So I met you at a party. Really nice, we started seeing each other- going out, hooking up a bit, getting to know each other. 7 DAYS LATER you’re telling me we should probably stop because ‘he’s not sure I’m in it for long term’. What. The. Fuck.
I’ve known you 7 days- how on EARTH could either of us know if there’s long term potential there?
Which is basically what I said, followed by if that’s how you felt, fine, but I was good with how things were. To which you said ‘ok’ and we’ve continued to see each other. But last night when i got work too late to go out and I suggested just getting together for sex, you flipped! WTF do you want from me????
I’m still wondering: First, 7 days! and second, thanks ever so much for making me feel like I talked you into something there. makes me feel swell. You sure are a manly winner.
—Confused by guy
This article appears in Jan 29 – Feb 4, 2009.
wow.
just wow.
I’d say he wants distance..
but he sounds like kind of a douche.
Yeah, stringing along beyond a week would definately lessen the doucheness. right.
Stop wasting your time with him, he sounds like an indecisive idiot.
Dan Savage has said it so well so many times with just 5 letters: DTMFA (dump the mother fucker already)
definition: douchebag. i’d ignore him so fast he didn’t know what hit him.
This reminds me of the douchebag I dated in 2006, except THAT lasted three months. After I DTMF he kept msning me/calling me/texting me at all hours of the night telling me he wanted to “hook up” and that he was going to come over and we were going to have sex because he liked having sex with me. He was drunk off his ass every time and I often had to talk him down from getting in his car and driving over. I eventually had to get a new cell number and a new msn account. It started out so great, but once I got in deeper I realized what a fucktard he was. So, while this guy you’re seeing, OP, might’ve seemed really nice at first, the more you get to know him the more of a douche you’ll realize he is, I’m afraid.
So, I know how you feel — there are a lot of crappy guys out there. Just cut all ties and look for something better…because there’s definitely something better out there than this asshat.
ummm.. where can we find girls like you? God it would be nice to have a girl call me for a sexual get together:).. assuming you’re a girl:)
If vibrators could take out the garbage, we women wouldn’t need men. They’re more trouble than they are worth, sweetheart.
The dude sounds pathetic with his stupid mind games. You’re well rid of him.
He’s just not that into you
I wondered when someone was going to write that, Guava 😛
Heh. You probably saw this guy coming a mile away, and then you decided to make an unfortunate exception. The first thing that nailed it was that you met him at a party. All he wanted from you from the start was a place to stick it. When you did (or did not I hope) put out, you outlived your usefulness. What is it with people that think you’ll meet your bloody “soul mate” at some random party? I hate to be so blunt, but you’re as responsible for this as he is; you clearly lowered your standards, and he’s a womanizing prick who’ll have 100 STIs before he’s 25. Oh, and the next time a guy eyes you at a party, he’s not looking for love. He’s probably staring at your breasts.
Fever, if you shouldn’t meet at a bar, you shouldn’t meet at a party, shouldn’t meet someone at work, and can’t meet anyone while you’re asleep….
When and where the hell are you supposed to meet?
Is there some bowling league or Co-ed Ultimate Frisbee team lovelorn people are flocking to?
If you’re new to the city and/or didn’t go to school here and have no friends… what do you do?
I’m ACTUALLY asking because, though I’m not new to the city anymore, I have no close friends.
Well zZz if you have the patience to wait 10-20 years there’s Dating websites like plenty of fish… also known as Love the way we bitch about dating on their forums.
I’ve got nothing against meeting people at work… It’s actually a good place to meet people, just keep it to yourself. I’ve always found it more beneficial to meet people when alcohol isn’t involved.
So, you meet at a party, starting hooking up and having sex within a week???? How the hell do you know someone well enough to figure that things will last if you’ve only known them for 7 days? Let’s see, if you spend an average of 3 hours with them, that’s only 21 hours in total. That’s less than one whole day, and you’re already acting like a bunch of bunnies. Now you can’t figure out what’s wrong because you don’t know what he wants from you?
Well, since you can’t figure things out, I’ll help you out. How about you spend more time getting to know someone before just hopping into bed with them. Sex does not equal quality time, nor does it make everything all dandy. Drop him like a sack of shit and move on. Next person you meet, don’t just hook up with them within a day and don’t bother calling them up just for sex. Try spending a month getting to know someone before you give up the goods. If they’re worth it, they’ll have no problems with that.