Not only does it suck, but people do it so politely, as to think I’m really the one in the wrong. I don’t understand how i am coming off and I don’t feel like myself. I wish something nice would happen for once. Maybe for once I can get the job. AND maybe for once the guy will like me, and not some stupid bimbo blonde who gives head on the first date. I hate been rejected, it only validates the fact that trying is a useless waste of time. and I’m sick of people telling me everything will be alright, when clearly it isn’t, or it wasn’t meant to be. How the fuck do you know what is meant to be. I give up trying, for now I will stay anti-social, because people just aren’t worth the effort.
This article appears in Jan 31 – Feb 6, 2013.
You realize it all takes time right?
I’ve given up long ago. People play way too many games.
Awwwww, poor poor OB…..
Give me a break! Even The Captain’s outlook isn’t that bleak. Obviously nobody likes being rejected, that doesn’t make you special. Want something nice to happen to you? How about living in this country as opposed to Sri Lanka?
Practice some optimism maybe, it’s a very attractive trait.
Although, I do agree with your point about people trivializing the issue by dropping those cliche lines like they’re some sort of secret nub of wisdom that will automatically make everything better.
FYI: The Captain doesn’t go for blonde bimbos who put out on the first date……….
he knows they’re out of his league >;D
Wow – what negative vibes you’re sending out, OP – if you look like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, people will turn the other way before you can even make eye contact.
I spent much of my youth in a negative mindframe – what a fucking waste of my life that was. Don’t do this to yourself.
Rejection is awful, yes. However, it is a part of life. I’m sure that, somewhere along your journey through life, you have been guilty of rejecting another person too. I’m a firm believer that a positive attitude trumps everything. Even the most physically unattractive person can win people over with a killer personality. Insecurity and negativity can be detected a mile away, and nobody wants to be around that.
OB …. I know this may sound a bit off. But just stop trying .
I don’t mean crawl into a hole (or room ) & die. I mean just don’t bother trying to find a significant other. Fuck it, The problem with ‘looking for someone’ is there are 98% of the people out there know it & Are simply out to get that quick blow job/fuck & move on to the next conquest !
Since that ain’t you, stop wasting your energy on it & put it into other areas/interests in your life.
I ended up with an absolutely fabulous person completely by accident, it was just one of those moments & even though we went our seperate ways immediately after we meet & chatted for 5 minutes or so. When we next met , we both felt comfortable sitting together at a function where we both knew some of the participants but didn’t know each other & it blossomed from there.
As for the job, that’s something you can work on. THat’s a lot about you. Take what you can get. BUT don’t fall in to the rut of staying with it, if you want something else , use it as a stepping stone …. upgrade, advance your knowledge/education you will get there ….take it from an old guy . It takes time, but it is definately possible with hard work & determination , I went literally from the guy who loaded the truck & swept the floor to the guy in charge of the job, the hiring & firing & I own the company !
Keep your chin up ,best wishes. (but remember to watch out for those left hooks in life)
It’s those fuckin blondes I tell ya!
don’t listen to more…
DO crawl into a hole (or room ) & die.
At least you get the pleasure of deciding exactly how…
I feels ya… this could have been me zoning into a trance and submitting this.
I’ve got my exit strategy narrowed, just not finalized.
you’ve come along way mr more, i thought you might suggest a suicide booth^^
Furious, what about bottled blondes?? Lol!!
Jesus Christina ZzZ … Your glass isn’t even half empty. It’s smashed on the floor isn’t it?
OB, what’s your beef when the boss is a woman – that she’s lesbian?
Don’t be so hard on yourself Z, you’re my favorite poster on the comment boards if that helps any.
OB – nobody likes rejection but it’s still better to try and be rejected than to do nothing at all. I got out of a shitty relationship about 7 months ago and have been single since then and I feel great about it. It’s better to be single than in a bad relationship.
Don’t look at your downtime as a negative thing, use it to do things that make you happy, be a little selfish, put yourself first, take care of yourself. The more ‘no’s you hear, the better the ‘yes’ will be.
Why don’t you just give up(for now), go do your own thing, and let something happen(if it does).
You can’t control the circumstances, so stop being bitter. It drives away the good ones, and attracts the crazy ones.
STAY AWAY FROM THE CRAZY ONES.
Lighten up, go for a break. The world will be here when you feel better about yourself.
p.s. don’t let others dictate how you feel about yourself.
PisP
Painy …if it was ZzZ’s bitch …I probably woulda advised the booth ~;)
op, you really have to stop hanging all your hopes and dreams on *love*. it is not a magic pill that will make your life sunny and wonderful. having another person, intimate, in your life actually causes all sorts of stress and anxiety. all the compromises (no 2 people are going to be completely in sync 24/7) all the insecurity of what they are thinking, just the sheer volume of time it takes to interact with another personality. to be able to manage all that takes someone who is well adjusted and in emotional control of their own life. sure any two people in any emotional condition can have a relationship, but it won’t be pretty. do you want that? do you want any old relationship, full of strife, anxiety and heartache? no of course not! you want warmth and happiness and empathy and romance and cuddles. well love does not make that happen. love is not the fix. love flourishes when two reasonably reasonable people enter a relationship. one person cannot *love* another into emotional health. and you cannot suddenly become happy because you are *in love*. being *in love* is an emotional shot of cocaine. it doesn’t last and it has a helluva hangover. you cannot find a person, fall *in love* with them and suddenly and permanently become a solid person. indeed, being *in love* would likely bring out the worst of characteristics. jealousy, insecurity, possessiveness, game playing, setting emotional traps. because……you are still the same person. you have just added a whole pail full of other stuff to deal with. when people say you have to ‘love yourself’ first, you do. it’s real. and that does not mean 2 weeks of gritting your teeth and not talking about how badly you want and need someone to *love*. that does not mean you have worked on yourself, your emotional health, your self esteem. self analysis isn’t like a quickie diet to lose 5 pounds to fit into the prom dress. it is not a means to an end, it is the end. the longer you keep hoping for *love* to come along and rescue you, the longer you are putting off dealing with the inner you. and no dear, you cannot work on that sort of thing while in a relationship. 1. its not fair to the poor schmuck you are with and 2. it’s far too easy to transfer attention away from inner muck to outer schmuck.
lol brunette rage.
btw op people have a right not to want to be with you. I’m sick and fucking tired of average emos feeling entitled to speak as if they were tortured geniuses. The reality is that nobody wants to date a bummer and nobody is going to hire someone who blames all their problems on everyone else. You’re a bummer op. And when every facet of life appears to be someone else’s fault, the truth is YOU are the ONLY common denominator in those scenarios.
You have done this to yourself. Now smarten the fuck up and make an effort to be better instead of hating people who have what you want.
neva heard your sentiments before ..omg meh
People want what they can’t have, OB. Don’t give yourself away, be exclusive. The mystery will enhance the attraction.
“average emos feeling entitled to speak as if they were tortured geniuses” – heh heh, you make me laugh, crayons. That sounds like the Captains little brother. He had by far the easiest upbringing of any sibling, yet “woe is me” every time luck failed him.
The Captain is not a fan of the Emo crowd.
I suggest STOP sucking cock on the first date if you have more to offer a man than just a pretty mouth.
If you spend more time with a man with words coming out of your mouth instead of dick cumming in it, you’ll likely start realizing you need to step up and offer more.
everyone can be more than just “some stupid bimbo blonde who gives head on the first date.” You could be a positive intelligently interacting blonde who also gives head on the first date. there are plenty of options op. the choice is yours on how best to present yourself.
hrnet how do you know all these specifics. wow you presume a whole lot.
I’ll just say it’s been a particularly bad week.
I just can’t wait for it to be over….