.45, then i will be at bp in bl for a grey’t fundraiser
i am a one woman at a time guy o.p., ad as such, they get my full attention. if i wanted someone else, then i would not be with them in the first place. i realy am a faithful old dog to the one i am with.
Captain I lost Hugo’s busyness card and I’m want to contact him, can I get his email add. from you or the name of his busyness? Thanks 🙂
I was recently in Italy for 10 days (sister’s wedding). Completely different attitude there. women seemed to like getting checked out more and the well figured ones were done up TO THE TEE, over the top hair large sunglasses, acid wash jeans; anything to garnish the attention while the regular girls really didn’t care and seemed way more carefree and not competitively distressed by this. I didn’t know the language but there was a very different way looks were socially valued that fascinated me. I was told by a girl that I was good looking and that I should wear a hat and nice shoes.
Absolutely Vastie – tomorrow’s my last day so it’ll be great to see you.
Last day? You moving on to greener pastures?
OP, you are a greasy lipped dog jizz receptacle – I would piss gasoline if your hair was on fire.
TTFN
I can see how OP sounds like a pig but I think what he’s talking about is the owl reflex, that is the tendency for the eyes to gaze without thought (similar to looking at something that moves) . Some men can’t help it and it is something they and the women will have to come to an understanding about. I tend not to stare or look twice but sometimes the eyes just see and stop for a half a second before even thinking.
By the way, sorry for getting in the way of you and OP but consider this an intervention. The real subject here is OP getting in trouble for something he can’t always control. You should know this by know if you are the mature woman I sensed you were.
Like my dear old daddy said “You can look but don’t touch”.
randomness, i do data processing and retrieval, run a private security company, and also am semi retired.
Vastie, The six day work weeks have taken their toll. It was a tough call and I’m going to miss the hell out of the place,( despite the fact that I’ll be popping in once a week to see what’s new).
thanks for coming by the shop, vastie. your dog is freaking gorgeous, made my day^^
totally agree.
But there is a difference between looking like a normal human (which we ALL do) and being a slobbering, disrespectful mutt.
This is important to keep in mind too.
I have to agree with the OP.. in a sense. It’s only natural that members of the opposite sex/same sex (depending on your bend) catch your attention because they’re trying to. Maybe not you in particular but others in general. It would be nice if couples could freely discuss the physical attributes of the random individual but that’s not the real world. People are jealous, insecure at times and with some relationships, it erodes at the “specialness” of it, takes the shine off. This a cultural phenomenom for the most part as I really do not believe humans are naturally monogamous. We’re bonobo chimps at heart i.e. screw everyone in sight as a way to relieve tension and conflict. We are locked in convention however and the bonobo part is relegated to our eyes and imagination.
Speaking for myself Randomness, I usually have to cram my Coast bitch/love fix between 9:00-10:30 at night after work, commuting, gym, chores etc. I do sneak a peek at the office now and then though.
Totally our pleasure, painy. It was great to see you again and to meet the Bear. I’m glad the pup brightened your day. She said to say thanks again for the treat and all the random cuddles.
Like the Bible says, Man’s Eyes are Never Full. Enough said.
Like the bible says, we’re all inbred and came from the same two people. Then we cannibalize christ every Sunday. Thank you jesus, amen.
Wait. Wait. Wait. Vastie – YOU HAD A DOG WITH YOU AND DIDN’T BRING HIM IN!
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Ya Revit, Sketchup, Windpro, Lumion 3D, ArcGIS, Civil 3D, Map 3D.
Some of the software is frustrating though since it still has glitches, especially the 2013 editions.
Back in the day??!!!.. When are we talking here?!:)
Aaaahh Wikipedia 🙂 I caught a few errors on there 🙂
‘Back in the day’ = 3 years ago, haha
So not really that long ago, I would have dropped off the AutoCAD train during version 2011.
I’ve never used Civil3D, although I have seen it in action by some serious civil engineering pro’s. I’m talking about mapping out 100km of underground piping using 3 huge computer monitors and one heck of a processor. My friend also got into one called ‘Vector Works’, or something. Another 3D, Revit type drafting software. He seemed to enjoy it, but I’ve never seen it used.
And yeah, Wikipedia can be a bit sketchy, so anything important I try to cross reference or check the sources.