It’s been months, you’re dating someone else, and so am I. My heart still aches when I think of you. I’m not sure if it’s because of the things we went through, (the regrets we will always have). You treated me badly (we just were so hard on each other because of what we went through), and there should be no reason for me to feel like this—but when you told me you wanted to work things out with us the other week… god, all I wanted to do was show up on your doorstep. I miss the sex, I miss your stupid laugh and I miss your gap tooth grin, I miss how prideful I was to be around you, to be with you, how content I was with life. You were my favourite person, and I don’t think I will ever stop missing you. I wish things were not so complicated. The guy I am dating now treats me like a goddess… literally, to the point I feel like I don’t deserve him. I want to want him, I want to be happy but life’s not that easy. He deserves so much better but he refuses. My heart and my mind are with you for all of your faults you are so perfect to me. All I want to do is let you go… —My Head and My Heart are Always at Battle
This article appears in Sep 20-26, 2012.
Remember, things always look better from a distance. There’s a reason you’re not together. Your” favourite” person will not treat you badly. You’re treating your new guy badly! Perhaps you’re right, you don’t deserve him. Your hypocrisy is showing. If you don’t think you deserve better, then crawl back to your perfect man who treated you badly and leave the guy who thinks you’re a goddess to pick up the pieces.
You think you know regret now? Wait until your “good” guy realizes he does, in fact, deserve better.
Why would you be proud of being around somebody who treats you badly? Put your heart and energy into the new guy, he deserves it. Forget about Mr. Wrong.
Christ, I seem to be giving the same advice out a lot!