Okay, I’m not from around here. I grew up in Western Canada where the advice on how to be a lady revolves around grace, beauty and all things sweet or nurturing (not to be confused with get-it-done business woman). I understand beauty is in the eye of the beholder but, stereotypically speaking, a “bar whore” looks like a “bar whore” and for good reasons we agree upon as a society. Again, stereotypically speaking, a “trucker’s mouth” is just that. So…
Ladies of Nova Scotia, I’d like to understand how exuding masculine qualities like looking tougher than the rest of the girls, talking tougher than the rest and being physically more aggressive, intimidating or stronger than the rest is an appropriate endeavour for a lady? Some of you behave so badly, speak so harshly, are so quick to judge, are so controlling, the word grace will never ever be associated with you or “your kind.” Frankly, you’re an embarrassment to my gender. Unless you are appearing on an episode of Trailer Park Boys, are actually a “lady of the night”, a “bar whore” or a professional terrorist, you have no business calling yourself a lady.
Maybe this is why the gay pride movement is so strong in the East. It’s all these fucking she-males being bred right here in the HRM. Isn’t it time to raise the bar, girls? Not putting up with men’s shit doesn’t mean you should sound like one, look like one, act like one, spit like one, pile on gobs of black make-up or change your body for one… God help us, girls everywhere!
This article appears in Nov 13-19, 2008.
i love how people pretend to be all smart, analytical and shit in here…pondering differences between reality, fiction and the truth. then go and so something totally ridiculous, judgemental and hateful. truly an interesting little place in here
I don’t see what the problem is here. The OP is just saying that butchy hicks with foul mouths are generally considered to unattractive / unpleasant. Does anyone honestly believe the OP is wrong?Agreed it’s not fair to say it’s all about the East though. I’m sure redneck Alberta is full of hard country gals who’d kill you for a pack of smokes too.
Not that it makes an inkling of difference to people’s ideas but I am a female who has short hair and often wears a baseball cap. She-male? I don’t think so. I’m still a lady. I was raised by loving parents and they taught me the manners I try to uphold each day. On the bus I will give my seat up in a second. I will hold the door for anyone, male or female. These are just common courtesy things. And it’s not anything to do with me trying to be superior.. it’s just something people do. People of all types. Masculine or Feminine. Categorizing and stereotyping hurts people. Just because someone appears more masculine does not make them any less of a person or give anyone else any smidgeon of a right to judge them. Maybe the people who are speaking of are frustrated individuals who get their aggression out by swearing a lot. You don’t know their background. Maybe they were mistreated as children. You don’t know. I do believe that there is a time and place for loud and obnoxious behavior but maybe you should think twice before you categorize an entire population.
“Some of you behave so badly, speak so harshly, are so quick to judge, are so controlling, the word grace will never ever be associated with you or “your kind.””You’re the one who’s judging, btw! “Maybe this is why the gay pride movement is so strong in the East. It’s all these fucking she-males being bred right here in the HRM. “What, are you homophobic too?Let people be who they want to be, especially if they don’t to be fucking princesses! How about minding your own business and go back to Western Canada to your closed-in 1950’s world of ‘Grace’!
“I grew up in Western Canada where the advice on how to be a lady revolves around grace, beauty and all things sweet or nurturing (not to be confused with get-it-done business woman).”um…so apparently “grace, beauty, nurturing, sweetness” must always and forever be in opposition to “get it done businesswoman.” also, nice job on letting other people determine the way you present yourself.What are you, like, from 1862? “lady?” really? do you also call men “gentlemen” and expect them to walk on the outside of the sidewalk so that when feces is flung out the windows toward the gutter it’ll hit them instead?i don’t say or think this often about people who complain about halifax, but please go back to where you came from, we don’t need or want your kind here. period.
Pigs are unattractive no matter your age nor which province you live in. A province full of pigs just stinks worse than the rest.
Btw, Lady Grace:You’re contradicting yourself and your entire message loses substance and integrity (not that it had much to begin with) when you use the word ‘fuck’. (“It’s all these fucking she-males being bred right here in the HRM. “) Looks like you have a bit of trucker’s mouth as well!
Excuse me while I dust off my white gloves and put on my pearls. Listen, honey, your 1950s sensibilities were tossed out the window with June Cleaver. Grace? What the fuck is that? A pinkie extended while drinking tea or a woman who has to handle more than her fair share and never complain? It sucks either way.As far as swearing goes, why the fuck not? Of course, there is a time and place for everything but a good ol’ bitching session with a few cuss words is sometimes a welcome release from day to day stress. Just because we’re female, does that mean we have to subscribe to fucking Emily Post or what?I love your assumption about lesbians and she-males. You are soooo ignorant, girlfriend. Pardon me, so FUCKING ignorant that you should go back to Cow Town and enjoy a delightful little brunch with the ladies from your church.
Sorry but I like women who speak their minds and aren’t afraid to stand up for themselves.Lady Grace can STFU and go back to upperclass BC or wherever the fucking bubble it is she came from.
I’m a ‘lady ‘ about it and I speak my mind all at the same time (well, I try hard most of the time). I don’t even own a pair of white gloves or a set of pearls, but let’s face it, refined looking women are attractive. Bar ho’s are not. I think the OP is just offended by scary lookin’ chicks. Know any? hahaI agree with Tabitha, let people be homophobic if they want to be.
Nice homophobic remark in there.Shut up and get out of here. In one bitch you have insulted us (girls of Halifax), the way we dress, the way we talk, the way we wear our makeup, the fact that we don’t necessarily lie back and take it; the men of Halifax, assuming that they’re complete pigs who “won’t buy the cow if they can get the milk for free”; and gay men and women.I tend to be a fairly well-spoken, well-read young girl, but there’s only one word for you.Cunt.
By your own logic, shouldn’t you be keeping quiet and looking pretty?
Since when does lady=quiet? LOLAgain, I think the OP is simply offended by scary lookin’ chicks and here you all are justifying your right to be a bunch of foul mouthed slobs acting aggressively in public. It’s unattractive.Adi, you’ve gone right over the top trying to fill in what’s not between the lines in the OP. Nice try but get a hold of yourself
Scary-looking chicks is in itself offensive, kay.Just because you fit one mold doesn’t mean we all need to. Stop dissing people who aren’t like you. If you like the way you are, that’s great, you have no right to dictate the way other people look.
Well, kay, if it wasn’t for women taking a stand, ultrafeminine throwback clowns like the OP would be knocked up and silent, lest they get a backhand for talking all negative-like. It’s not like Lady Grace is going to yell and scream for women’s suffrage, she might smear her lipstick.All I’m saying is that if you’re going to espouse an old-fashioned attitude towards women, and you are one, you better get under the umbrella and hope to Hell it doesn’t rain birth control pills.
so having a bit of class and not acting like gutter trash pig while swearing like a sailor is a negative thing these days? isnt progress wonderful? all the ladies of the city can walk around scratching their genitals and spitting chewing tobacco while calling each other bitches and whores becasue we live in the year 2008. no stepford wives here…what a relief. while the OP may be off in some of her comments…i e the homophobic ones. yall just validated her by telling her to fuck off back the rock she crawled out from under. once again bravo…bravo halifax. welcoming the world to our doorstep one foul moutched bitch at a time.
This is an interesting bitch. Oh fuck it, I’m not going to be ladylike about this … this is truly one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard! First of all, your so called “she males” are everywhere, open your eyes, get out and see the world. Second, since when has “grace” ever been associated with appearances? I always assumed a personality trait and a physical trait to be 2 different things. And third, wouldn’t one of the elements of being graceful be adhearing to the old adage “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all”.P.S. something tells me your are fat, ugly, and stupid yourself. That would explain your low self esteem and tendancy to pick on and judge people who you don’t know.
The weirdest thing happened this morning. I woke up and bluebirds started fashioning a ball gown for me. I almost yelled “holy fucking shit!” but my husband gave me a look that said, you’d better think twice and act right, you judgmental bar whore.
I think it’s priceless the only reasonable responses to this bitch come from men (masculine names). LOLGod bless Jammie and God double-bless John.I don’t think you have to be a girly-girl with long locks or have a 20″ waist line to behave in lady-like fashion. You do, however, need consideration for others and unyielding respect for yourself… and I don’t see a lot of those people dressed up like bar whores picking fights.
“Lady Grace” I don’t think so. You’re just a idiot. I’m not going to say everyone from the West Coast are idiots. Just you. :)You’re judgmental, you obviously walk around looking for these so called “she men” because the last time I was outside (or looked inside myself) we are not all bred “she men” here on the east coast. How could someone as graceful and ladylike as you claim to be just lump everyone on the east coast as the same. You’re just stupid.
eastcoastgal…..you call the OP judgemental. You also called her stupid and branded her and idiot. Do you see the irony in that? If not…just think on it for a second.
“Lady Grace” is throwing herself out there to be judged by writing such a rude and mean-spirited bitch. The rest of us who walk around just living our lives and not attacking other people on the internet are asking to not be so harshly judged. She has opened herself up to it. The Halifax girls she attacks have not.
John,No, I do not see the irony in that. I did not call the entire West Coast idiots because of what one had to say, as the so called “Lady Grace” has done. I am not being judemental, I am simply responding to what she has said. She has left no room for misinterpretation. She was quite clear that we are all “she men” Bred right here in HRM. I am not judging her, I am insulted by her remarks and I’m not willing to just sit here and say nothing. If there is any irony in this it’s from her. She claims to be “lady grace” and has no grace whatever. I didn’t sign off as “the perfect Lady” but I am definately no “she man” either.
typically, which doesnt mean entirely, i find that the only people offended by such comments made by the OP are the ones that she is referring to. women who do not act in a manner as described by the OP know the bitch is not directed towards them and do not pay it heed…typically. and fyi…calling someone stupid and an idiot for thier views…however slanted they may be…is judging. that cannot be argued
“typically, which doesnt mean entirely, i find that the only people offended by such comments made by the OP are the ones that she is referring to. women who do not act in a manner as described by the OP know the bitch is not directed towards them and do not pay it heed…typically”I understand that you didn’t generalize there, john, but just throwing this out there:I’m nineteen, I’m well-educated, I am constantly reading, I don’t pepper my conversation with cursing (although every now and then I will throw one in if it’s deserved), when I sit down I keep my legs together, I keep my elbows off the table, I don’t smoke, I have long hair, I don’t wear skimpy clothing (ever), I consider myself to be well put-together, I vote, I take care of my friends and family, and I’m assuming most people on here do (minus the long hair part, which in itself wasn’t a judgment of people who do not).I take offense to this not because it’s directed at me, but because it was a cowardly and rude thing to do; it goes against anything I believe that a good person would do. Referring to an entire population of women as “She-Men,” regardless of how they act individually, is an offensive thing to do. The OP is not ladylike whatsoever, because a real lady would have enough sense to know that if you don’t have anything nice to say, you shouldn’t be saying anything at all. Especially when it is completely groundless.
adi. i commend you being an upstanding 19 year old female. it appears a little harder to be so these days. while i agree with you in saying the OP is not acting ladylike herself with her judgemental bitch i do disagree with your comment about it being groundless.im all for freedom of choice and expression and am not one to judge…usually. but i think the op does have somewhat of a point. maybe shouldnt have broadstroked quite so freely, but i have seen and experienced women of the ilk she speaks of. i think if she had tempered her statement to say “to some women of nova scotia” it would have been an entirely different bitch,
This is great watching everyone bicker over this.It’s obvious that the poster just wants to hear herself talk.(or in this case read herself talking) I’m not sure I can even take it seriously. She’s eerily using the same type of writing/speaking style that a few of the other posters do which would lead me to believe that she is using a couple indentities in this forum.Tsk.Tsk. Get a life.