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Why is it that every time I get on a bus these days, some creepy man is compulsed to sit down next to me? My bag is on the seat next to me because I don’t want some weirdo perv like you sitting there and muttering to himself. Get the hint!
—Sitting with another woman from now on
This article appears in May 7-13, 2009.
64 Comments
right on sister. all men are pigs. ALL of them.
douche.
women are just as creepy and muttering.
People can sit where they want. Your fucking bag doesn’t need its own seat.
We need a new title banner on this site to go along with “Boring Break-Up Story” and “Another Bus Bitch”. It would read something like “Another Whiney Cow Who’s Ready to Shit Her Pants if Someone So Much as Looks at Her”. It doesn’t quite roll off the tongue though.
Get a car then you won’t have to worry about half the population leering and wanting your body. Sheesh what a maroon.
Maybe they do that because they see you taking up space with your bag, you cow. Maybe the guy is muttering (in a Jeremy Hotz-like tone)”hehe stole a spot from that dirty rat bitch’s purse hehe next time I’m just going to sit ON her fuckin’ purse, yeah, that’ll teach the self-important slag, hehe get all her makeup in one lump hehe take THAT you pancake-makeuped hag”
Is compulsed a mix of compelled and convulsed? Maybe he is compelled to sit next to you, then convulsed with your odor?
LOL Guyute on the Jeremy Hotz. I Went to see him when he came to Halifax recently and it was the funniest stand up comedy I’ve ever seen. Back to this bitch, the bus is a public form of transportation OP. You have no right to decide who (or what) sits next to you. I know as a rule, that if I see some asshat trying to prevent someone else from sitting next to them (either by putting their bag next to them or sitting in the outside seat) I’ll make a point of “inconveniencing” them by parking my rear next to them.
If your bag paid its own fare then it can sit on a seat of its own. Otherwise it it off the damn seat and make room for the rest of us.
People who leave there bag on the seats annoy the hell out of me. You don’t own that seat because your bag is on it. I’m always the one who ask them to move it, and I’m sure that every “guy” isn’t purposly trying to sit beside you every morning. Stop being a stuck up bitch
word.
bitch.
I ask
“would you like to move your bag? or should I do that for you?”
Take a book and head phones you should be left alone for the most part
I will admit to putting my bag beside me but i will be the first to move it if i see the bus getting full or a crowd getting on. its called common curtesy. like giving your seat to the older person or monster preggo. even if she paid 2 fares the seat is still up for grabs on a busy bus. i’d be damned if i stand so a purse could sit.
What is with the trend lately of every woman bitcher thinking every strange man is creepy or weird or perverted or a pedophile or whatever?
Just because someone sits next to you, talks to you, looks at you, doesn’t mean they did something so terribly wrong that it should warrant such a degree of offence to be taken.
We’re trying to have a society here people! Join us!
not all of us feel that way NM. i enjoy talking to new people about absolutely nothing (really). could be about the weather, the pins (opinionated saying) on my purse, how cute is that baby … etc…. i find that it improves my day as well as theirs. i do understand OP that some people can give off a wierd vibe but they are few and far between. open your eyes the world can be a good place.
I know it’s not all women who feel this way JMO. I was exaggerating of course. There just seems to be a lot of these lately is all I’m saying.
Okay, people like the OP piss me off. Firstly, take your bag off the fucking seat already. Unless you have a shit load of bags or the bus is really empty, your bag has no business on that seat. It’s rude and immature. Secondly, get the fuck over yourself. Not everything with a penis wants to fuck you, princess.
No orange tag for this one?
now you know why I call most young girls in HRM dumbasses.
OP, suck it up. It’s a big, crazy world, so why don’t you put on your big girl pants and deal with it. You’re riding public transit, which means you’re gonna have to deal with the public – the good, the weird, and the smelly. You don’t like it, find a new ride, or better yet, stay at home and be paranoid and hateful at the world, like Kay, for example.
I know it’s scary, but when you walk outside your house, you will find yourself amongst other human beings. They may look at you, they may sit next to you, they *gasp* may even try to talk to you. I realize this might be offensive to your delicate sensibilities, but human interaction, although somewhat passé these days, is really not so bad most of the time. You should really give it a go.
I haven’t rode the bus in years, and back then I hated when people sat next to me cause I was a punk kid…I’m with everyone else – grow up and get over yourself – or buy a car…it’s a crazy world full of crazy people – embrace it!
I could kinda see someone blocking the seat next to them if they felt like they were having a lot of trouble with creepy guys and if there were plenty of other seats to choose from, but not if there are people standing waiting for a seat.
Get over your self. Not everyone is a pervert, maby they are staring at you because they are creeped out by the way you keep giving everyone around you the stink eye. move your bag and let us sit down, or we wil move it for you.
NM – I think that a lot of the creepy dude thing is due to the fact that it’s springtime. Males species are out (intentionally or not) with more hormones and looking. I tend to think of it as with the pidgeons, when you see the males out there all puffed up and dancing, and the females are looking scared and running away. The males are just trying to look their best and do what they can to impress, but the girls are just thinking, why is this guy dancing so much, can’t he see im just waiting for some crumbs to fall?
facebook and google are turning humans into hamsters.
honestly, youth don’t deserve any respect when they refuse to earn it. and this little twit deserves none.
Nice analogy PAS. I liked that. I know I tend to get a little ‘randy’ when I see the short skirts start to appear in the Spring. Maybe these creeps just have less self-control than I do and are bad at hiding their natural attraction.
As a good friend of mine likes to joke, “Summer is my favourite sport!”
“What is with the trend lately of every woman bitcher thinking every strange man is creepy or weird or perverted or a pedophile or whatever?”
It’s called Narcissism and a busload of younger women are lousy with it.
They honestly think that every single look either in their direction or past them is connected to “He wants me”. HA like an 80 pound fake blond is EVERYONE’S idea of the epitome of “Beautiful Woman”…personally I am getting pretty sick of seeing the self-entitled little tarts.
Whenever I get the opportunity (which is next to never) I like to shoot down the girls you describe DER. It’s worth passing up a sure thing just to see the look on their faces because it’s never happened to them before. Priceless!
(then i go home alone and immediately regret it 🙁
im getting sick to death of these “guys are so creepy” bitches. i fear for the future of our society that these little lollipop, empty heads are going to be procreating.
as has been said, your fucking fake gucci bag doesnt neeed a seat. grow the fuck up and smell the “creepy old man” OP. i will not resort to name calling, but i should.
Speaking from the 80 lb (+50lbs) fake blond point of view, the reason we think the men are creepy perverts is because they’re unattractive…that’s what makes them creepy…seriously, I was thinking of it today as the same overweight fugly man stared at me while I purchased my tea (just like he stares every day at the same time)…and today instead of avoiding eye contact I smiled at him. If it were a hot guy I would have smiled – maybe even stared back – but that’s what makes a man creepy and perverted – the fact that they are less attractive..and to be honest he’s not looking at me thinking “I bet she’s got a great personality and a sense of humour” he’s looking at me thinking of the many ways he’d like to bang me. It’s a shallow world and we all play our part in it.
RC: So you’re saying the reason no one smiles at me is because I’m creepy and unattractive?
My ego is really taking a beating today 🙁
so if the fake blonde is unattractive because she’s got 50lbs of make up on, black roots sticking out of a poor dye-job, no ass and no tits, dresses like every other bimbo out there (no style/taste or sense of creativity) – then they’re creepy also, right?
there’s lots of unattractive and fake (blonde) girls out there. i don’t see how they’re creepy, but if the criteria for “creep” is “being unattractive” then there’s a LOT of creepy blondes out there 😀 and creepy hairstylists too.
Muahahaha, but you know nevermind…for some it’s one of those damned if you do , damned if you don’t. Personally I would never regret turning them down, but then again when I was in my 20’s I had my fair share of them. You see the problem is…if you do date one or just take her home…you will be stuck listening to her pedantic self absolved blah blahing, quickly regretting ever speaking to her in the first place …if you turn them down, well then you’ve just turned away an emotionally weak and very willing to do the naughty things you want to do piece of tail…earning the regret.
This is of course only applicable to those who wish to score on them…and personally I find it about as rewarding as licking a car battery while standing in a salty pool of water.
I for one like a partner who has some honest to god self-awareness and personality deeper than the puddle under the urinal. Call me harsh but those waifs seriously sicken me the older I get.
also, is it possible that men are staring at these “hotties” and thinking, “fuck she must have an IQ of 75 looking like that….”?
I think it’d be helpful to know what the OP’s criteria for creepy is. I think we can all agree that when someone sits down next to you and is talking to THEMSELVES, it makes you kind of edgy, especially if there’s a physical power difference and they have you blocked in. Of course, some people’s idea of creepy is “any older man that smiles at you.” But generally I think that if you don’t have unrealistic ideas that older people should only be attracted to people their own age, you can still get a feeling of who’s creepy and who’s being genuinely friendly.
That’s all it takes to be creepy and perverted? Being unattractive by some prissy bitch’s standards, and making the mistake of looking at her? Wow, do I ever feel bad for all the physically imperfect dudes that have the misfortune of crossing your superficial path….
Did it ever occur to you that maybe he’s staring at you because you’re funny looking? Or perhaps he’s looking at you thinking “oh god, another full-of-herself plastic little princess, perhaps if I stare hard enough I can vaporize her with my eyes.”
Not every man that looks at you wants to bone you, honey, and from what you’ve said here, I can pretty much guarantee that NO ONE looks at you thinking you’ve got a great personality.
Personally, when I hear the first indication of the “pedantic self absolved blah blahing” I’m immediately turned off – doesn’t matter what she looks like. Doesn’t even matter how drunk I am, or how long of a dry spell I’m in.
At that point I do enjoy leading them on until the end of the night when it’s too late for them to find anyone else to fuck them.
And again, I don’t get to do this very often, as I’m considerably undesirable!
NM I would smile at you in a second if I seen you.
NGF – There’s a lot of ugly blond chicks in this world that wear too much makeup and dress slutty – and you can call them creepy all you want. What I’m saying is that chicks say people are creepy only when they find them, unattractive – it’s shallow but the truth – I’m not one of those people – But I was one….then I realized I was treating people based on their looks. Now I smile and say hello to everyone, I’m polite and strike up conversations with everyone, because looks are 70% disposition and 30% work you put in. I GREW UP.
I’m just saying that women don’t find ALL men creepy – just the unattractive ones.
I’d like to know the internal reaction of guys when an unattractive girl smiles at them.
Personally, I rather enjoy smiling at people in general, and almost more so if it’s a dorky/old guy, because I know that it will probably make his day more so than the typically thought to be attractive ones. Of course, I try to do it more when I am just quickly passing by or on the bus and they’re on the street kind of thing, because I’m not trying to pick them up, but just being nice.
Well Meow – if he’s looking at me thinking I’m another “platic princess” then he’s no better then the chick on the bus calling dudes creepy…because he’s judging a book by its cover – he has no idea that I may be an ex-chubby chick with little to no self esteem and that I am funny and I do have a great personality – just like I don’t judge him by the fact that he’s been wearing the same shorts for 2 weeks now – I just smiled and say hello. But come on now – there’s a friendly smile – and then there’s a stare…and he stares…not at my eyes either.
NGF’s right. Just because someone’s looking at you, and just because you happen to be a skinny blonde doesn’t mean they’re thinking of “the many ways they want to bang [you]”…I know PLENTY of guys who make fun of that type of woman when they see them…I’ve heard lots of comments. Beauty and what turns us on is VERY subjective…I mean take guys for example: women are supposedly all into men who have tight bodies and large muscles…however, most of these types just don’t do it for me. The same goes for men in their tastes when it comes to women. I’ve heard of A LOT of guys who have either turned down or wouldn’t go after a chick because she was “too skinny”.
Just sayin’
So, RC, let me get this straight, you’re speaking from “your point of view”, about what you(shallowly) think, but you’re “not one of those people”? How do you speak from a point of view that you supposedly (after being derided for it) don’t have?
I have to emphatically disagree that “chicks say people are creepy only when they find them unattractive”. I’ve found plenty of stereotypically attractive men to be creepy, especially when they’re packing an attitude that gives them an over-inflated sense of entitlement to any woman they encounter. A lot of people who are pretty on the outside are ugly on the inside, and vice versa.
As for calling someone “perverted”, unless you are aware that this guy is hatching some nefarious plot to lure you back to his sex dungeon using Magic Tan coupons, I think you’re just making unfounded assumptions.
Creepy and proud of it. LOL.
what if you were the only person on the bus and somebody sat next to you…..creeeepy
*puts up ceramic shield*
The reasons a certain type of woman finds so many men creepy are:
1. a narrow view of what is attractive in a man (true of some women)
2. an expectation that men read their minds (true of most women)
In this case, the woman is subconsciously thinking “Obviously I just decided this guy is unattractive. Why the hell doesn’t he act like it and leave my sight?!”
Flame away…
…and me0w, I see what you’re saying, but I am not just talking about physical attractiveness. You _might_ be guilty of thinking overbearing men are unattractive and assessing their inability to pick up on those thoughts and act accordingly as “creepy”.
Your purse/backpack/shopping bag, etc. does not need or deserve a seat of its own. If someone sits beside you and makes you feel uncomfortable just stand up and move to another seat or stand. If you are concerned about being blocked in if you’re sitting in a window seat, sit on the bench style seats that face the aisle. Also just to warn you, men don’t have a monopoly on creepy bus behaviour there are lots of creepy women out there too.
To be clear, I generally don’t find anyone, regardless of gender or attractiveness, creepy unless they’re actually, genuinely, over-the-top, creepy. I was just disagreeing with Real Chick’s assertion that only unattractive people can be creepy.
Just some further food for thought, but if you read accounts of many serial rapists and killers, a lot of those dudes are considered both attractive and charming, which is what allows them to gain the trust of their victims. I’d rather a weird muttering dude sat next to me on the bus than an attractive and charming serial killer any day 🙂
First off:
I am laughing my ass off at PAS’s analogy
“They honestly think that every single look either in their direction or past them is connected to ‘He wants me’”:
Der I don’t necessarily agree with that for the mere fact that I am so blind to the fact that someone is hitting on me, and just have this trusting “he is just being nice” attitude that I get myself it many an awkward situation.
Nevermind, I would totally smile at you!
My definition of creepy would be this: One time, when I was working at a kiosk in the mall, this guy circled the kiosk looking at me, licked his lips, put his hand down his pants and walked into a bathroom. Yes he was old and ugly and stinky, but I don’t give a shit what he looked like, I was mortified. It was absolutely disgusting. NGF, I really don’t think he was staring at me for my IQ.
I don’t give a shit who you are I smile at everyone, and I rarely don’t make eye contact with people.
Creepy is made up of language and body language. Regardless of age and looks. Meow you’re point on the serial killer. Awesome.
Thanks fallingangels. You bitches make my day!
And that story you told? Fucking disgusting! I would’ve called security on the guy for sure. I’ve seen my fair share of creepy behaviour from my time working in the bars and that one would rank in the top 10.
Meow excellent point – I was thinking about the ‘Ted Bundy’s” of the world last night and realized that creepy has nothing to do looks – I think girls call men (who are not creepy at all) creepy based on looks alone. Bt there are some seriously creepy people out there – 1FA1 just described “creepy”. And I would have called security too NM
“I’d like to know the internal reaction of guys when an unattractive girl smiles at them.”
Pretty much the same if I was to receive a smile from anyone. A smile is a smile that’s it. I’ll smile at old/young ladies/men doesn’t mean anything sexual whatsoever. It’s more of a social action to acknowledge people. You would have to give me more then a smile for me to know that you were interested in something more.
“I know that it will probably make his day more so than the typically thought to be attractive ones.”=Narcissism?
Meow- Kay has yet to post on this trend do you really feel the need to use her as an example? I personally after living here a few years, agree with her that NS shouldn’t take pride in being knows as a friendly place. It’s really far from it.
I creeped out the teller at the bank this morning. Was making a deposit and accidentally made eye contact with her! She didn’t exhibit any actions or body language that she was being creeped out, but after looking at her and handing her my bank card I KNEW that I was a creep 🙁
At least on a bus you have a choice of seats, try to change seats on an airplane.
“He looked at me when the flight attendant asked if he’d like a drink. It creeped me out so I think he’s a terrorist and threat to national security.”
It’s funny watching pidgeons interact, by the way the girls react to the obvious mating dance of the males, you’d wonder how they ever reproduce, the girls never seem interested.
PAS…have you ever seen a baby pigeon? Maybe they never do get laid.
Ducks however…I think they just take what they want. Those boy ducks in the Gardens are definitely taking advantage of the females.
Fucking whiny little bitch, i hope they keep staring and talking to themselve, you deserve that.
if you have your bag on a seat,then you should be paying that extra fare,you want privacy,get a fucken cab.
i’ve moved people’s bags before and will mvoe them again.
some commissionaires like to think they own seats and will try and do it during peak/rush hour times. one time i asked if the seat (with a bag) was taken (to be polite). the jerk didn’t look at me and said, “my bag’s there.”
so, to be a jerk back, i put it under the seat, sat down, smiled at the gent and said, “Not anymore!” 😀
Nice Goin’ Fat,
…any reaction from said jerk? Details…!
I think I’m going to stop shaving for a few days, put on a pair of shorts and a trench coat and really fuck with people. LOL
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now you know why I call most young girls in HRM dumbasses.
Posted by Nice Goin’ Fat on May 7, 2009 at 12:01 PM
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Support for the projection theory. Yup.
I would be very creeped out if Nice Goin Fat sat beside me. I know what kind of dangerous psychopath he is, as indicated by his comment history here.
You must be a first year psych student, oldhand. Do you mind not flooding the comments feed with old threads? I think Maude has been quite clear about your little issue…
First year psych? Lame insult.
Yes, she was clear. Point out his inappropriate posts and she will remove them.
I will stop when he does.
I bet Login, Inc. does not want this on their servers. It seems their other hosted sites are much less of liability.