You acted like you cared about me by leading me on for months after you came on to me I told you I cared for you. Then you broke it off and refused to see me or even talk to me on the phone, you even denied everything. I was useless to you.
Now I’m totally out in the cold because I did what you told me to do in the beginning, which was to have trust in you. I don’t know whether to feel hurt or angry or blame myself for being so stupid to think you would care for me. You NEVER cared about me to begin with. You ONLY cared for yourself and getting YOURSELF laid.
I realize I sound like a scorned woman and I guess I do feel like a piece of garbage. By the way you treat women you never had a female in your life that didn’t hurt you, pity. I could’ve been that woman . I do wish you well and I hope you find that woman that you will allow to change (for the better), how you see women in general.
I am aware you did try to let me down easy. I do appreciate that. Why so concerned for my feelings after the fact? I know why, I’m not totally stupid.
Don’t worry I won’t talk about you but who’s gonna fucking listen to me anyway? We both know the answer to that crazy question.
I do thank you for your help…and no I don’t think I’m back at square one. I pray I’m not anyway. —Your Nemesis, The Crazy Ass Bitch
This article appears in Aug 30 – Sep 5, 2012.
Yeah, you’re stupid.. blame yourself.
now this is a lady I can back…
miserable and defeated!
Lady, you haven’t been broken…. you’ve just been broken-in.
oh lady, you are not his nemesis, you are his patsy. sucker. fool. so sorry. you did this to yourself and you are still doing it, making excuses for the substandard guy you chose. a bad choice. poor judgement. the part that really picks at me is ‘you never had a female in your life who didn’t hurt you, pity, i could have been that woman’. oh lord, no you could not. you cannot fix him. you cannot heal him, you cannot love him to good mental/ethical/moral/emotional health. and if he is concerned for your feelings now, and ‘letting you down easy’ he is more concerned with not burning this particular bridge, in case he feels like getting laid some time in the future, with a willing and very gullible person. you are not a victim here, not in my eyes. and no sympathy, kleenex or hagen daaz. you did not get fooled or taken in. your posting reads like one in a very long line of same-old, same-old. and if this keeps happening to you, what is the common thread in all your relationships? hmmm? YOU. stop choosing bad guys. there are lots of good ones. if you find you cannot pick a good man, look within and fix it first. your judgement’s off.
hey ZZZ ??? change all the pronouns and see if it fits. although your comment was funny by itself.
it’s a bit hit n miss.
some just don’t work…
like the “‘you never had a female in your life who didn’t hurt you, pity” part.
too specific to this emo’s personal situation…
ya, true. but i still think you would strangle this one, not back her.
naw, she sounds lovely. 🙂
On an unrelated note, I actually saw the person who has the ‘karma’ license plate for nova scotia on my way to the rally! I found karma!
FYI, turns out karma drives a white Lincoln SUV.
ummm yup, you know that person’s next life will be as a bug squashed on a lincoln’s windshield.
When women today learn how to be Ladies this will stop happening. Ladies you have to know that men see you as a challenge. If you are stupid enough to believe all the sweet talk they hand you and drop your drawers thinking he ‘loves’ you, then you need to wake up and smell the roses. He is adding you to his list of booty calls. Period. Make Him Wait. If he is a decent guy and you become a decent LADY he will enjoy the chase. When the fine day comes to consumate the relationship it will be more than a booty call. He will actually have come to know you and hopefully like you. If you give away the goods right away he has nothing more to chase after. He got what he was looking for and will now look for different meat. Simple as that. Three little words: MAKE HIM WAIT!
Wog So a woman is not a “lady” if she goes after what/who she want’s,in your opinion?Do you know what century we’re in?
A man can have sex with all the women he wants too and noone bitches about him not being a “gentleman” but if a female has multiple partners she’s not considered a “lady” or whore in your opinion.
GDM Perhaps she knows she never meant anything to him.Certainly would explain her anger or hurt or both.
zZz You need a towel because your last 2 posts where dripping with sarcasm.
*Correction* Sorry
…were dripping with sarcasm.
boru, if *she* knew she never meant anything to him what’s the big surprise? and why the hurt? if you take a hammer and start pounding it on your big toe, why would you be surprised and hurt?
woggie, let us know how that works for ya, ok?
Some “men” are just boys in nice suits who feed sweet lines to women. Sad, but true. I’ve heard some fine lines in my time …if these seem to be coming too early in the “relationship” I like to question. You say I’m flawless … Oh is that so? you’ve only known me for 2 weeks! Nope. Add a giggle in there for effect, they’ll get the point. Seems harsh but I like to think of it as emotional protection. Only time cutesy cheesy lines are ok is when you’re spending the summer in the South of France and you and a hot homme Francais become infatuated with eachother, all high on sunscreen fumes you say things you may not mean cause hey, you’re on vacation … and hopefully no older than 20. Oh! Another lesson I’ve learned … If a guy asks you to buy him a book on “self fullfilment” … RUN (preferably far away). Thou shalt fullfil on your own time and dime.
The only upside is not all guys are like this, for every bad one I’d like to think there’s a good one. No sense in becoming bitter … ’cause that’ll only hurt you in the long run. Good luck OP.
Hey are you the same “nemesis” that posted on LTWWL a couple of weeks ago?
http://www.thecoast.ca/Lovethewaywelove/ar…
I thought I told you to stay away from this guy!(j/k)
He even said to find a nice guy who loves you for you. You called yourself damaged goods then and now you feel like a piece of garbage. He used and abused you but “you wish him well”. You should really be hoping he trips and falls suffering a compound fracture to his right fibula. Don’t give a rat’s ass about this guy. He’s the piece of garbage. All players have a sob story about being mistreated or done wrong by women. He’s nothing new.
I’m usually laid-back but there’s something about you Nemesis that gets me steamed. I feel like you’re my daughter.
GDM ?.Maybe she was in denial or received new information about the guy she has feelings for.
eh, and denial is also a river in Egypt. is this the same guy as all the other posts? or is he a new one?
now look at nice troodon there….obviously a caring fellow, intelligent, well spoken, can parse and punctuate ( i would be panting after him if i weren’t a lesbo) or the firerages guy, another GOOD man, despite the bluster, and untouchably-married ivan, even blow-me-down springs up as a knight-errant in a woman’s defense. these gents are all good examples of normal, nice men. (pls take note i do not include the sociopath MM) don’t launch yourself at these fellows, but use them as a guideline of what to look for. and like trood said, if someone uses that tired old line ‘my heart is permanently broken’ run the other way. it’s a hook.
Stop giving it up so quickly! Just a thought…. This story is so classic. Douchy guys in this town have it way to easy with the ladies. Why do they need to try hard to be a nice guy when they don’t need to. Prostitutes are not making any money in this town becuase guys like the one your talking about gets it for free.
do you really have a crazy ass? i would love to see it. oh, that was just a passing last word. oh well, i tried. oh, and fuck the other party of your bitch.
http://www.thecoast.ca/LovetheWayWeBitch/a…
This may be the man OP was referring to.
No one but OP and this man knows what really happend(or did not happen) and why she can’t speak directly to him.She certainly was upset while(when) writing that Bitch.
Sounds to me she is angry at herself for being gullable(stupid).For letting her feelings and emotions get caught up in some romantic fantasy,that deep down she knew would never be.
After walking down that road she’s on several times, I know it’s a road well traveled, that’s paved with the tears of many woman that allowed themselves to be reeled in only to have the line cut when least expected.Afterwards not given any reason why,just torn away from a man she grew to care for and she may have thought cared for her as well.
I HATE being judged so I try very hard not to judge other’s.
I apolgize for the spelling and punctuation mistakes.
boru, you have nailed it, i think. ‘romantic fantasy’ except…..the romance is the pain, the heartache, the being used/abused. women who are caught in this endless cycle of low self esteem and emotionally abusive men are feeling romance with a capital R about their plight. because, as you said, any attention is better than none at all. we see children in abusive homes who still cling to the parent who beats them. what difference in the woman who has chronologically aged but emotionally remains that child? so she can paint a pathetic picture of herself. heartbroken, badly used by a cruel, thoughtless cad of a man. this is romance of a sort. oh yes. except, if it keeps happening, over and over. crap, it’s like all the sappy girl songs of the 50’s and 60’s. you know that saying? fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me. if one keeps getting ‘fooled’ in relationships, look within. and that bit about abusive men being ‘drawn like moths to a flame’ to abused women. hey! stop that thought right there. while the FACT of that is true, wording it that way only adds to the false ‘romance’ of the crappy relationship. pedophiles are also ‘drawn’ to children who have already been softened up by previous pedophiles. you think there is anything ‘romantic’ about that? no? it’s the same bloody thing. gawd help me, i am going to quote wog dog’s excellent advice in another posting. try living without a relationship for a while. it won’t kill ya. and let me repeat myself once more. it is NOT ROMANTIC and NOT a love story, to be repeatedly lied to, abused, thrown aside, left, abandoned.
sarcasm!?!?!? how dare you.
🙂
seriously, I was the male equivalent though situationally a little different.
I invested nearly 10 years…. so now I’ve learned to embrace that ‘garbage feel’ and really just do things I want to do without having to ‘talk it over’ anymore or even ponder what anyone else thinks. It’s actually kinda great though it took a long while to come about. I’ll be bungee jumping this year on my birthday and going to a firing range and ain’t no spoil sport is going to stop me. Live on your own terms lady… and don’t let fucking idiots have the power to shut you down. Do something YOU want to do for a change… the more exhilarating, the better. Don’t mention it to anyone or ask what they think about it…
just DO IT
zZz I am very sorry I insulted you in anyway.
It certainly sounds like how you live your life is working for you.I respect that you don’t give a shit what others think about you and how you run your life,that’s fantastic I envy your ability to do that.That “garbage feel” sounds to me like self-esteem and I truely mean when I say FANTASTIC! My just being on this board is somewhat cathartic for me in that, I know some folks are aware of my true identity but I don’t care,on I continue to make spelling and punc. mistakes I stay anyway.I’m simply having fun.
Again zZz I in no way was my “sarcasm” remark meant to hurt or anger you or take away any of your ‘stripes’.From the things you’ve said you seem like a great guy.
um. my sarcasm remark was sarcastic…. or sardonic…
I’m having trouble telling what the difference is.
They’re synonymous so it’s subtle.
It was either live this way or not at all…
and it took a long time to decide one way or the other.
OP will be fine.. they just have to figure this shit out first.
I think ‘sardonic’ is more fitting when it comes to you, zed. Because that word reminds me of sardines, and for some reason, sardines just seem to ‘fit’ when I think of you.
Maybe it’s because you eat a lot of tuna.
I remind you of smelly, dead fish packed tightly in a can…
gee, uh, thanks. That’s a step up!
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What can I say — I love to give compliments that brighten people’s day.
I told one of my bosses he looks like a bum today. *shrug*
But he told me I looked like a trash can yesterday, so I’d say we’re even.