I’ve finally come to the conclusion that I don’t want a relationship with a member of the opposite sex (or the same for that matter). Relationships are simply too much work….you always have to answer to someone or for something. Friendships are fine as there are few expectations. Love and procreation (kids) is for young people. I’m not bitter….just satisfied. Attractive women are for attractive men that haven’t figured it out yet…..not afraid of being alone. Done care anymore. HAPPPY!
—DCA
This article appears in Nov 26 – Dec 2, 2009.
I think we’ve all felt like this at one point or another….
you’ll come round
Funny, it seems the moment people decide they don’t “need for” exactly what they “want for” walks through the door. Congrats OP you’re growing up
LOL. Go weak minded go!
Too true, Kay, unless the OP is just saying these things in the hopes that exactrly what you mentioned will happen. 🙂
On another note, relationships *should* be work, just not a full-time job.
On an unrelated note, Kay, it seems as though your posts are becoming less vitriolic and more thought out lately… everything OK? 🙂
gidget, you obviously haven’t seen the abduction post yet….
I do agree with kay on this one though, and have experienced it a few times, though was too focused on other things to notice until it was too late.
OP, keep your eyes and mind open whilst you focus your effort on other things…
you may miss it falling right in your lap.
LOL @ zZz – just did…
I hear ya, OP – I’m at that age that if I found myself alone again, I would rather pound my head on a landmine than ever have another relationship. After 30+ years of answering and caring for 2 hub-units, I’ve had it with the work involved in keeping a relationship going.
Thankfully, I like my own company and when I see women or men hook up rather than be alone, I honestly feel sorry for them. Like my dear ol’ Mam used to say: Better learn to entertain yourself than need someone to entertain you.
Whatever makes ya happy OP
If you’re happy being single, congrats!
If you find someone you can tolerate that makes ya happy, congrats!
TTFN: my mom tells me the same thing ALL the time — if she found herself single, she’d really have no desire to couple up again.
zZz: too fucking true, but it’s always the most obvious thing staring you in the face/falling in your lap that are the easiest to miss, unfortunately 🙁
Good for you OP! There is great satisfaction in steering one’s own ship without a co-pilot. I’ve pretty much come to the same conclusion about relationships as have several of my like-minded friends who have also stopped looking for a mate. Enjoying life without compromise has its own rewards. One of my married friends always says when you stop looking your ideal mate will find you but time and time again this has proven to be false advice…better to live live without cliches and set your own course.
Realizing that being alone and being lonely are too different things is liberating. All kinds of new and satisfying types of relationships open up to you.
Her place, my place, and get together when the mood hits.
Go find a friend with benefits and tell me which one is more complicated.
*sits next to Dino* Hello, friend….
I’m only 24, and also think that if I never, ever have another partner that it might not be so bad. There’s people in my family who have been single for years, decades even, and seem to be perfectly fine since they have enough other things going on in their lives to keep them busy.
You need sex though. Can’t not have sex. Thank God for alcohol and drugs!
Welcome…its really great here !
Alone but never lonely .
Yo, NGF….you’re starting to weird me out bro…
That’s b/c you drunk.
He does that to everyone with a vag, eventually, Dino.
wow, you get “weirded out” pretty fast…
Unhappy childhood did we?
Still haven’t forgiven Uncle Bob? Or Santa?
“”Hohoho, don’t touch Santa THERE, little girl…”
Toughen up dude
Hi, Mr. Frosty!
Silly little troll. The warm spot on the lawn misses you.
See Frosty, this is new! Could be satisfying. NGF and BMF (niceguyfriend for bimalefriend)?
When I first saw “BMF,” I thought it stood for “Bad Mother Fucker.” A PF reference.
Hey, what does “HKM” stand for, anyway?
Hacking kangaroo meat?
Healthy kid’s meal?
Happy kite massage?
her kooky majesty
halifax’s kinky ‘matrix
hello kitty’s mom…
hahaha = p
“always have to answer to someone”
That’s the problem right there. Everyone should have some independence Even if you are in a relationship, there should be some things you can ‘steer without a co-pilot’.
horney kinky mailman
happy killing monster
humble kosher mormon
hidden kind mermaid