If I have to hear about one more happy couple letting their mothers/familys turn their wedding into a terribly boring gathering of people they hardly know in a hall in a town they couldnt wait to get out of and no longer visit,
I am going to lose my frigging mind.
I understand that weddings are a celebration of love and the gathering of the two family’s is very traditional and usually fantastic but have a back bone people!
Invite YOUR guests, the people who YOU want to see..
Invite your friends with tattoos who have held your hair back when you puked alongside Aunt Martha who held you once when you were an infant but you haven’t seen since..
Have the reception at your favorite dive bar, don’t have an hour long religious based church wedding if the only time you pray is when you miss your period, BE YOU. This is YOUR day.
—enough already
This article appears in Aug 6-12, 2009.
It could be that pleasing their family is more important to them than having the drunken party that you want them to have, OP. Perhaps their priorities are not the same as yours.
I can’t tell from your wording whether your friends are complaining about it or not. You seem to be the one complaining.
When/if you get married, you can have whatever kind of wedding you want. But for now, mind your own business.
The sad fact of the matter is, that often the parents are the ones paying for the wedding. This means that sometimes the parents run the show. Because weddings, in case you don’t know, can get VERY expensive.
Thankfully, for my wedding, it was a compromise. The main things my husband and I wanted, we got. And my parents got to invite whoever they wanted. (Waaaay more people than I wanted.) It worked out.
I get what you mean, though. To complain to your friends about how your wedding isn’t what you want, is kinda silly. Even if your parents are footing the bill, you can always try asking for a compromise.
A very close friend of mine recently was married, and he and his wife paid for (almost) everything. It was my job, as close friend who didn’t know any of the family, to beat the crap out of and/or set straight (not necessarily in that order) those who gave them a hard time in regards to expectations for said wedding.
My point: your wedding not anyone else’s.
And make sure you have a few good friends around just in case
…and be sure to use your grandmother’s apostrophe mark!