It’s a dangerous thing to compare the one you’re with to the one that got away, but I can’t help doing it. Despite all the issues we had, through all the intensity… you showed me what it was like to be loved, and come on, let’s be real… the sex was stellar. This is not a confession of love or missing what we had… but a thank you for showing me what I’m worth. —Halifax Lover
This article appears in Sep 6-12, 2012.
The one you don’t have will always have the most exciting memories. Switch mates and you would still be doing the same thing. Be happy with what you have or is this the ketchup lady again.
I dunno…people say the longing can be better than having what you want…
and then I think if I actually HAD a lambo right now, I’m pretty sure I’d feel a lot better than me just wanting one.
tough call.
I don’t disagree with Troodon, but I don’t think the longing is better either…at least, it doesn’t feel that way for me….
I’d rather have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
If you learned anything about yourself and love from past relationships,you actually gained something.Hopefully you can take that part of your life with the person you lost and make a better life with a new love.
There are a lot of people who claim something to that effect…
yet don’t really apply it to any other situation. Curious. It has to be because love is the ultimate goal… (for them) otherwise it’s just not worth it.
Like for instance, would you rather skydive and be terrified than not skydive at all?
Try a new restaurant and get food poisoning than never try it at all?
Go for a swim in ‘paradise’ and lose your leg to a shark than never visit paradise at all?
I wonder where the line is drawn…
zZz I suppose it depends on how badly you want it.
Alot of people would admit that finding love is they’re ultimate goal but is it really?
I think people are just afraid to spend life alone but they say they want/need to be loved.Perhaps because they aren’t cognizant that lonelyness is actually what they are afraid of.
I think everyone wants to find love, but a lot of people are too stupid to recognize the real stuff, or too terrified to take the chance when they do find love…..it’s really too bad…..if people realized how difficult it is to find someone who genuinely likes you and whom you genuinely like then they wouldn’t be so quick to let silly fears overtake them and circumvent the love…….speaking of fear–yeah, skydiving…always wanted to, so I’m gonna take my nephew next year when he turns 16………scary, but the thrill sounds as amazing as hitting the crest of a big mother of a wave…..
I’m afraid of heights so mine would be the on the top of the CN Tower in Toronto.
Rafting is one thing on my bucket list.
zZz I was tempted to ask you to get a drink with me last Saturday night after everyone left,but you seemed like you had to get the bus.
Pining for what for what you can’t get is a waste of emotional energy. Certainly it undermines the current relationship if you have one. Even OP admits that it is dangerous.
Skydiving (I wouldn’t do it because I’m too much of a freaking chicken) is attainable, people often aren’t so why make yourself melancholy. Chalk him up to a nice memory and move on.
but we can pine for the fjords, right?
Remarkable bird. Beautiful plumage.
Cleese “Well what else have you got then?” Palin “I got a slug!” Cleese “Does it talk?” Palin “Ummm……yeah!” Cleese “I’ll take it!” Classic Python sketch.
I kind of borrowed your idea for an avatar PG. Consider it an homage.
Notice your avatar doesn’t say “Fuck Mohammed!” He doesn’t have a death wish.
Troodon Is that a Hawk? Nice bird.
Painy I think Lemmy is FN cool.When I grow up I want to be like Lemmy.
I honestly didn’t expect it going so late.
I guess there’s a lot to rant about ’round these parts.
I usually feel like inviting my company is akin to tightly packing your garbage and inviting your local raccoons to rip it apart on your front lawn….
http://assets.diylol.com/hfs/9de/ca6/8c1/r…
It’s a redwing blackbird riding a hawk. Seeing Painey’s previous avatar reminded me of this picture. Who’s Lemmy? Not an Arctic rodent is he/she?
shit.. I’ve been trying to find that pic. I thought it was a hawk too because it looked like it had a pigeon’s head on an eagle’s body. damn.
Lemmy’s performed at Wrestlemania! King of kings indeed
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lemmy
zZz “I usually feel like inviting my company is akin to tightly packing your garbage and inviting your local raccoons to rip it apart on your front lawn….”
I don’t get it..? So am I a raccoon or garbage? Lol
You probably needed a couple Motrin the next morning.
you’re the person… I’m the raccoons.
zZz My God,I can be a bitch (when provoked) but I wouldn’t poison you.
It was only about 9pm and I didn’t want to go home yet.I wanted a couple more beer’s so I ended up going to celtic co*ner alone.:(