It’s as simple as this: A best friend doesn’t go after my husband. We’re separated and had been trying to make a go of things and YOU fucked it up. I no longer want anything to do with either of you. So maybe I should thank you for being a sleaze bag. You deserve one another. Though if I see you together, I’m going to throw a shoe at you—and I wear very large heavy clunky shoes! You both have broken my heart. I hope you feel good about yourself. Karma. Karma, my dear. —Theft of Husband
This article appears in Jun 9-15, 2011.
It takes two to tango. They both ruined it.
Move on my dear. I’ve been in your large clunky shoes. Onwards and upwards.
Oh that does stink, but he went willingly … which is kind of sad.
Ah wellll
It’s not sad, Donk.
People can’t help who they end up falling in love/lust with just as they can’t help who they fall out of love/lust with.
It SUCKS that OP’s best friend was the one he ultimately went to and I know this bitch isn’t about this, but I’d rather have my SO leave me than stay our of obligation. I have more self respect than that.
In any event, why’s it only the other woman that gets the blame in these situations? Men might be dense fuckers in general, but you can’t MAKE a guy be with you if he doesn’t want to. And you were seperated to begin with… just because you’re TRYING to work it out doesn’t mean if CAN be worked out. Maybe you two were just on a different page and he clicked better with your friend. I understand that you feel hurt, but being angry and upset is only hurting you in the end. It’s obvious neither one of them give a shit about your feelings — move on and find someone else who actually wants to be wtih you.
It’s sad for her, I’m sure.
“People can’t help who they end up falling in love/lust with just as they can’t help who they fall out of love/lust with.” Sure, but you can help acting like a total tool. There’s a thing called tact, it’s lacking it today’s world. For the best friend it’s a classic case of shitting where you eat and being selfish. As for the man, he just seems like a confused fish.
Yup.
What does this say about his new gf (i.e. the “best friend”)?? Willing to start a relationship with a male scuzbag who is already in one?
He’s not in a relationship — he’s separated.
Talk to any bitcher on here who’s divorce hasn’t gone through or the divorce procedings haven’t been started — i don’t think any of them consider themselves to be in relationships. Some even refer to their spouse they’re separated from as their “ex spouse.”
I dunno, donk, I think if he wanted to be with his wife, he would be.
Maybe the best friend sucks a better dick? *shrug*
Don’t mind me guys, I’m in a weird ass mood today.
I don’t mind PK, I was just about to type something similar like, “All of this could have been prevented if you just put out” 🙂
my ass feels weird, i just got poked with a sharp thingy
First of all, karma is just some stupid fucking word people use when they have nothing clever to say. Secondly, if he was “taken” he wanted to be and is just too much of a pussy to stand up and say so.
Thank the pair of them, wash your hands of it and move the hell on.
seems this triangle has lost it’s shape…
http://helpingpsychology.com/wp-content/up…
I know, right, mel?
Everyone’s all “OMG WHY’D HE LEAVE *insert beautiful person here*? SHE’S SOOOO HOT!”
Well maybe she’s a huge bitch?
Maybe she’s dumb as bricks?
Maybe she doesn’t put out?
Maybe she can’t suck a dick to save her life?
Looks aren’t everything, my friends. You can always put a paper bag over an uggo’s head when you’re fucking them.
Hay, best sex I’ve ever had was with a guy who was really really not that attractive… *shrug*
So is it safe to assume that the Girl Code is really more what you’d call “guidelines” than actual rules?
There ain’t no “girl code.”
Girls are bitches. Especially to one another.
i don’t know this code…i like the echo sierra papa ones
Yeah I don’t know of any code…. except Peter. He’s a cute little man.
http://www.cbc.ca/newsatsixns/assets/image…
Girls ARE bitches which is why I try to stay away! Some are aiight but I hate the feeling of being stabbed in the back. Guys do this too, but it’s more literal and sometimes welcome.
Women are not bitches stop perpetuating that BULLSHIT. A best friend doesn’t do such things. You don’t, out of your own self respect and respect for your friend. Suck better dick … puts out … what a wonderful way to measure self worth. Those are just perks on the side, not a way to build long lasting relationships.
… I just, I just don’t understand how there is a grey area here. If he wanted to be with his wife he would be, yes. He wouldn’t delude her into making a go of it … and the fuck her best friend. Nasty ass mother fuckers. Nasty. Plus what a lovely way to start a new relationship, marred in tom foolery.
Who cares if she’s pretty or not … that’s not the point … after all no one stares at the mantle while poking the fire, right.
It’s all selfish entitled behaviour.
Sounds like the dude was getting some on the side and liked it.
and somehow they both fell for it AND blame each other.
he’s got them wrapped ’round his little… *ahem….
Well, I know *I* would never EVER go after my best friends’ husband, separated or not.
But, as much as I love my girl friends, most of my friends are guys and i just find it filled with far less drama. The ladies I *am* friends with currently are of the same mind set.
Hang out with enough guys on a friend basis and you realize just how bitchy/dramarama filled women CAN be.
Hay zed — question: what’s up with all the blood-esque and skull and otherwise scary avatars? You went from the picture of the bed, a kitty picture, a spider picture to blood and guts and gore and skulls…. *shudder*
It’s really juvenile attention seeking women who are like that. Honestly, I stick to girlfriends who are adult, mature and confident. That’s where the problem is, PK. You’ve gotta find the good ones. I have great guy friends too – but they’re also mature and confident.
It’s more of a personality thing then boy vs. girl thing.
And if she WAS your best friend, then I agree with Donk 100%, she would respect you more than that and stay away from the x. At least until you had found some closure with the whole thing.
Good luck OP – you’re better off to have nothing to do with either of them. You’ll see. Life is easier without that kind of drama. Sometimes a clean break is exactly what you need and will set you up better in the future (speaking from experience here).
Oh I agree that if she was really her best friend she wouldn’t’ve started screwing around with her husband. And I do agree with you, ralmn on the adult and mature thing when it comes to female friends. I can’t think of one of my female friends (well maybe ONE, but we don’t really hang out that much anymore since she moved away) who rides the dramarama train, but I DO find there’s a difference between being with female friends and being with male friends.
I think moreso, I’ve worked with some bitches who, even though they were older, were anything BUT mature. Last place I worked, save for a few of the girls, was like a hen house with a bunch of nattery hens watching your every move ready to pounce if you did something slightly wrong or against rules because they had nothing else in their lives to hold onto.
what can I say…
the highs are high… and the lows are low.
as for OP, there’s a reason this needed to be invented…
http://dvice.com/archives/2006/09/remember…
I heard on a wedding show that men tend to forget their anniversary only once. heh.
“the highs are high… and the lows are low.”
That really DOES sound like bi-polar 🙁
we got hitched on july the 1st, that way we get the day off
Sorry Donk, please do not take any of my posts too seriously or think that I actually mean most of the things I say. Obviously I realize that not all women are bitches and that all relationship issues could be solved with a BJ.
Our anniversary is 2 days after my B-day and 10 days before SOBova’s. Hard to forget that..
Yes, PK, why is she blaming her friend? Yeah it’s shitty move on her part but she should be equally as mad if not more at the ex. But they both clearly don’t care about her feelings. I know OP doesn’t agree with me right now but she’ll be thankful, she got rid of two shitty people in her life. Tough pill to swallow for sure.