But what the fuck is up with so many women being obsessed with the bar type, band standing, scenesters? You’re such a fucking low self-esteem cliche hiding under your false – and booze fueled – sense of self-confidence. Stop drowning your insecurities with the empty loser hook-ups and drunken nights, and maybe you’ll find something real, for once.
You probably don’t think you deserve it, but I’m sure most of you do…that’s if you can handle it. —Jerk
This article appears in Aug 1-7, 2013.
Jerk,
It’s Halifax. What do you expect? Half the city works in bars, drowns their misery and then complains about it.
It’s just a phase. In 20 years, these same people will be entrenched in suburbia where they will drink themselves to unconsciousness in the rec room.
Someone sounds a little jealous… not as pretty dear?
Low self-esteem, that might set Danny Boy off, he seems prickly around low brow, this might fall into this category.
just a thought: maybe they aren’t looking for something real.
downtownleroybrown,
If they’re complaining about it after the fact – then they were looking for something more. If they didn’t complain, then fine.
The Halifax bar scene is a cesspool of insecure pretentious idiots, which is probably true for any city, but there seems to be a lot of them in their late 20s and 30s here.
To the op; Slap on a tattoo, put on a cool t-shirt, stand outside the bar smoking a cigarette and pretend you’re a “musician” – all the insecure women with daddy issues will come flocking. If that’s your thing…
most people are far less intelligent than one would expect. I am just going to paste that on all posts. my version of ‘and this too shall pass’
jehy: i just think what people say they want and what they REALLY want can be mutually exclusive things. complaining after the fact doesn’t necessarily prove she wanted more than sex at the time. wanting to get laid without appearing too desperate can be a tricky balancing act – especially with alcohol muddying the waters. some like to complain that no one decent picked them up rather than trying to pick up someone they like. or alternatively, keep picking up the same type of guy, hoping for the ‘magic’ to just happen rather than be cultivated through the hard work of actually dating in the sober light of day. the object(s) of Jerk’s attention (or composite thereof) might be one of these women, i don’t know. i’m not suggesting it makes sense, or that it should be a motto for life. people who want something real have to BE real themselves, something not a lot of young people in bars -particularly insecure, obsessive, drunk women with low self-esteem- are comfortable doing. if you want a decent man for serious bf/husband, you don’t go out looking at the toothy moose at 3am. Jerk points out all the reasons his suggestions would fall on deaf ears -and then castigates them for refusing to heed them. putting down someone like this only reinforces the very thing holding them back.
as the great binky the rabbit once said: get out there and choose from among the jerks – or you’ll only get to choose from the jerks who choose you.
Sometimes people who meet at bars get married eventually. You shouldn’t necessarily judge someone based on where you met them, just as you shouldn’t judge someone based on where they live.
Phat Scumbag:
The comments on the threads lately have been too boring for any real motivation from me. There was the earlier one where I went back and forth with MM for a bit but he went too off topic from what I was talking about.
Better troll than that required.
Bar type Band standing Scenesters?
Guessing the OP means all the dudes that hang out in bars, play in 3 to 5 bands – or, just wear cool t-shirts and pretend they don’t care? There definitely is a Halifax caricature that attracks a lot of the local women. Almost comical.
After further consideration…
These girls know exactly what they’re getting into. They have low self esteem, and don’t feel they could ever live up to a real man, so they go to the bars, chose the easiest target – aloof, scruffy, too cool to care – and get the instant gratification for which they are so desperate. This is the classic “bad boy” syndrome.
They surround themselves with others who behave the same way to justify their own behavior, and the cycle deepens. It’s a psychological trap that anyone who has worked in a bar knows about.
That’s all cool, I just wish they could be honest about it instead of pretending. You hook up with douschbags. You “get what you pay for”. Of course they’re idiots.
Deal with your issues. Girls like bad boys (whatever the fuck they convince themselves this is), women like men.
wow. So THIS doesn’t reek of rejection-fueled bitterness. I’m glad you don’t wear your heart on your sleeve, op, like so many people do.
Do you SERIOUSLY think women are the only gender that only choose a certain cross-section of the opposite sex? You do it yourself op. Not all chicks are into scenesters. But you’ve obviously gone for the type who are. Why not try meeting girls outside YOUR comfort zone, hypocrite?
Batshit,
Although I agree with you – I can’t deny that Halifax IS a big scenester stereotype. And the women who hook up with these losers time and time again expecting different results…well, they can’t be that bright.
Granted, men do the same.
Maybe it’s “rejection-fueled bitterness” – but he does have a point. Halifax is an overgrown scenester cliche. Women seem to fall for it easily around here, so the jerks just keep jerking.