You know what my pet peeve is? Being interrupted when I’m talking!
I’m sure this is many others’ pet peeves as well. I’m so sick of talking to someone and having them cut me off mid-sentence to throw in their two-cents! …Hello, I’m still talking here!
I see people do this to others all the time, and so many people do this to me, even people I like. Funny thing is, when said individuals talk to me (and talk and talk and talk), I will actually stay silent and LISTEN, and WAIT to respond (even in cases where they’re boring me to tears)!
It’s pretty fucking bad when it takes me twice as long to tell a story, or get my point across, because the recipient doesn’t shut up long enough for me to finish… Ok, say a couple words in response while I’m talking, but don’t start telling me your own story for about 10 minutes when I wasn’t even finished mine! My repeated sighs and ‘anyways, as I was saying…’s should be a hint to you that you need to shut your mouth while someone else is talking!!
Are you that dense that I have to tell you “Hey, I wasn’t finished”? —Frustrated
This article appears in Jul 29 – Aug 4, 2010.
Talk about something worth listening to.
Maybe they’re interupting beause you’re talking their fucking ear off.
“I will actually stay silent and LISTEN, and WAIT to respond (even in cases where they’re boring me to tears)! “
that’s one of my pet peeves…
waiting and waiting for someone to finish a lame story they keep dragging out
….on and on and on….
never ending… just rambling for something to do … or just to hear their own voice…
never really saying anything.
they never shut up and just keep on going
oblivious to the fact that other’s lives are wasting away…
minute by minute until I just can’t take it anymore….
*twitch twitch*
maybe this has something to do with banality
It’s called conversation. You’re not a prof giving a lecture. Why should we wait? Jeez.
Are they cutting you off to ask a question about your story or to say something unrealated … if it’s completely unrelated or something that makes them feature more prominently in the convo then I can understand.
I used be bad at conversating….I know that’s probably not a word ;D. But yeah, I would wait until others were finished talking before I spoke, but by the time they stopped talking, they went onto something else, somethign I don’t have anything to say about. So, over the years people considered me someone who doesn’t talk much because of this, when really, I was dying inside to try and get even one sentence out but I was never able to. Sometimes I did, but someone would start talking over me. Now, I just cut people off and talk over them if they interupt me. And now OMG I’m such a chatty person others tell me. Go figure.
i’d rather listen to people blathering on…as opposed to lifeless automatons who twitter/text…grrr
I think the word you’re looking for is “conversing” melectric.
Me thinks OP just needs to shut up. Unless you’re being paid to talk, others are going to talk WITH you. If you’re too good for that, talk to your mirror or purchase some sock puppets. They shouldn’t interrupt.
sock puppets…teehee. or you could paint one of those little faces on your hand…like cartman did with jlo
Sadly people ARE that dense. Sometimes you have to interrupt them and politely say “Sorry, I wasn’t finished.” And finish your sentence. I’ve trained a few of my friends and I only had to say it a few times XD
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Not another person who thinks their words are almighty and should be heard by all. You killed the silence!
Hey, maybe you’re too dense to realize you ARE finished and perhaps you have nothing intelligent to offer to a conversation.
Some people NEED to be cut off. My father, for instance goes on and on and on and on and onnnnnnnnn when we’re with a group of family/friends — the ONLY time anyone can get into the conversation and actually SPEAK is when he takes a millisecond to breathe.
What’s even worse still, is if the person is a loud talker…blech.
I know there are situations where you just want to get your story out, but most of the time it’s just normal conversation, and if someone’s really interested in what you have to say, OP, they’ll listen. If they’re constantly interrupting you, you might want to reconsider whether or not your company really wants to hear what you’re saying.
I know a person who does this all the time and I figured she doesn’t mean to be rude, it is just her communication style. So I think nothing of interrupting her to say what I need to say, then I proceed to chuckle at the woman in my head (but not in a mean way, just a light hearted ha ha). It doesn’t stress me at all because I just don’t take her seriously. But it does stress other people around her, and I have told them to do the same I do. I shall also recommend this to you OP.
Option 2: tell the person he/she has interrupted you. Very simple, but can be very effective.
Option 3: say “not to interrupt you but as I was saying…” and keep talking.
Option 4: well…you get the idea. There are many ways to deal with this problem, but posting on the bitch forum probably isn’t very effective.
I’m a huge talker and constant interrupter. My mouth is bigger than my ears. I just have a lot to say and you bore me, OK!
You know . . . in some circles “overlapping” is considered a way of keeping the conversation flowing.
Some people don’t want any awkward gaps or empty spaces, so they start their response as the other person is finishing, lest they appear unenthusiastic.
Some people just talk waaaaaay too slowly (as in “I . . . went . . . . to . . . . the . . . . mooooo . . . veeee . . . last . . . . night . . . . .” zzzzzzzzzzzzzz . . . ) acting as if we need to focus intensely on every last syllable in order to grasp what they are saying.
It’s like they have no conception of the “autofill” feature of other people’s brains.
OP wouldn’t last 2 seconds in a conversation with my extended family. If he waited until people “finished” what they were saying before speaking up . . . well, he’d be waiting . . . . and waiting . . . and still waiting . . . and everyone would presume he was just a dullard with not much to contribute. Or that he was probably a little slow . . . poor thing.
There are clearly a lot of interrupters posting here, judging by the responses. I understand your irritation. It is probably not that you are talking slow or boring, but rather that the interrupter is rude and self involved. It’s easy to tell if it’s you being boring or them being rude. If they are rude, they will never truly seek your input; and if they do it will only be to ask your opinion about them. Interrupt them back or hang out with better mannered people, no will change for you so move on.