There are certain types of ‘feminism’ that are little more than misandry, these days it is the majority of those who identify as such. Likewise, there are a lot of men out there who behave in a truly disgusting manner. And not just these Dal guys. It’s one thing to be attracted to a woman and to look at a woman, I get it, it is hard-wired into your biology. It’s another thing to say pervy things to strangers…or worse. Equality is a good thing. I truly believe we are more equal today than ever before but that does not mean that the work is done and it does not mean it’s time to relax. Respect is a good thing, in fact it is essential to building a strong community. Respect is a two-way street. You have to give it to get it. Telling others how to think and act so that they behave in a way that is acceptable to you and ostracizing people who don’t conform to your narrow concept of how people should behave is unacceptable. That goes for men who berate women for the way they dress, how many sexual partners they’ve had, etc…it also goes for women who are easily offended by things that really aren’t worth the effort. Sticks and stones. There are differences between the genders. Neither are better than the other or more pure or more right or wrong. Stop pretending there aren’t. Be honest with yourself and others. There are differences between white and black people as well (as well as every other ethnicity). Differences that extend beyond physical appearance. Again, it is not a case of one being better than the other as these differences vary from individual to individual. Ignoring them or pretending they don’t exist is untruthful. In many cases, these differences are cause for celebration. Diversity is probably the best thing about Canada – stop trying to make everyone conform to what you and your group thinks is right. It’s easy for you to sit there and judge straight white males and pretend you are a perfect being but you aren’t. No one is. It’s time for you to come down off the pedestal you have placed yourself on and start dealing more in truths and less in emotional opinions. No one is attacking you, no one is out to get you. You are not a victim. Of course everyone has been a victim of something at some point, so in that sense we are all victims in a way. Sure. But you turn it into the driving force of your whole existence. You are a victim, you are oppressed. Woe is me. You do this because it allows you to end discussions before they even begin. “Oh, you’re not allowed to have an opinion about this because you don’t know what it’s like to be a victim.” “Whatever you say is invalid because you don’t speak from my perspective – I am a victim.” Enough already. We live in a time where we enjoy more freedom than any other generation in the history of this planet. Men and women both need to smarten up and it starts with treating one another with mutual respect, honesty (with each other and yourself), empathy and and end of generalizations. —Find out what it means to me
This article appears in Jan 15-21, 2015.
Diversity is a celebrated thing in Canada — except when the “diverse” oppose natural resource extraction. Then it’s just annoying. Amiright?
‘an end to generalizations’ – read your opening sentence. you have claimed ‘the majority’ of feminists in exactly the same manner as the fringe vocal have claimed that the ‘majority’ of men are like the dal club men. t’aint so. think about it. millions of humans go about their daily lives interacting with the opposite sex in a reasonable manner. we hear from the most outraged and that’s all we remember?
instead of basing one’s view of the world on headlines, just look at the people around you. look at how they behave on a day to day.
there are killers out there, rapists, child molesters, animal torturers, religious fanatics and its overwhelming to read about this day after day with modern media. but it’s not everyone. most people are pretty decent.
sigh. apart from that, all it would take is for people to put kindness first in dealing with other humans. ‘do no harm’.
I don’t disagree with most of your post but it does no good to claim most feminists hate men. its a way of living and thinking that will work towards the end of the word itself.
I do miss kinder times……..
A LITTLE SELF-CONTRADICTION HERE?
“Telling others how to think and act so that they behave in a way that is acceptable to you and ostracizing people who conform to your narrow concept of how people should behave is unacceptable.” Find out
Don’t you find that there is a little self-contradiction here? Have you not, from start to finish, been telling others how to think and act? Have you not been telling them how to behave in a way that is acceptable to you? Have you not ostracized people who have not conformed to your narrow concept of how people should behave? Have you not found their behaviour unacceptable?
Of course, you might claim that the bottom line is all about “respect” but clearly you are not respecting those who do not think and act so that they behave in a way that is acceptable to you. But such “respect” is simply a procedural virtue. It does not, in itself, provide any substance. Should I respect Jack the Ripper? If “respect” is all there is, why not? Aren’t you missing something? Can you guess what it is? Write back soon.
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio
Sir Meow you are factually correct but on very shaky ground. The polarity on your statement can be reversed in an instant and without raising too much of a sweat.
i had a laugh at a woman who said i couldnt have an opinion on the dal fiasco because i didnt have a vagina and didnt know what it was like. apparently having a dick and being sexually assaulted by a drunk female co-worker as well as a female family friend as a teen wasnt good enough. Mysandry is alive and well…but allowable to the hypocrit feminazis.
Women: Please write your bitches using paragraphs.
There will be a misandry lynch mob gathering at the north doors of the Dal SUB at…
Respect is earned, not given.
Cuja – I had someone tell me the same thing about abortion, here on LTWWB as a matter of fact.
That was a sincere comment, not just a random whining like many posts. I’m really glad someone was able to grasp firmly and articulate that issue, because it IS emotionally volatile and DOES trigger strong emotional reactions in people.
As a well-meaning white male, I am definately feeling the pressures and heat of these present days. Without even speaking for myself, like many, I am put into a category and ascribed a preestablished status without any kind of social sincerity. We don’t all fit into those cramped little categories. Some of us are artists, musicians, poets and passionate souls who could give a shit about sex, hardwired biologically or not.
To a guy who daily ponders the substantiality and validity of existence, I find such prejudices depressing and so petty. Yet, again, I’m in the demonization penalty blocks with countless others who didn’t say a word or, further yet, even form an opinion on such issues. I don’t find it hard to like people, consider and forgive their failings, look past the bullshit and give someone a break. People are people, not ‘feminist’ or ‘misogynist’ or some other shallow label( which may only describe a single aspect of that personality!). The psychotic human intellectual tendency to control needs to label everything to be ‘better than’ and make ‘worse than’.
I hope this person writes again and takes time to forge ahead amidst the apathy! Peace! Keep it up and Thanks!