Thank you daycare for allowing my ex to make another attempt at ruining my life.
Apparently; even if you have sole custody of your child, if you write who the other parent is when entering info at your daycare, he/she can then have access to all account information from there on out… including what’s being taken out of your bank account.
I found this out the hard way.
I’m told that unless you’ve expressed in detail: “he/she is not to have access to any of your financial or account information”, it’s YOUR bad if he/she walks in, asks for it, & gets it.
It doesn’t seem right does it? —One Upset Parent
This article appears in Jun 24-30, 2010.
That sucks! Your ex sounds like a nut job. Get your lawyer after him/her.
Nope, it’s not right. It’s just unfortunate that it’s the child who will ultimately be affected by such hostility and hatred.
so TTFN… basically….
think of the children?
isn’t technology wonderful, and isn’t it a fucking bitch, to see this same shit, get so fucked up. yeah, you have no more real private life.
Well did you mention at all that you had sole custody of your child? Did you mention anything at all about how your ex was not to see your child? Don’t get me wrong, this is awful what happened but if he really is this psycho person I would definitely tell the people that are caring for your child! I wonder how they would even give him the info? Did he just come in and be like “OH HEY silly me, I seemed to have forgotten all of my banking information…can you please make me copies of everything asap? Okay thanks bye!!”.
Sorry this happened OP, you think people who are trusted with caring for children would have enough brains combined to see that something was up.
Signed sealed delivered to the daycare: CLEAR documentation I had full custody 3 yrs ago. THEN they received documentation I had sole custody 1 yr later & the check has been under my name since the start.
No one said “this parent should not have access to the other’s information now” & allowed him to have it. They even made me feel like I was stupid for being upset. I didn’t need this fight.
Thanks for the comments everyone.
Is he supposed to pay part of the daycare that is not covered by Child Support Payments (this is usually a separate thing). If so, then he is entitled to know the amounts paid out.
Like I said, the checks come out of my account.
Most daycare sites require a copy of the custody agreement when there are two households. However, most parents don’t feel the need to provide them.
I don’t get it, what financial information did he get? It sounds like he received information on your bank account, and other financial information not related to the day care payments. If that’s the case, I don’t see it as being legal, and I’m really confused as to why the day care would have access to your personal financial information to begin with?
If only they revealed an affair… Then you could sue…
Way not to answer the question. I didn’t ask who’s account the cheque to the daycare came from. I asked is he also responsible to pay the cost. It doesn’t matter if he pays it directly to you or the daycare. If he is ordered by the court to pay a part of the cost, then he is entitled to the information.
It sounds like the information they are giving him is what they (the daycare) is getting for the care of your child.
So what if he sees what’s coming out of your bank account. Is your child being taken care of? Is the person taking money from your account? If all they can see are numbers on a screen/paper (and you’re clean of fraud …) then just let it go.
Riiight… Yet another self entitled mother with “my child” syndrome.
Assuming that he pays child support but you don’t let him see your kid? What did he do that was so awful that you have to deny your child access to seeing him?
Fyi – denying a child access to the other parent is CHILD ABUSE. Unless you have a legit reason (and you’re not making false claims of abuse etc to bury him in paperwork that an expensive lawyer has to dig him out of…).
I’m wondering what any of halicowton’s pure assumptions have to do with the daycare disclosing personal banking info to an unauthorized person without first seeking authorization which seems to me to be the gist of this bitch.
When a person pays child support only according to what they make, it’s irrelevant how much daycare costs.
Anyone walking into a daycare claiming they’re the other parent should not have access to ANY info, especially when the court has taken their rights away & the establishment has been provided with proper documentation.
If the other parent has zero rights; as appointed by the court, you can be sure there are reasons for it that aren’t your business so no syndromes here thanks.
It does if the court orders the other parent to pay a portion of the daycare and to ensure what you claim on your Expense Form for the court is legit. If the other parent is paying a portion of daycare, then that parent is entitled to that for tax purposes.
OMG how many ways can I say it? He is not ordered to pay daycare; he pays support, I pay daycare but guess what? IRRELEVANT.
No one should have access to my information without expressed permission from ME, no matter what!
they can be a thick lot OUP
don’t let them stir you further.
OUP that’s the first time you actually said it.
I think the privacy laws would cover what a private business is able to reveal. If your bank can’t reveal personal info to another party without your express written permission then I doubt the daycare acted within the law. I’d be making some phone calls to privacy administrators at both the provincial and federal levels to get it clarified.
What a stupid asshole OP is, seriously.
This is like a parent not bothering to tell the daycare workers that their kid has a life threatening allergy, and then blaming the daycare when the kid almost dies from being exposed to it.
It’s common sense. You actually have the tell people something, in order for them to know it. DUH! The daycare doesn’t magically know everything about your child. OBVIOUSLY. I’m having trouble believing this is even true, I mean, how can OP be this stupid?