You went through a bad break up a few months back and now you’re interested in dating again. I wanted to introduce you to a great guy I work with. It seemed like you would be a good match because you both seemed to like the same kind of things for the most part. When I told you his hobbies and interests, you were ecstatic and couldn’t wait to meet him. That suddenly changed when I showed you pictures of him. You weren’t interested anymore. Why? You cringed at me and said “He’s… um, a ginger…”
Of course, I asked you so fucking what! You told me you weren’t attracted to guys completely covered in freckles with carrot top orange hair, eyelashes, and eyebrows. So that’s a deal breaker?!?!?! You have all this stuff in common but you won’t date him because he’s a ‘ginger’??? Un-fucking-believable. I cannot believe you’re throwing away an opportunity to meet a sweet guy just because of the way he looks! Oh my fuck, I’m glad I didn’t tell him about you and you didn’t actually meet up with him; he doesn’t know he was being rejected! What the hell is the matter with you! —I’m Not a Ginger, But Stop Hating on Them!
This article appears in Mar 15-21, 2012.
There does have to be attraction. Some people like dark hair some people love light hair. It is a desired preference.
Your taking this to personal for some reason.
but, but, but, o.p., gingers have no souls. it’s a well known fact thruout bitcherdom. j.k. all, i know a lot of red headed people, male and female, and the horniest females i ever had the pleasure of doing pleasure with, are you guessed it, redheads.
but don’t let that bother you, if they and you are compatable, go the fuck for it.although too many frecks can be turn off, they can also be fun. moreso when they get drunk, pass out, then you can play connect all the dots, and make funny pictures with a marker pen.
Girls with red hair are beautiful. Just putting that out there.
If your not attracted to them whats the point of a relationship? and i agree furious i love girls with red hair red clothes red everything
and she wonders why she’s lonely…
IMO there has to be some kind of physical attraction or Im not gonna bother. And if she specified no red heads why would u try to set her up with a red head???
PS Im also against dating a ginger guy but im good with a ginger girl 🙂
I’d pull up a front row seat to that show…
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Ginger? YUCK. Sorry bud, but gingers are not attractive at alllll!!! Can’t blame your friend, I never fucked a ginger woman in my life and don’t ever plan to.
Why does it bother you who someone else is willing to date?
Way to keep your bitches in check, Braw.
I dated a ginger briefing in my 20s but couldn’t get past those pale eyelashes and freckles – my kid, on the other hand, is absolutely crazy about gingers. I can see I’m going to be rewarded with a bunch of soul-free grandkiddies. FECK!
Most have a type they are attracted to. If the attraction isn’t there , a relationship probably won’t happen. Most relationships start with lust then devolope into more.
I don’t think your friend is superficial at all — if there’s no sexual attraction, all you end up with is a friendship.
It’s funny how it’s superficial to not date someone based on their looks but if someone doesn’t date someone based on personality isn’t?
Everyone has different tastes. It happens and there’s nothing wrong with it.
I agree, physical attraction is important but I don’t see why she wouldn’t just go out on a date anyway.. I mean it’s not like she’s agreeing to marry him, it was just a date. If they seemed to have a lot in common, I’m sure they’d have a good time regardless. Sometimes when you get to know someone, they start to look more or less appealing based on their personality. I’ve dated based on looks and found over time, I realized how dumb and homophobic some guy was, then he was ugly.
So you won’t date a person because of hair color & or freckly skin (sometimes called skin color).
Which from the replies I’ve been reading seems to be ok by some of you.
So refusing to date a person with all the same interests ,blah ,blah, blah, as this red headed guy has…but they are black IMO it logically follows it is also ok.after all look at them there skin is dark & their hair is kinky/curly !
…. I don’t know about the rest of you but the way I’m wired, that sounds predjudiced. Both are examples in judging both these people based on skin & hair color !
When I looked up racism on line, it mentioned judging people based on skin color, by hair color etc.
After all PK wrote-“Everyone has different tastes, It happens & there’s nothing wrong with it” -end quote
….I disagree, if you have met someone & in getting to know each other, you may or may not become friends , lovers, a couple…or nothing may come of it at all, because that happens much more often than a love of your life partner does.
But to not even bother based on something as petty as skin & hair color..please go blow smoke up someone elses ass, I can see right through you.
“sometimes when you get to know someone, they start to look more or less appealing based on their personality” wise words mel
There’s a difference between hating on someone and not finding them attractive OP.
More, lots of people prefer certain skin colors over the other. I, for example find the vast majority of Asian women I see to be unattractice. I have nothing against them, they just don’t float my boat. I don’t think I’m racist because I dont make a conscious decision to not find these women hot on purpose. It’d be different if I stayed away from them because *insert racial stereotype here*. If I said things like, “she’s really cute and cool but she’s Asian, I can’t date an Asian because xyz” That would be making a decision based on race. I actually did date a couple Asian girls when I was a teenager, and I’d do it again, I just haven’t seen one that I find attractive in a long time. Not in real life anyways. See the difference?
People are turned on and turned off by a lot of things they have no control over, and that shouldn’t be held against them. Why waste your ginger friend’s time with someone who finds gingers unattractive? And why do you care who someone else is willing to date?
I don’t owe anybody any explanations for who I find hot and who I choose to pursue, fuck or date. Chastising someone for not dating someone for reasons you don’t agree with is the same as saying to someone “dude your girlfriend is ugly, why would you choose her?”
I file this bitch under MYOB. In my experience, anyone who needs to be “set up” on dates is in that boat for a reason.
I also agree with Mel 100% that people can become more attractive once you get to know them and realize you like who they are. But there are still certain things I’m not going to be able to get past no matter how great your personality is.
Like bad feet, Tommy?
I think there’s a difference between redheads and gingers. There are plenty of redheads who do NOT have bright orange hair or pale eye lashes/brows and have fewer/no freckles. These people are not gingers. I’ve seen many attractive redheads–attractive gingers, not so much.
OP, I’m with your friend on this matter. I don’t find gingers too appealing either. And like everyone else said, you need to realize that physical attraction has to exist too. Your friend has a right to choose who she wants to date.
I’m sure you have preferences too, don’t you? If a friend wanted you to date someone who wasn’t the least bit attractive to you, you would have done the same thing, you fucking hypocrite. If this guy is so great, YOU date him.
To each his own.
Lol nasty feet are a dealbreaker, yes.
I understand what most are saying here and I agree. Physical attraction is the initial hook in wanting to start a relationship and people do have their “types”. However, I do have to agree with More that if the essence of the bitch was that the lady in question would not go out with her friend because was he was black, she would be getting flamed by the peanut gallery as a racist not so much as somebody making a “choice”.
Say what you want but I just have that feeling.
” But there are still certain things I’m not going to be able to get past no matter how great your personality is.”
Tell me about it, Thomas *sadface*
also: if there’s one thing I know for sure is if they send you pictures of themselves with a machete, it’s probably ok NOT to put a ring on it.
tj, then i guess hobbits are definately out of the question for you to date, even the cute ones.
and why the fuck do people call them carrot tops, carrot tops are actually green, look it the fuck up people.
I fail to see how this is anything but personal choice. Even if he was black, and she said “I’m just not attracted to dark complected people”, I fail to see how that’s racist either, unless there is some hatred toward that particular race of people. A person can have personal preferences when it comes to physical characteristics of attraction, without being racist. It’s sad that someone can’t be honest about their attraction, without being pegged as a monster. That’s the problem with this world today, everyone is so fucking sensitive about shit, she shouldn’t even have to give a reason why she’s not attracted to him, it’s her choice. I fail to see how that’s any different than not dating fat guys, short guys, tall guys, guys with arms that are too long, whatever, it doesn’t matter, it’s physical attraction. Is she being short sighted by excluding him, and all others like him, from the dating pool? Sure, but that’s her choice, you can’t force attraction.
“if there’s one thing I know for sure is if they send you pictures of themselves with a machete, it’s probably ok NOT to put a ring on it.
NOW, she tells me. >: (
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Tommy, Shitd…absolutely people have preferences…some (LS comes to mind) don’t. That’s not what I pointed out…what the OB said was they wanted to introduce their ‘friend’ to a person with red hair & freckly skin. She didn’t even want to meet them, nothing to do with fucking them ! She wasn’t even interested in meeting someone solely based on skin & hair !
THat’s what I was pointing out. WHo knows the guy could be gay & no matter how nice a set of T& A she was sporting , it wouldn’t interest him & I’ve got no problem with that either.
But to refuse to even meet someone because they are asian ? or black ? what’s up with that ? That IMO is a predjudice reaction, that’s what’s up with that.
It’s not because he’s ginger though, it’s because she’s not attracted to his physical appearence, bottom line. It doesn’t matter why.
Even if you want to call it racist (gingers aren’t a race of people but that’s another discussion) who cares? It’s her choice and she doesn’t need anyone’s approval. If someone chooses not to date gingers, or black people or asians or white people that’s their business.
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I’m a red-headed female and obviously any hate towards gingers hits home since me, plus most of my family, are gingers.
However, I don’t think your friend is being hateful, OB.. she’s just not into light skinned ginger dudes. We all have preferences and he just doesn’t do it for her.
Whoa. I always thought you were a dude, naveed.
You’re 100% right, though — and I’ve mentioned this: you can’t force someone to be sexually attracted to someone. I absolutely think that first impressions on appearance can change when you get to know someone — lord knows one of my exes is proof of that, but there are just some people you have no desire to fuck or/and can’t have that romantic feeling about. And there’s nothing wrong with that — it’s not being superficial at all.
Not wanting to date someone you’re not attracted to is perfectly reasonable. It can make you very uncomfortable. I know there are guys who I’m so not attracted to that the thought of having a relationship with them gives me an icky feeling… and actually, I also get an uncomfortable feeling when it comes to thinking about actually having sex with guys I find incredibly attractive. It’s weird, but eh, the human brain is odd.
PS: just as there are ugly brunettes and blonds and attractive brunettes and blonds, there are ugly gingers and attractive gingers. Some people are attractive and some are unattractive.
Y’all should go read Harrison Bergeron and come back and tell me everyone should be ‘equal.’ There are ugly people in this world for a reason.
PS: suckers — they’re called ‘carrot tops’ because the tops of their heads are orange like carrots, not because they look like an actual green carrot top. LOLZ
SOBova wanted me to point out that even though she is lucky enough to be hitched to “Mightiest Ox From Ukrainian Steppe” she finds Prince Harry to be snoggalicious.
And Naveed, as long as you don’t have a moustache or wear socks on your hands, yer all right >; )
*takes the socks off of her hands and looks awkwardly from side-to-side*
Carrot tops are green! That’s what I always said to the kids that called me carrot top… or shit head if they had brown hair! hehe. Ah, the joys of being 8.
Why?? I’m also not especially attracted to gingers.
I wouldn’t turn one down if he were absolutely perfect for me. But i’m not attracted to them either.
There are also some races i’m attracted to more than others.
Is this going to be a problem for you too op?
And it’s not prejudiced or racist in any way to want/not want to date someone based on their race.
Am i heightest because i’m not into tall dudes? Am i lexist because i prefer someone to speak the same language i do? Am I ageist because i won’t go out with a man in his 90s?
I have no issue whatsoever with men who have fair hair. They’re just people like any other people and i treat them the same as any other people. But i’m not sexually attracted to them and shouldn’t feel guilted into dating or fucking them.. Telling me to be sexually attracted to them as some sort of sexual affirmative action IS prejudiced. Because i’m being forced to lie to these men because of the colour of their hair.
Personally, when I was single, I’d take any opportunity to meet someone – who knows, they might have introduced me to my “perfect match”. Oh wait! I actually met my hubby through a ginger…
If I had been a “gingerphobe”, I’d be a crazy cat lady now… (not that there’s anything wrong with that). 🙂
you got that right more, if it breathes, then it’s fair gaame, and you just never know who will be the next dark lord’s mistress.
Gingers are cool as long as they weedwack their fire crotch.
No way, No Fool. A ginger’s delta of venus should resemble a baseball diamond planted with tiger lilies. Giggity Giggityevich.
I once heard a woman explain why she didn’t date gingers – “Red pubes, can you imagine going down on that? Ewww!”
Just for the record, I think Red Heads can be quite sexy.
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