I’m a virgin. I’m a virgin. I’m a virgin! I’m not ashamed of it. Being still young, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to still be one. I just haven’t found someone with whom I’m comfortable. There’s no issue with admitting it if asked. I’ve never lied or pretended to know things I didn’t know. However, you think that it’s ok to just, you know, let everyone (even people I’ve just met) in on the fact that I’m a virgin. We were playing drinking games and because it’s you, they’re sexual. Ok, fine. This was what, our second drink of the night? You weren’t drunk, but insisted I drink from a penis straw. I said “No, that’s ok,” to which you shouted out “Oh yeah! I forgot you’re a virgin!” This isn’t the first time you’ve done this. Little comments like “I just don’t know how you can do it for so long with no sex blah blah blah.” I just consider some things personal, and this is one of them. Furthermore you never asked me, just assumed and I’ve never told you otherwise. Don’t put my personal business out there. The second day we knew you were dating your new guy, you told us “oh my God! He’s a virgin! Didn’t know those still existed!” I don’t need to know that…I should put your shit on blast! God knows I have enough to say about you. You ragged on another friend who chose to lose her v-card to a guy she met at a bar one night. Said “I’d want it to be special, so disgusting, I don’t know why she did that, etc.” Who cares. I could just tell her about all your escapades which have been, by your own admission “crazy” and “bad.” You know, you gotta stop telling me these things! You’re just giving me ammunition and one day when you say something I might snap. But I’m not going to put your shit on blast because despite all you’ve divulged, it’s not my place to tell your “secrets.” This is anonymous and I can vent! I’ll keep your business private, keep my lack of sex life to yourself! —Beyond annoyed
This article appears in Jul 10-16, 2014.
A lack of a sex life, let alone being an adult virgin, is JUICY gossip!
Sounds like you need to drop this ‘friend’ OP.
Yeah, I remember when I was young and still a virgin – I had a friend who constantly used the fact that she wasn’t (and had slept with LITERALLY 20+ guys by the time she was 18) as some sort of advantage or hold over me. We’d go to parties and she’d get drunk and message all her randoms and ask if any of them wanted to de-virginize me and finally, I had to just not hang out with her.
I think she was just insecure, though, because after I did lose my virginity, she started implying that i was a slut (which was hilarious because I had only slept with one guy up until that point, and it wasn’t like he was a random, either).
“Friends” like this aren’t friends, OB. If and when you do start having sex, she’ll find something else to rag on you about.
this person sounds like a shitty person to hang out with. i’d drop them instantly. your sexual life is no one’s business except maybe any partners you end up having.. . also this emphasis on whether someone is a virgin or not is soo dumb and needs to end. sexuality is more complicated and interesting than that. fuck that person .
I have to say koodos to you, young man, for your strong morals. In a country where a good 80% of the population are HPV carriers – smart to hold tight and be selective. And also koodos to all the asexuals out there who do it like a plant. You is strong and independant – what leaders are made of! Da bitch clique gonn’ give you hail tho for using the term “v-card”.
no_fool, i don’t know if this is a male or not. but why assume so. if this is a female, then she hasn’t been with moi, and that would be her lament.
You go! I say you should lose it when your good and ready, with someone you have deep feelings for.. I say you have so much more POWER than your “friend” who clearly just gives theirs away to others. Although its hard, try not to let others actions affect your life. Personally I have no clue why you would want to hang out with this person.. I think friends give each other respect and this person is not respecting you in the slightest.. If its because you don’t have a ton of friends, or this person is friends with your friends there is always changes you can make to fix that! I have to say tho.. your ability to give this person enough respect to not spill their dirty secrets shows what a strong moral code you have and I think that’s beautiful.
This was posted on Thursday so you know that OB’s horny friend popped her new guy’s cherry already.