So I just had an incredible workout and you pass by while I’m leaving the main entrance of the gym. I’m sweaty and feel accomplished, and you buddy have the nerve to say – ‘You don’t box do you?’.
Yeah I box, I’m a young woman who puts on her pink boxing gloves five days a week and trains her ass off! ‘ Do you enjoy it?’ Hell yeah! Can you guess who the target is on my bag tomorrow you jerk? —Let me work out in peace!
This article appears in Sep 16-22, 2010.
aah the sweet science…give it all you’ve got sweetie …boxing rawks
I gues the idiot never saw Ali’s and Fraiser’s daughters boxing. I sure as hell wouldn’t want to be in front of their punches.
I would have said: I’m surprised you can walk with your knuckles dragging on the ground.
Holy shit, what crawled up your vagina? Chill out.
yea chill little sister 🙂
Ugh, saying “You don’t box do you?” is not evidence that he was assuming women don’t box. However your uncalled for reaction to it is evidence that YOU are in fact the one who jumps to conclusions and makes assumptions. You assumed he’s sexist based on your moronic literal interpretation of a commonly used sentence structure.
You don’t have a screwdriver I could borrow, do you? = Do you have a screwdriver I could borrow?
You haven’t seen my slippers, have you? = Have you seen my slippers?
You couldn’t drop by later, could you? = Could you drop by later?
You don’t box, do you? = Do you box?
This sentence structure is VERY commonly used in the Maritimes especially in rural areas, where I grew up. So if you’re not from here, you get some slack. But regardless of that you’re still a hypersensitive spastic sexist asshole who gives feminism a bad name.
While you have a point, snoop, the intent behind a sentence like that has everything to do with tone. Emphasis placed on particular words in that sentence can change its meaning quite drastically. While a simple, “you don’t box, do you?” could come across quite innocently, a “YOU don’t box, DO YOU?” or “you don’t BOX, do you?” indicate an air of incredulity on the part of the speaker that would certainly justify the OP’s reaction. Since only the OP and the dude know what was said and how it was said, why make the assumption that the OP is some crazed over-reacting bitch?
Great points, Snoop. I agree.
Only every bitcher knows what really happened in their situation, while we keep that in mind we never let that keep us from commenting or forming opinions, lest the bitch board shrivel and die. If I’m wrong I’m wrong, but I’ll post regardless.
I make my conclusion based on my optimism and my familiarity with an unfortunate situation. I’m optimistic, I don’t think most men are sexist. That leads me to believe that OP most likely misunderstood this man. I’ve seen the situation of women misunderstanding a man and unfairly branding him a sexist pig WAY more often than I’ve seen men actually be sexist. I also know the sentence structure I describe to be extremely common here, so it’s possible and likely the man meant it that way.
So there it is, my comment is based on what I believe and my own experiences both of which I am aware are fallible, but that’s all I have to work with.
However I do see your point on emphasis and meaning. But let me point out that even if the man had said it the way you describe does not mean he is sexist. “You don’t BOX do you?” and “YOU don’t box DO YOU?” could be intended to convey surprise just as easily as it could be intended to show contempt. My optimism leads me to believe it would most likely have been surprise, perhaps mistaken for contempt or perhaps not.
If it was surprise, That’s not sexist. There are still lots of masculine originated activities that women don’t usually pursue, taking notice of that reality or being surprised by a woman that does pursue them doesn’t make you sexist. But some woman think it does. Some women overreact to things like this and I have a big problem with that because it’s counterproductive.
If it was contempt or mistaken for contempt, then it was either a misunderstanding or an actual sexist incident and I’m wrong, but I don’t think I am.
While I respect the bitch board as a place to blow off steam and be pissy I think there are better ways to react to real sexism. Ways that don’t involve the old “I am woman, hear me roar” mentality which, while it had it’s place in history, is probably not applicable or productive for modern feminists.
like the old saying,” she can’t fight for shit, but you should see her box”. nyuk nyuk.
Jesus H., LS, your quip turned my nose into a coffee fountain. Too fucking funny.
I couldn’t agree with Snoop more… well said. Some girls need to stop getting offended so easily.
get over yourself…no one actually really cares if you box or not.
If the OP takes boxing classes, works her ass off training, why didn’t she just pop the guy one? Probably because she had to get home and cook dinner for her husband/bf.
OP I wouldn’t get too worked up about it. Maybe he knows someone (sister, friend) who would benefit from the discipline of boxing, and just wanted more info on the kind of girls who like to box.
boxing is a great workout and stress reliever…that way we don’t punch out charmers like our dear sweet sebastard
Bahahahaha. Well played, PG, well played.
merci mr/ms…mr. sebastard brings out the best of my beast^^
He does tend to bring out certain emotions in a lot of people.
Our boy has done more to discredit homophobia than Rosie O’Donnell AND the pope put together. >; )
speaking of his hole(y)ness…he is being sued by some poor deaf soul. raping young boys who can’t scream was father murphy’s thang, but he was buried with full catholic honours…puke
May they all suffer an earthly fate like Father Geoghan in Boston. And even if there is no heaven, I surely hope there is a hell. The so-called Sisters of Charity will wind up in whatever circle is designated for heavy-handed irony. Joni Mitchell did a song with The Chieftans called “The Magdalene Launderies”. Lovely and vicious.
Snoop , nicely put
L.S.–(applause) thanks for the laugh.
Snoop – well said. I think some woman jump the gun way too quick when it comes to playing the sexist card. One time I was a work (few years back in college) a man had brought cookies in that his wife had baked for all of us. I said “Tell your woman thanks…cookies were awesome” and a female co-worker took a strip off me because I said “your woman”….gave me a big lecture that “she’s not his possession…blah blah blah”. Give me a freakin break women!
Maybe sebastian doesn’t know his place as the women of the gay species resulting in him being unable to find a man to cook for. Then again masculin males don’t care for faggots.
you’re going to keep riding that train, eh fat?
do it to it.
I personally don’t like the ‘your woman’ / ‘your man’ deal either…
but I’m not about to bend my shit all outta shape over it.
I don’t know how it started though… it was some time in my lifetime but I can’t really recall when it came into prominence.
Hopefully you signed up for the personality classes they offer at your gym as well.