I got herpes 20 years ago. I told ONE CLOSE FRIEND about it way back when we started work together 15 years ago. Over the years other co-workers have told me, she is not the friend I think she is, but they would never say why. Well now I know, dammit. Someone finally confirmed that this biatch has been spreading the story behind my back all these years and has even done so recently. She has made it sound like I have been sleeping around even though today I am a happily married woman. I can hardly stand to sit across the lunch table with her, knowing what I know now. I would like to throttle her or gross her out but that might only make it worse.
This article appears in Apr 10-16, 2008.
You need to vent, Damned. You need to pull her aside and tell her you know about all of it, because if you don’t you’ll drive yourself crazy with bottled up anger. I had a situation with a friend of mine, (nothing like this, but there were certain ‘things’ that had my blood boiling), and after i said what i needed to, things were fine, and we both felt better. This situation is a lot different, but i can guarantee that you will feel better walking away from this ‘friendship’ with your dignity. You can’t make things worse..you’ve already clued into what a shitty friend she is..why not pick up for yourself when it matters most?
I’m with you, poop, that stupid, nasty bitch needs to be told to keep her big yap shut. The lesson to be learned here is: NEVER CONFIDE IN A COWORKER. You never know when they will turn on you.
Exactly. There’s an office of women where i work..it’s a seperate area from where i am everyday, but i socialize with them in (very) small doses. I’ve heard the shit that some of them talk about, and i’d hate to be involved in thier cattiness. So when i recieved thier Facebook requests, one by one, i limited those damn profile preferences to the fucking tee. No, you will not see the photos of me passed out drunk, or a single one of those tagged from my pothead days. Nor will you read that massive note where i refer to everyone i work with as douchebags. I WIN.
Workplace friends are risky business. By confiding in them, you are also giving them the power to turn on you at the drop of a hat. Best to deal with your coworkers on a superficial level and leave nothing to chance. With some people, it goes in their ear and comes out their mouth.
Confront her!!If she continues to make life at work unbearable for you, file a harassment complaint. That will get her attention….
Wow, you really should confront this bitch and file a harassment complaint! I imagine most people (those who know and those who don’t) would be really supportive of you and not judge you as she has assumed they would because really, this kind of thing can happen to anybody. While she expects everyone to have a jolly laugh over your personal issue, she has exposed just how untrustworthy, cold-hearted, petty and back-stabbing she really is. Now that’s a lot of embarassing stuff to expose to your collegues and employers!Don’t think twice about kicking that bitch’s ass!
Wow, I’m more amazed that you have been working with the same person at the same place for 15 years. From what i gather, doesn’t sound like a professional or appealing place to work. I’d be more concerned about that than what she’s saying. Where do you work if i may ask?
I totally agree…with the suggestion to file a complaint. I know it’s a tough thing to do, but think about it, you’ve been with your employer for such a long time…that’s gotta give you some sense of confidence and security. She has no right to contribute to a climate at work that makes you uncomfortable. It’s awful to find out the hard way that people are two-faced liars. Rest assured though, people end up revealing themselves for the idiots they are no matter what. They can’t help it. They’re idiots.