I’m new to the whole lesbian scene here in Halifax. I’ve been out to refs a few times trying to meet some young, attractive ladies like myself .. no luck. Online dating is also proving to be a flop. Where do I look?? How does one know when a girl is into other girls. I feel trapped because I’m new here! Ahhhh! —Single Lady
This article appears in Aug 19-25, 2010.
You could try the Company House and Menz Bar. Despite the name, some of my lesbian friends go there. Trust me, when you become friends with another lesbian you will be invited to parties and meet tons of other lesbians.
Refs is not a gay/lesbian bar! It is a straight-owned bar that is gay when the owners knows the pink dollars will flow into their pockets. Support Company House and Menz Bar who are owned/operated by members of the local GLBT community. Heck, you might want to try out SheDogs, at SeaDogs, the monthly night when the ladies take over the bath. Dykes like sling sex too, right?
come and see mr. sucks, he knows a lot of gays, both male and female. and if you want to try straight, well then, let’s get it on.
Dal
There are plenty of gay/lesbians in this city, but very few in terms of ‘quality’ ones.
^ Agreed with seb.
As for Reflections, I dub it a gay bar regardless of who it’s owned by. Its clientele is predominantly gay so that’s all I need to judge it by.
Although, if you’re looking for lesbians there, it’ll probably be harder to spot them. There are a number of straight girls who go there for the lolz, for the “comfort” of knowing they won’t be hit on (although straight guys will go there to seek out these women), or because they’re fag hags.
You won’t meet the girl of your dreams at a bar. Join some clubs. I was involved with DalOUT and met a bunch of totally awesome gay men and gay ladies who were smart, interesting and sexy. I think it’s a lot smaller now, but still. There’s gay curling, gay softball, etc etc etc that you could try and I guarantee you’ll make more connections that way than by getting drunk and rubbing up against people (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
jennier’s right — bars are horrible places, on the whole, for meeting ANY potential significant other (straight or gay/lesbian). Random hook up? Sure. Relationship? Not so much.
Unfortunately, halifax is pretty terrible for meeting men too. There just isn’t…a quality social scene here outside of random hook ups at the Palace or the Dome.
You’re a girl in 2010 wanting to date other girls? What’s so hard about just asking a girl that you like whether she wants to go out on a date or not? I mean, is being gay still a problem with young people today? Holy crap, I was a gay man in Halifax in the early ’80’s and in the closet, and only interested in non flamey guys. Talk about tough times getting a date.
Besides, girls don’t bash do they? The worst that you get is a ‘no thanks’; and guys, straight or gay, get that all the time. Get out there and ask!
OP how much can you bench press?
Lifesucks you are hilarious. Your posts always crack me up!
z, if you are a female, i know other tricks for cracks, heh heh.
Join the guerilla gayfare group on facebook. They go to diffrent city bars around town, you’ll get to go different places and meet lgbt-friendly folks.
i have heard good things about those events