So I know she is your mother and only my aunt but do you really have to announce to the world (and half of her family) on your status update that your mom has cancer? Really did not appreciate seeing that today. A phone call would have been nice… but then again how else could you have turned all the attention on to you and how you’re feeling about it rather than what your poor mom is going through? You are one of the most self-centered bitches I have ever met. —Guess Who is No Longer Your ‘Friend’
This article appears in Mar 8-14, 2012.
Control freak.
maybe she wanted to talk about HER MOTHER’S illness.
I realize this is your aunt. But it’s her mother. So unless she was raised by someone else and this aunt raised you, her needs > your needs.
Her mom has cancer. Not your mom. Let this woman’s daughter deal with this however she needs to.
And way to ditch your cousin at a time in her life that will be very painful and frightening. Over a fucking facebook status.
Every family has at least one just like you. And they feel totally justified in whatever petty meanness they can dream up to cause drama. So you’re not just blaming her. You feel totally entitled to blame her. For dealing with her fear the way that she choses to.
Please readjust your priorities. Because right now they’re fucked.
Yet one more reason that I am no longer a member of Crackbook. Good fucking riddance.
It sucks that you found out on facebook, but like others have said, it’s her Mom and she’s looking for support during this obviously difficult time. She probably doesn’t want to pick up a phone and call the entire EXTENDED family to tell them, “My mom has cancer”.
Not excusing the status update but it’s understandable.
How self-centered of you to ditch your “friend”/cousin when she needs you the most. I guess she’s not losing much of a friend anyway.
OP maybe this was the only way the person could process the severity of the illness and closeness of the person effected/affected…. maybe she wanted the world to know that her mom is sick and wants her to be witnessed or validated
when you talk of facecrackbook, there is a thing called,”no class”, that goes with it. did you all hear that.seems like most fools want the world or whatever to even know the last time they had a shit. we don’t fucking care.
You have a clear case of facebook fury. Facebook somehow makes you hate all the people you thought you loved. It’s something like a phenomenon. Nobody bothers calling their loved ones anymore…. They’re all on stupid facebook bragging about new keurig coffee makers. Ditch facebook – don’t ditch your cousin. You’re family!
YOU FUCKING SELFISH WHORE! Her Mom has CANCER! she looking for SUPPORT! And you see this as a friendship-breaker? YOU’RE A FUCKING SELFISH WHORE! Now go get cancer and die.
er.. i don’t think she needs to get cancer and die.. that’s a little fucked.. I just think she’s being extraordinarily selfish. No revenge is required for selfish people because selfishness often yields disappointment because they feel entitled to put themselves first and honestly don’t even realize they’re doing it. So life turns out to be one failed relationship after another. There is one reality in the world of people and it’s that if you put expectations on others, YOU will eventually be severely disappointed because they won’t live up to them, nor should they all the time. OP hasn’t realized that this isn’t all about her yet.. that’s all. That’s probably enough karma, don’t’cha think?
OP what bothers me the most about this is that you made no indication that you actually tried to tell your cousin/friend how you feel about this. You know.. sit her down. Tell her your feelings were hurt. Ask her if she has any questions. That sort of thing.
Op deal with it. You’re probably in the wrong here. You’re entitled to be upset because people can have any opinion they wish, no matter how shortsighted. But again.. this isn’t about you toots. Your needs will have to come second in this dynamic for awhile and if you can’t handle that then i don’t think you’re a healthy person for a fear-and-grief stricken person to associate with anyway.
Sorry. I know you’re reading these comments and i know you don’t like it. You’re clearly a very emotionally-driven person but let’s inject a little logic here. This is the reality: You have two options. Talk to her like an adult and respect her right to grieve how she feels she should or don’t take good advice when you hear it and suffer what will likely be devastating and long term consequences.
Your call.
I have to say, I agree with the OP in theory. Sounds to me like this was they way the OP was told about the cancer diagnosis – along with the rest of the world on the person’s FB.
I recently had a similar situation, (but it was a death in the family) and it chaps my ass that it’s considered acceptable behaviour to notify people of terrible news en masse – family and practical strangers all at the same time.
Having said that, you should tell your cousin you’re upset and why – right after you call to see how she is handling the news, and asking what you can do to help.
OP probably has a little insight into her cousin’s personality and that’s why she is irritated by the Facebook post. She thinks the girl is using her mother’s illness to bring attention to herself.