I hesitated and lost out on the one chance you gave me. Still waiting to cash in the IOU to the promised land, where sky is a gorgeous blue, the waters are a light teal and the warm air wraps my body as I prayed you would…We both made our mistakes. One mistake I promise I would never ever make again is turn you down when you ask me to go away with you.
Your social standing is such I could never reach your heights. Those thoughts are responsible for my losing out on the trip of my lifetime. You are too good for me. Why you even asked me to go with you baffled me. I am sure of one thing, which is my feelings for you. —Promise No Jokes This Time
This article appears in Mar 14-20, 2013.
There’s nothing sexier than an inferior complex.
Hey OP, maybe your person sees something in you that you have trouble seeing in yourself. Maybe s/he really is as cool as you say and just doesn’t care about ridiculous constructs like “status”/”social standing”.
You should talk to your person, OP, instead of just posting on this anonymous blog site. If s/he is really the right-on person you say, then s/he would probably welcome your contact and a direct conversation. And s/he probably DOESN’T think you are inferior if s/he wanted your company for some super special fun.
Sounds to me like it’s time to bite the bullet, OP. Lose the unnecessary anxiety, take a deep breath, and move forward…for what it’s worth, my money is on a positive outcome for you and for your person too:)
As a pessimistic person myself(burnt too many times by different people) I would suggest OP be careful of heartbreak if you do contact her/him to have a direct conversation about your feelings. OP i realize I may sound I’m trying to frighten you away from a possible love,by warning you to be wary of contacting the person you wrote of.It is not my intent to force my fear of rejection on to you,OP. I’m all too aware of how lonely this world can be.
OP SheSang is a very smart cookie, she gives great advice.
Once burnt; twice shy.No matter how badly you miss him/her.
SheSang Just question on OP’s behalf;Perhaps s/he should contact OP?That’s ‘IF ‘s/he is still interested in OP?
Life is too confusing.Simple is better..a lot better.
Hey LICTOAP/B, sounds like you have some inside info on these two;). If so, then I think you would have the better advice to give (seriously)…..
Again, for what it’s worth: if OP really believes that social status matters to their person, then I would tell OP this:
Take a deep breath, lose the unnecessary anxiety, and move forward–and my money would still be on a positive outcome, for OP;)
SheSang lackingimaginationcan’tthinkofaproname is me Boru1014.I certainly didn’t mean to cut your grass;you gave great advice like always(I have a great amount of respect for you.I wouldn’t have said it if I didn’t mean it).
Just giving OP a little advice to proceed with caution although she may want to run with her heart in hands toward the guy she cares for
The same kind of thing happened to me before xmas . I ended up heartbroken, lost a friend and a lot more.All as the result of admitting to a friend that I fell hard for him.
Just trying to help OP or anyone by telling parts of my story.Anyone can read and take or leave whatever helps them.Even to help anyone(?) better understand me.
I would take that leap again.He was/is worth getting my heartbroken for.
Shesang “Hey LICTOAP/B, sounds like you have some inside info on these two;).”
I just realized you knew it was me. 🙂
I may be OP .It’s too late for me to begin worrying about what others think of my in/sanity.I’m trying to do damage control to my heart.I fear being baited;I don’t mean to offend you SheSang but something my sister told me about Boards like this one, continues to pop into my mind.I do want to be happy almost more than anything. 🙁
Shesang is a wise lady!
The thing is, though, sometimes you try and they just don’t get it. They end up misconstruing things and even though you’re like ‘haaaay let’s get some coffee [or whatever]’ they think you just want to be friends.
Coupling is SUCH a confusing process at the onset, and some of us are not willing to get emotionally vaulnerable with someone who could crush our hearts so easily.
Spoken like a true aquarian, I guess! I like a boy, but won’t ever admit it to him ever ever ever! *sadface*
The person I have feelings for doesn’t know how much he means to me.
Times have changed a little in our lives so I don’t understand why he can’t contact me directly, if he still cares about me or just wants to talk.I’ve lost contact with him so I don’t know how to contact him anymore. 🙁
Life goes on.
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Yes life goes on.
REALLY?
Whatever your standing in life and whomever designed the clothes on one’s back;if you don’t have a loving family to return home to and loyal friends you might as well be poor.
All I ever wanted out of life was a happy family life.I always said I could live in a tared paper shack, under a bridge as long as I have love, happiness shared with a healthy family to live with.
Sure it may sound corny to some but if you never had those things in your life they can mean the world. *tears* 🙁
Maybe talking to a real person, trained in these matters is a better option that a message board designed to complain/flirt with people.
And yes, life goes on.
When every Bitch or Love becomes a projection of all the things you see as being wrong with your life, and is a source of pain, maybe you need other “help”.
P **Understood.**
I’m not going to try to defend myself because I know your right.
Certain comments are directed at a specific parson who is also on this site.Who through a third person tells me he cares for me but obviously to me now, he does not.He is hiding behind his persona’s waiting until I self destruct.
I know I risk ridicule because of my last comment.
You can’t control peoples’ thoughts/reactions. Once I figured this out, I stopped caring what others thought pretty much.
Not to keep lecturing, but you just told this person how to fuck with you. Don’t feel like you have to tell us “I was joking”, or “I know I risk ridicule”.
Fuck it. Say what you are going to say and let go. Or don’t give everything away. Some people find watching someone lose it with anxiety tiring. You obviously cant control others’ reactions etc, but you can limit the ammunition they have access to.
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Woah, there’s two Pauls now? Je suis trés confused.