ok how obvious does it have to be that if you show up on a saturday morning unannounced you may catch someone doing ahem?! well my so called friend decided to show up unannounced. I sent her an email explaining that she should really call before coming i’m not the only one in my house and it is the house rules! She basically trashed the friendship!! Over a request to call before you come? Wow I guess a 9 year friendship wasn’t a friendship. fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me! I would think a friendship would respect the others request and vice versa! To the chick that did trash our friendship my advice is to take a look at yourself and how you handle relationships!
This article appears in Jan 24-30, 2008.
I am a little confused, but it sounds like your friend of 9 years is the chick that interupted your make out session and is the same one that “trashed your friendship”? If so, maybe your friend of 9 years just has a thing for you and was hurt to find you with some chick other than her? It seems kinda stupid to get that upset over coming over unannounced otherwise. Might be worth figureing that out and try to salvage something you both put 9 years into.
I think you’re being extremely unreasonable. Although you should be able to be honest with your friend, delivering this message to your friend via an email, of all things, when you’ve been friends for 9 years, is really gross. Not only is it cold, it’s also weak and cowardly of you. Didn’t you have the spine to tell her how you felt to her face?? An email, Christ! Even my boss would tell make his request face to face. And yet you’re surprised she feels differently about your friendship now! Her pride was probably hurt, and she was probably very embarassed by your oh-so-formal approach.. No fucking wonder she’s angry with you. I admit sometimes it can be annoying or inconvenient to have a friend drop by unannouced and I always call first as well, as I’m not always in the mood to socialize… but this what ‘friends’ feel they can sometimes do, being classified as ‘friends’ and all. There’ve been times when I’d have killed for a good friend to drop by, like when I was first living away and had none of them around! It’s not like being interrupted by a Jehova’s Witness afterall; it’s a friend for Christ sake, someone you are supposed to care deeply about! If you’re not a total asshole you’d apologize, and maybe treat her to dinner.
And by the way, you sound horribly self-important.
Sounds to me like you were playing her as a friends with benefits and quite probably lied that you were sleeping with anything else so that she would be more comfortable in a supposed mono / fling. Then she caught u in your lie. You’re an idiot.