Would you tear a strip off of your partner if he had to wait in the car for about twenty minutes while you were in a clothing store waiting to to have your clothing pieces rung in BUT there was ONE ITEM that would not RING IN RIGHT so it took about twenty minutes to have it rung in right. I even sent one of the sales associates out to tell him that the delay was not my fault. I knew that when I got in the car he was going to yell at me and swear. He told me that I never should have waited that long to have some clothes being priced. You see, I haven’t bought myself very much clothes in the last fifteen years and this specialty store had an excellent sale on spring jackets almost eighty percent off and I did not want to leave the store and lose out on this amazing deal just because my partner could not sit in the car a little longer than usual. In the past I waited in the scorching hot sun with high humidity for over forty minutes and he just said that his conversation lasted longer than usual. You see in general I never get a chance to voice my opinion or thoughts which is my BITCH I do not think is right. I hope that all you guys out there have a nice day and a nice life. —Thank You For Reading My Bitch
This article appears in Feb 9-15, 2012.
jesus, leave him already!
Oh dear…. Read that back and pretend you are reading someone else’s bitch and I hope it becomes clear that you need to leave him. Good luck!
He is a douchebag. Please break up. Its for the better, believe me.
Good lord, grow a spine and get a new life. How many times in that 15 year period have you thought, “maybe this guy’s a bit of an asshole”?
Shake you out, sweep some dirt under you…
Because you, my friend, are a doormat.
You sound fearful of this explosive rageful person like you’re an abused woman. You don’t need a black eye and broken bones to be abused. You ACTUALLY sent a store clerk out to console him? You must have felt like a fool doing that. This man is using control and fear and maybe your dependence against you and he’s a verbally abusive asshole. DTMFA! It may mean walking or being single (GASP!) but atleast you have your sanity.
Keep calm & carry on!
You have been verbally beaten into submission. That is no life to live. You only live once. Get out.
“Would you tear a strip off of your partner if he had to wait in the car for about twenty minutes while you were in a clothing store waiting to to have your clothing pieces rung in…”
why would I yell at him for waiting in the car?
If anything, he should be the pissed off one…
and it sounds like he was.
Quite a shame he has no tact and didn’t realize that if he didn’t want to wait, he could get to fuckin’ stepping. Or was he somehow ‘Locked’ INSIDE the car?
You know, in the workplace we have anti-bullying and fair treatment? ………. at home this should be the norm …….. DTMFA
Girl, you go out as often as you wish for as long as you like and spend his goddamn money on you……. feeding, cleaning, fucking, and perhaps sucking his dick is worth a helluva lot more than most CEO’s make …. you earned it and the only time you get a vacation is when he goes out with the boys ………
Send that man-prick over to my house when he is in the mood to scream and I can guarantee you they wouldn’t find the body until after I pass on and the new owners excavated the property.
Sounds like you’re dating your parole officer …
Get out, run, don’t look back, save yourself while you still can. It’s only going to get worse if you stay.
If you can’t work up the courage and tell yourself you’re worth more than a life with this guy, you deserve him, and might as well stick with him cuz he’s the best you’re gonna do. I hope that’s not the case.
wouldn’t be me waiting, i would be home asleep, in bed or where ever.
I really hope my feeling that this is a troll bitch is correct.
Instead of asking why he treats you this way. Start asking yourself why you are putting up with it.
Obviously like most men he hates shopping and/or waiting. What should have done was give him a toonie to go to Tim’s and occupy him or better yet go shopping alone.
I have no patience for shopping and tell the other to just go shopping, I’ll stay home or do something else.
wow. You’re in an abusive relationship. Or at the very least, married to a complete douche. Why are you even bothering to ask why he does this? You’ve been with him for 15 years. And he’s probably been like this for the entire 15. Why? Because he’s an abuser and you’re enabling him by putting up with it. Why doesn’t he change? Because he doesn’t have to! Why would you change shitty behaviour when someone like you keeps allowing it?
Leave already. Or tell him to fuck off which actually might work.
If OB were truly in the kind of abusive relationship we’re imagining, I suspect that OB would not be waiting the 20 minutes _or_ asking any shop staff to go out to advise OB’s hubby of anything. OB would be out of there within five minutes, if OB was allowed in there at all.
Look, I suspect any such post where somehow the one being abused is, in turn, ill-treating anyone else. It reeks of one sucky person bitching about another. Nobody’d want to be around either, but at least the guy sitting and grousing in the car’s not making everyone else’s life difficult.
OB, if this is just one example of what is the norm in your life with him, you need to leave. If you’ve attempted to have discussion after discussion about how he treats you needing to change and he always blames it on you or only changes for a few days or a week, you need to leave. If he can stand and have an argument with himself even if you say nothing, you need to leave. If you don’t bother to tell your family and friends how he treats you because you know just what they’ll say and don’t want to explain yourself over and over, you need to leave. If he regularly puts others down behind their back because they don’t make the choices he would make, you need to leave. If the way he acts around others makes you want to vomit because you see how fake it is, you need to leave. I’ve been where you are. Spending time waiting for him to change or trying to fix him is time ill spent and time you’ll never get back.
Volunteering for Doormat Duty isn’t ABUSE, for corns sake.
Tell him to get bent or get out. You weren’t in the wrong OB. Don’t make yourself feel bad fpr someone else’s inability to he a good partner.
Good luck!
Wp
Wheelie, I don’t completely disagree with what you say … but leaving isn’t always as easy as some might think. When living in that situation, you’re not exactly in the state of mind to make a decision that everyone else sees as the best one or the logical one. Even when you know that leaving is the right thing to do, sometimes you just don’t know how. I realize that won’t make sense to a lot of people … unless they’ve been there. So, volunteering for doormat duty … perhaps … but it’s still and abusive situation.
Then she should tell him to treat her better, Perservere. I think leaving just because someone sits in the car huffing and puffing while you deal with something out of your circumstances is as reasonable as throwing around a word like “abuse” for what is just dickish behaviour.
Until I hear more info about emotional/physical(or “actual abuse”), I’m not getting too riled up over this one. Hubby’s a cad, but she’s probably human too and does stuff to bug him.
In my opinion, of course.
Thanks for writing back!
Wp
I do agree Wheelie … but there are hints in the bitch that would say there is more to it than this specific situation. That’s why if this is a norm in OBs life and not an exception … and if she has brought it up with him and it doesn’t change … she shouldn’t spend more time waiting for it to miraculously get better. Emotional abuse can take many forms and isn’t always blatantly obvious, which … in my experience … makes it difficult for others, and sometimes the person on the receiving end, to see, accept and understand.
Leave your partner already!!!! Or, get a car and drive yourself to the mall. Why does he have to wait? He better be good in bed because there is no reason to take any #$%* from him.
This guy is poison, you must understand that OP. This kind of controlling nutjob is very dangerous. You’ve been married 15 years and you rarely get the chance to buy clothes. You also say this bitch is one of the only ways to voice your opinion. Not good.
I would suggest you have a conversation with a counselor versed in volatile domestic situations and get their input.
seems fake.